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Jelly 
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Posted: 31 July 2011 at 12:08pm |
Or just being a pain in the arse?
My little man has recently become a little monster when it comes to changing his clothes. He's perfectly fine once he's wearing them, but every single night there is a battle to get him into his pjs and then again every morning to get him dressed for the day.
He's almost as bad when I change his nappy. I lie him down on the change mat and the crying starts immediately and doesn't stop until I let him go.
That's bad enough, but try to change his top and he screams louder, thrashes harder and sometimes I wonder if I'm going to have cops and social workers turn up on my doorstep one day 
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james
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Posted: 31 July 2011 at 12:20pm |
sounds like he is pushing the boundreis keep getting him dressed maybe try to warn him like give him 5 mins wraning of getting dressed time and if that dont work just dress him anyway he will get over it 
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Posted: 31 July 2011 at 12:26pm |
Yeah DD does this when im getting her into her PJ's, I get everything ready first and within arms reach then do the super fast mum dressing and its over in about a minute. Once im finished DD is fine 
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Posted: 31 July 2011 at 12:56pm |
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DS is 18months and and he has been hideous to dress for a while. We have resorted to buying disposable nappy pants as battling to get his cloth nappys done at each nappy change was doing my head it! Was the same with DD too- she was in cloth til 18months then became too much of a battle trying to get her to lie still that we went to pullups!
Definatly pushing boundaries!! Im too soft. DH is firmer- when I was away recently for a night, he put DS in the naughty corner when he was screaming/death rolling while DH was trying to dress him after his bath- he eventually lay down and let hi, dress him, now hes pretyty good- he lies down and holds a book and as long as well distract him a bit and read the book of talk about a toy etc hes ok - massive improvement!
DS will not let us put him in highchair either now- he kids a little stool- drags it over, and climbs up into the highchair himself and is so proud of himself, lol! They are just exerting their independance!
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Posted: 04 August 2011 at 1:07am |
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DS (14 months) is exactly the same!!! He also wriggles and squirms away from me so I have to chase him around the bedroom to get all his clothes on! Can't wait for summer when he can wear less. He's been like this for AGES and it started with nightmare nappy changes. Have to say that it has probably gotten a lot better and we have some dressing sessions with minimal crying but then other days it's a full on screaming match from start to finish. I just sing songs and get on with it - I've gotta put clothes on his bod so he's just gonna have to grin and bear it (and me too)!!
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Posted: 04 August 2011 at 1:51pm |
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When my son won't do a nappy change or getting dressed I just say ' well we're not doing anything else til you're dressed' and walk away from him. Sometimes if he's being really difficult I put him in his cot. Then every time he wants something or asks to get out his cot I say ' not til you're dressed' and eventually... sometimes quite quickly he decides it is worth getting dressed after all. I don't get cross I just make it clear I'm not messing around and I'm not playing chase, in fact I'll have nothing to do with him til he does what I ask. Probably depends on the personality of your child but this has worked for me... most of the time!
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Posted: 04 August 2011 at 3:24pm |
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Just an idea, but have you tried explaining what you are doing as you do it, and trying to get him involved in helping? I know Lexie had a point where it was bedlam and I would rush through it and I think that made it worse. When I went to space through playcentre we did a wee exercise where we had to put another persons jersey on them as fast as we could... you should try it, not a comfortable experience having your body thrown around and pulled and pushed to put an item of clothing on. Anyways a bit of a ramble but could be worth a try? Lexie loves helping to put her arms and legs in now (most of the time) and its not as much of a fight anymore. We also do things like count the buttons, or the legs, or name the body parts and ask her to repeat.
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Posted: 05 August 2011 at 8:45am |
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Agree....pushing the boundaries...mine started doing the same at about 16 months, he doesn't want to get dressed and doesn't want to have his nappy changed. Perhaps it is a boy thing. I just keep going and stay firm and let him scream and do his little performance. Im hoping that he will realise soon enough that it is just the way it is and that no amount of screaming is going to fix it, and he doesn't even have the excuse that it is cold as I put the heater on for him...I don't even dress in front of a heater....good luck...stay strong...
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16 month old afraid of getting dressed?
