keeping pregnancy secret?

how do you do it i am bursting at the seems to tell people I usually send a bulk txt when i get a bfp so this is the 1st time i have decided to keep it to myself. I have told one person and some ohbaby mums in private. I am finding that i like that its my little secret but im so excited i want to tell everyone at the same time lol.

I have friends i have to face everyday and i know im goin to say something. planning to wait til 1st scan at about 8ish weeks to tell close friends and 12wks to tell the rest.

I am itching to tell people. We told our parents straight away and one friend who knew I was doing a TER. We managed to wait 2 weeks to tell my two best friends - so 6weeks, and I told another girlfriend at 7 weeks.

I am now approaching 8 weeks and I am not sure how much longer I will be able to keep it a secret. I am catching up with another friend this weekend who has just announced she is pregnant, so I am not sure I can keep it from her.

I am trying to take it a week at the time at the moment. I think we will tell the rest of our close friends next week (so 3 more people), and the rest of the family the week after that.

Not going to do the mass announcement until 12 weeks - but I imagine it will get around before then anyway.

I'm 13wks and haven't told anyone IRL other than my Mum (who I only told last week) and two close friends who I see a couple of times a week. A couple of girls at work know as there are some duties at work you can't do when pregnant so had to get them to do it for me. Other than that I have found it relatively easy to keep a secret although my belly is now getting difficult to hide! In saying that I've been very lucky to have no MS so that makes it easier I guess. We will tell DH's parents this weekend and then will make it public knowledge I guess.

Edited by Mrs_B

I got given the advice that before 12 weeks only to tell the people that you are willing to 'un-tell'

Although i was so excited with my bfp that i pretty much told my closest friends and family straight away! Waited till 12 weeks until i announced it on facebook

With my first pregnancy, it took me a week or so to get my head around it, and before it got to that stage, I had a threatened miscarriage so it was pretty much rammed in my face that I had to be willing to untell people who I told. I had to tell my sister who was staying with us why I was on bedrest for the weekend, and told my folks and bestie after I had a good scan a week or so later. I also ended up telling a colleague who would need to pick up a bit of my slack once I got dreadful morning sickness - but she is also a really good friend so again, someone I could untell if need be. Everyone else I waited till after our 12 week scan, because I really didn't want to have to go around untelling. Plus, if it did end up taking ages for us to get a pregnancy that stuck, I didn't want it common knowledge that we were TTC. I was going for promotions etc and didn't want that to be in the back of their minds when they made decisions about me.

This time, I've been telling my friends when the opportunity arises - not going out of my way to bring it up, but not making up *stories* as to why I'm not eating particular things or as to what age gap I'm thinking of between kids etc. I think because it's not the first pregnancy, there isn't the same need to keep it quiet - everyone will be expecting it sooner or later so it's not going to change attitudes at work or anything. That said, I'm still limiting it to people I'd be ok with untelling until after my 12 week scan

It is hard when I'm so excited (and developing quite the belly!) but I just think to myself "is this a person I want knowing if I end up going through a m/c?" and that usually makes the decision quite easy.

I managed to keep mine secret until 20 weeks, didn't tell anyone but family (so some family did spread it round with excitement, mainly MIL, FIL and BIL#2) but if people asked/guessed then I told them I was... I told one close friend. FIL told a friend at the local pool who told her daughter (we went to school together) and she told a bunch of people and I honestly had people ringing me for about a week asking if it was true (I was 19 at the time). Was kinda annoying but I'm glad I kept it a secret!

I should also add - I didn't find out until about 8 weeks along and so the only ones who knew at first was dp and my mum. We told my grandparents at 9 weeks and DPs family at 16 weeks (he was scared his dad would 'kill' him for getting me UTD before getting a proper job! but they were over the moon!). Everyone else found out at about 20 weeks and I didn't tell my dad until 25 weeks as we aren't that close and he was quite upset...

I told everyone everytime lol..i suck at keeping secrets..and esp the first time when we found out baby had died at 12 week scan... i needed support though it was also awful being reminded by people.. but when we got preg with Ethan then mc baby then Liam we told everyone:)

Edited by ElfsMum