New Posts New Posts RSS Feed - Finding out the gender - yes or no?
  FAQ FAQ  Forum Search   Events   Register Register  Login Login


Forum LockedFinding out the gender - yes or no?

 Post Reply Post Reply Page  <12
Author
_SMS_ View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 11 March 2009
Points: 2251
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote _SMS_ Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 10 November 2010 at 2:24pm
We found out with DD because i had a feeling i was having a girl. Where as DP just assumed he would have a boy because he wanted a boy. I mainly found out because i thought DP needed time to adjust knowing that he was having a girl lol.

I know that sounds bad but he comes from a family of all boys, his dad has all boys too etc.

This time i am still undecided if we will find out. I guess we will decide on the day of the scan. It would be nice to keep it a surprise but we also need to think practically, we would need to sell all girls clothes to buy new boys clothes and if i had to do this with a newborn & a toddler running on no sleep it could be a pain lol
Back to Top
Sponsored Links


Back to Top
Shezamumof3 View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member


Joined: 14 April 2007
Points: 10096
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote Shezamumof3 Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 10 November 2010 at 2:30pm
Found out first 2 times cos we wanted to, simple as that lol

Next time(whenever that may be!) will be a suprise! We are not finding out, also going to keep babies actual due date a suprise(elective CS).

Back to Top
Bee2010 View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 01 August 2009
Location: Katikati
Points: 494
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote Bee2010 Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 10 November 2010 at 3:45pm
We found out with DS because I couldn't wait til the End without knowing and I was nearly 100% sure we are having a Girl so it was good to get my head around it that we are having a Boy.
I would find out with #2 as well at this stage but who knows in 2 years I may have a surprise Baby .



Angel Babe in our - 07/08
Back to Top
TheKelly View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 30 March 2010
Points: 12728
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote TheKelly Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 10 November 2010 at 4:47pm
found out all three times and don't regret it at all, I have no patience for one thing.
I find it amusing when people say that its not "as special " when it isn't a surprise,from someone thats had no surprises with the gender, its still pretty special





Back to Top
EmDee View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 01 January 1900
Location: Waikato
Points: 4407
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote EmDee Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 10 November 2010 at 5:21pm
Originally posted by TheKelly TheKelly wrote:

found out all three times and don't regret it at all, I have no patience for one thing.
I find it amusing when people say that its not "as special " when it isn't a surprise,from someone thats had no surprises with the gender, its still pretty special


Agreed!

I found out with my 3 as well, mostly due to impatience And when each bub was born their gender was the last thing on my mind. I thought about not finding out with Caleb, but when the sonographer asked if I wanted to know, I couldn't say no Also we decorated the nursery in green (when preggy with Ollie) so gender neutral anyway as we were always going to have more than one bub.

Do what works for you, if you want to find out then go ahead. If your family member doesn't like it, well, too bad! It's your baby!

Congrats on your pregnancy
DS 8
DD 6
DS 4
DD 2
Back to Top
sbeach View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 17 July 2009
Location: Auckland
Points: 622
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote sbeach Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 10 November 2010 at 5:57pm
Its such a personal choice... and there is no right or wrong way to do it...

We found out, both DH and I couldnt wait to know and when those who are in the 'dont find out camp' say its such a nice surprise well it is still an awesome surprise at 20 weeks when you find out, maybe not as much anticipation but we were both still in tears when the sonographer said 'theres your little princess'

It does obviously make some aspects of getting organised easier but thats not even a tiny part of why I wanted to find out - even though I am an organisation freak!

Also we have told anyone who asks what we are having but only in the last few weeks told close family what her name is going to be...

I dont know if I have bonded anymore than if we hadnt found out but I do get a kick out of referring to the baby as she or little madam!!

And dont worry about what anyone else says, you will soon realise that EVERYONE, even strangers, will have an opinion about what you do when it comes to your pregnancy and your baby

Back to Top
catisla View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 17 February 2008
Points: 2604
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote catisla Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 10 November 2010 at 8:57pm
We really couldn't make up our minds, even at the scan. In the end, the scan-man said he would write it down on a piece of paper and put it in a sealed envelope so if wanted to we could find out later.

DH ended up carrying the sealed envelope around in his jacket pocket as his 'to carry' as i was actually carrying the baby.

In the end i ended up putting the envelope through the wash when i did DH's jacket! It still looked readable so i put it in a draw and forgot about it till after DD was born.

I then opened it, thinking it would be hysterical if he had got it wrong and written 'son' on the paper, but it said 'congratulations - it's a girl!"

Back to Top
catisla View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 17 February 2008
Points: 2604
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote catisla Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 10 November 2010 at 8:58pm
Oh - and we wont be finding out with this one, and no envelope shenanigans this time either!

Back to Top
Aroha11 View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member


Joined: 09 October 2010
Points: 630
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote Aroha11 Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 10 November 2010 at 9:38pm
We are finding out - we can't wait till the end to know.

But I don't think it ruins the surprise it just brings it forward and then makes all the planning and buying easier.

Just as long as you are happy with your choice that is all that matters - don't worry about what other people say....
Back to Top
NewMummyJade View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 11 October 2010
Location: West Auckland
Points: 476
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote NewMummyJade Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 11 November 2010 at 8:13am
This is my 1st Pregnancy and we found out our little bump was growing a girl :)

Everyones already said it, but they way I feel is Pregnancy as a whole is suprise enough for me!

Whether it be at 20 or 40 weeks its still a blessing either way!

Plus all my friends begged me to find out so they could buy either pink or blue hehe

Back to Top
sweetknights View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 30 September 2010
Location: Dunedin
Points: 550
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote sweetknights Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 11 November 2010 at 1:07pm
I am having a surprise and an getting really excited about finding out as it gets closer and closer...I really loved it last time when my husband told me that we had a son it just felt magical for me...As for getting stuff i just got a few white new born all in ones some had little pictures on as with my family i knew i would get heaps of colour coded stuff once baby arrived and with the nursery i have found a lovely unisex theme that i would have chosen even if i did find out ...
Back to Top
rachelsea View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 16 February 2008
Location: Lower Hutt
Points: 3797
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote rachelsea Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 11 November 2010 at 1:54pm
Ahhh now I'm even more confused than I already was lol! With DD we wanted a surprise at first, but as it got closer to scan time I REALLLLLY wanted to find out, so in the end we did! And it was great knowing because I could talk to her and we could call her by her name (that we'd already picked out hehe). But we decided we wanted a surprise this time, but have since changed our minds again lol, but now after reading this thread I think maybe I do want a surprise afterall! Maybe I just shouldn't have a scan then I won't have to worry about it (my MW is anti-scans so that wouldn't be hard) although I do want to make sure bubs is all healthy so probably will have a scan, which means we probably will find out haha confusing
DD 4yrs
DS 2yrs

Back to Top
Nothing View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 05 June 2009
Location: Nelson
Points: 1470
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote Nothing Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 11 November 2010 at 1:56pm
Ours was a surprise, I figure that if cave men didnt have sonogrpahers to tell you what it is, then why should we? (of course they are good for finding issues, just not the gender). It was great, DD was a 'emergency' c-sect and I demanded that DF was the one to tell me what we had, all the theatre staff where silent- it was the best moment when he turned to me with tears in his eyes and said 'its a girl"

Back to Top
TheKelly View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 30 March 2010
Points: 12728
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote TheKelly Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 11 November 2010 at 2:22pm
Well, imo if we live in an age where we can find out if you want to,then why not.,...and as I said, was still special when they were born, even tho we knew what Ty was, its a personal decision.

Rachel,if you tell the sonographer you don't want to know they are pretty good at not showing you the goods, unless your baby is not shy of course ...





Back to Top
Plushie View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 21 May 2008
Points: 3796
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote Plushie Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 11 November 2010 at 3:34pm
I couldnt decide, but was on the "dont find out" camp until my scan when the literal first thing i saw was boy parts - the sonnogramer was very apologetic and said they normally try to avoid that area so no one gets spoiled but as it happened when the wand touched my stomach he has head down legs apart so it was straight in there.

Now i know though, im really pleased i did find out - i really wanted a boy, so i convinced myself i wouldnt be that lucky and i would be having a girl, and had girls names picked etc so was good to find out it was, in fact, a boy!

Also, i went straight from the scan to baby city and had great fun picking up little boys things

--

My friend didnt find out and she said the best part of the whole labour was her son being born and her saying its a girl! and her partner saying no honey, thats a boy.

If people are only excited to find out what sex it is then....what? Who is excited about finding out the sex - they should be excited that you've had a baby!
Back to Top
CJsays View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 08 June 2010
Points: 1683
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote CJsays Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 11 November 2010 at 3:51pm
it is personal choice for sure!
I wanted to know so if having a boy I could "come round" to the idea (have 2 stepsons, so was hoping for a girl). Yay it is a girl!
We were planning to not tell anyone (so it is more of a surprise for the family when she is born) but once we found out it was a girl only kept it a secret for 2 days cuz was so excited hehe! So you can always change your mind later....
I personally love knowing, is nice to think of names and all that sort of stuff - and buy the first pink dress hehe!
Back to Top
Plushie View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 21 May 2008
Points: 3796
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote Plushie Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 12 November 2010 at 8:32am
Man, if i didnt know i had a boy cooking i would have brought at least one (or five) of those cute little dresses pumpkin patch and farmers has going at the moment. I wouldnt be able to help myself - i'd have to 'just in case'.

It also has given my ex good bragging rights - that his first born is a boy - not that it matters to most other people, but apparently he is Henry VIII.
Back to Top
TheKelly View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 30 March 2010
Points: 12728
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote TheKelly Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 12 November 2010 at 12:37pm
...Lol, Henry VIII first two were girls ....ha, men.

With Ty we had no choice but to find out anyway,that was the first image on the screen , the legs wiiiiiiide open,even Caitlyn who was 6 at the time was like "oh,its a boy ....great"





Back to Top
 Post Reply Post Reply Page  <12

Forum Jump Forum Permissions View Drop Down

Forum Software by Web Wiz Forums® version 12.05
Copyright ©2001-2022 Web Wiz Ltd.

This page was generated in 0.609 seconds.