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Posted: 10 November 2010 at 2:24pm |
We found out with DD because i had a feeling i was having a girl. Where as DP just assumed he would have a boy because he wanted a boy. I mainly found out because i thought DP needed time to adjust knowing that he was having a girl lol.
I know that sounds bad but he comes from a family of all boys, his dad has all boys too etc.
This time i am still undecided if we will find out. I guess we will decide on the day of the scan. It would be nice to keep it a surprise but we also need to think practically, we would need to sell all girls clothes to buy new boys clothes and if i had to do this with a newborn & a toddler running on no sleep it could be a pain lol
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Posted: 10 November 2010 at 2:30pm |
Found out first 2 times cos we wanted to, simple as that lol
Next time(whenever that may be!) will be a suprise! We are not finding out, also going to keep babies actual due date a suprise(elective CS).
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Posted: 10 November 2010 at 3:45pm |
We found out with DS because I couldn't wait til the End without knowing and I was nearly 100% sure we are having a Girl so it was good to get my head around it that we are having a Boy.
I would find out with #2 as well at this stage but who knows in 2 years I may have a surprise Baby  .
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Posted: 10 November 2010 at 4:47pm |
found out all three times and don't regret it at all, I have no patience for one thing.
I find it amusing when people say that its not "as special " when it isn't a surprise,from someone thats had no surprises with the gender, its still pretty special
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Posted: 10 November 2010 at 5:21pm |
TheKelly wrote:
found out all three times and don't regret it at all, I have no patience for one thing.
I find it amusing when people say that its not "as special " when it isn't a surprise,from someone thats had no surprises with the gender, its still pretty special |
Agreed!
I found out with my 3 as well, mostly due to impatience  And when each bub was born their gender was the last thing on my mind. I thought about not finding out with Caleb, but when the sonographer asked if I wanted to know, I couldn't say no  Also we decorated the nursery in green (when preggy with Ollie) so gender neutral anyway as we were always going to have more than one bub.
Do what works for you, if you want to find out then go ahead. If your family member doesn't like it, well, too bad! It's your baby!
Congrats on your pregnancy
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Posted: 10 November 2010 at 5:57pm |
Its such a personal choice... and there is no right or wrong way to do it...
We found out, both DH and I couldnt wait to know and when those who are in the 'dont find out camp' say its such a nice surprise well it is still an awesome surprise at 20 weeks when you find out, maybe not as much anticipation but we were both still in tears when the sonographer said 'theres your little princess'
It does obviously make some aspects of getting organised easier but thats not even a tiny part of why I wanted to find out - even though I am an organisation freak!
Also we have told anyone who asks what we are having but only in the last few weeks told close family what her name is going to be...
I dont know if I have bonded anymore than if we hadnt found out but I do get a kick out of referring to the baby as she or little madam!!
And dont worry about what anyone else says, you will soon realise that EVERYONE, even strangers, will have an opinion about what you do when it comes to your pregnancy and your baby
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Posted: 10 November 2010 at 8:57pm |
We really couldn't make up our minds, even at the scan. In the end, the scan-man said he would write it down on a piece of paper and put it in a sealed envelope so if wanted to we could find out later.
DH ended up carrying the sealed envelope around in his jacket pocket as his 'to carry' as i was actually carrying the baby.
In the end i ended up putting the envelope through the wash when i did DH's jacket! It still looked readable so i put it in a draw and forgot about it till after DD was born.
I then opened it, thinking it would be hysterical if he had got it wrong and written 'son' on the paper, but it said 'congratulations - it's a girl!"
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Posted: 10 November 2010 at 8:58pm |
Oh - and we wont be finding out with this one, and no envelope shenanigans this time either!
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Posted: 10 November 2010 at 9:38pm |
We are finding out - we can't wait till the end to know.
But I don't think it ruins the surprise it just brings it forward and then makes all the planning and buying easier.
Just as long as you are happy with your choice that is all that matters - don't worry about what other people say....
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Posted: 11 November 2010 at 8:13am |
This is my 1st Pregnancy and we found out our little bump was growing a girl :)
Everyones already said it, but they way I feel is Pregnancy as a whole is suprise enough for me!
Whether it be at 20 or 40 weeks its still a blessing either way!
Plus all my friends begged me to find out so they could buy either pink or blue hehe
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Posted: 11 November 2010 at 1:07pm |
I am having a surprise and an getting really excited about finding out as it gets closer and closer...I really loved it last time when my husband told me that we had a son it just felt magical for me...As for getting stuff i just got a few white new born all in ones some had little pictures on as with my family i knew i would get heaps of colour coded stuff once baby arrived and with the nursery i have found a lovely unisex theme that i would have chosen even if i did find out ...
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Posted: 11 November 2010 at 1:54pm |
Ahhh now I'm even more confused than I already was lol! With DD we wanted a surprise at first, but as it got closer to scan time I REALLLLLY wanted to find out, so in the end we did! And it was great knowing because I could talk to her and we could call her by her name (that we'd already picked out hehe). But we decided we wanted a surprise this time, but have since changed our minds again lol, but now after reading this thread I think maybe I do want a surprise afterall! Maybe I just shouldn't have a scan then I won't have to worry about it  (my MW is anti-scans so that wouldn't be hard) although I do want to make sure bubs is all healthy so probably will have a scan, which means we probably will find out  haha confusing
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Posted: 11 November 2010 at 1:56pm |
Ours was a surprise, I figure that if cave men didnt have sonogrpahers to tell you what it is, then why should we? (of course they are good for finding issues, just not the gender). It was great, DD was a 'emergency' c-sect and I demanded that DF was the one to tell me what we had, all the theatre staff where silent- it was the best moment when he turned to me with tears in his eyes and said 'its a girl"
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Posted: 11 November 2010 at 2:22pm |
Well, imo if we live in an age where we can find out if you want to,then why not.,...and as I said, was still special when they were born, even tho we knew what Ty was, its a personal decision.
Rachel,if you tell the sonographer you don't want to know they are pretty good at not showing you the goods, unless your baby is not shy of course ...
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Posted: 11 November 2010 at 3:34pm |
I couldnt decide, but was on the "dont find out" camp until my scan when the literal first thing i saw was boy parts - the sonnogramer was very apologetic and said they normally try to avoid that area so no one gets spoiled but as it happened when the wand touched my stomach he has head down legs apart so it was straight in there.
Now i know though, im really pleased i did find out - i really wanted a boy, so i convinced myself i wouldnt be that lucky and i would be having a girl, and had girls names picked etc so was good to find out it was, in fact, a boy!
Also, i went straight from the scan to baby city and had great fun picking up little boys things
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My friend didnt find out and she said the best part of the whole labour was her son being born and her saying its a girl! and her partner saying no honey, thats a boy.
If people are only excited to find out what sex it is then....what? Who is excited about finding out the sex - they should be excited that you've had a baby!
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Posted: 11 November 2010 at 3:51pm |
it is personal choice for sure!
I wanted to know so if having a boy I could "come round" to the idea (have 2 stepsons, so was hoping for a girl). Yay it is a girl!
We were planning to not tell anyone (so it is more of a surprise for the family when she is born) but once we found out it was a girl only kept it a secret for 2 days cuz was so excited hehe! So you can always change your mind later....
I personally love knowing, is nice to think of names and all that sort of stuff - and buy the first pink dress hehe!
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Posted: 12 November 2010 at 8:32am |
Man, if i didnt know i had a boy cooking i would have brought at least one (or five) of those cute little dresses pumpkin patch and farmers has going at the moment. I wouldnt be able to help myself - i'd have to 'just in case'.
It also has given my ex good bragging rights - that his first born is a boy - not that it matters to most other people, but apparently he is Henry VIII.
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Posted: 12 November 2010 at 12:37pm |
...Lol, Henry VIII first two were girls ....ha, men.
With Ty we had no choice but to find out anyway,that was the first image on the screen , the legs wiiiiiiide open,even Caitlyn who was 6 at the time was like "oh,its a boy ....great"
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