Plus size mummies and mummies to be

Hey guys,
DH and I are expecting our first baby, a little boy :)
I have been overweight for quite some time now and have been losing a small bit of weight during my pregnancy but now that baby has started to grow I am starting to gain little bits here and there!

My question is I am 20 weeks + 5 days today and still have no sign of a bump. I know that every pregnancy is different so im not expecting to be like everyone but I was just wondering when you were able to distinquish regular tummy fat from baby bump ??
I know that it is likley my bump will just pop when it is ready too but i am just feeling a bit bad that i have nothing noticeable yet. My husband says that the "line" that has been created over the years due to pants etc is straightening out and its all looking like one thing lol but to me thats not baby.

Thanks girls!

I was 20 weeks at the parent and child show this year and none of the stallholders realised I was pregnant, I guess they thought I was just still fat from DD... was a bit gutting but I knew from taking pics each week and watching the changes that I had a bump that was different to how I started out! Plus its hard at the top and when im lying down I can feel where the fat stops and the uterus starts as its all flabby at the bottom, then hard if I push just a little beyond that bit.

Generally with your first it takes longer for baby to 'pop' out from behind the muscles etc in the way, maybe if you take weekly pics then you'll see the difference and it could make you feel a little better about growth etc? I remember when preg with my oldest i used to go to the local library while my ex was working afternoon shifts... it wasnt until mid-late 30 odd weeks that one of the librarians asked if I was pregnant!

Babykatnz we take photos weekly but i can't really see a huge difference, thats how DH said he see's the line thing turning into a proper round thing but i just dont see it lol.

IsaacsMum i have felt when i know they are feeling before and it is all hard but i just cant see it lol.

Ironically one of my best friends is always saying how jealous she is of my big round tummy... I keep telling her its all in the jeans (I LOVE my jeans, they seriously squish all the fat out of the way ) and baby seems to be sitting fairly high, making it look a bit more rounded! Unfortunately my ass seems to be expanding at about the same rate, looks very balanced, but makes buying clothes a nightmare

The other thing I have found is that its bloody near impossible to find summery tops long enough to accomodate the WHOLE bump, squishy fat bits and all... bless whoever invented belly bands cos they have been saving me the indignity of showing old pre-stretched skin

Last pregnancy I was offered a job at 37 weeks and had to say no because I was having a baby in 2 weeks , she hadn't even realised. I was never particularly obvious and had people who met me for the first time but knew I was pregnant say they couldn't believe how small my bump was at around 32 weeks. I noticed the huge difference myself though at around 13 weeks.

This time, I had a comment from someone who knew I was pregnant at around 8 weeks saying that I had a bump already. Very different. But people who didn't know wouldn't be able to tell for quite a while I think.

I think its different for everyone, whether you are the right weight or overweight.

I was really overweight with ds, my family could notice a bump at 15ish week and I had stranger comment at about 17 weeks, I was getting comments about twins at 25ish weeks. I had a lot of fluid and a biggish baby(9lb 7oz)

Leelee wrote: I think its different for everyone, whether you are the right weight or overweight. I was really overweight with ds, my family could notice a bump at 15ish week and I had stranger comment at about 17 weeks, I was getting comments about twins at 25ish weeks. I had a lot of fluid and a biggish baby(9lb 7oz)

This is like me. I am quite overweight, and got a comment from a stranger at roughly 17 weeks asking me how far along I was. Then we had this huge talk about babies haha

thanks everyone, this helps alot!

I also wondered if once you had baby was it easy to lose all your weight or on the extra weight put on by bubs ?