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Shezamumof3 
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Posted: 25 November 2010 at 4:47pm |
Im at my wits end with DD, she is such a stroppy child, packs a tanty over the sillest things and when I say tanty I mean full on screaming and laying on her back/tummy kicking her legs kind of tanty. She cries half the day, and if she doesnt get her own way all hell breaks lose. DS never did this, he packed tantys but just normal ones...this is just full on!
Is it a girl thing?  I just dont know how to deal with her anymore...is it normal behaviour?
Right now she is having a tantrum and Im ignoring her because I dont know what else to do.
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Mum_me
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Posted: 25 November 2010 at 5:42pm |
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I have one of those too - only now he is a very stroppy 4 year old who still throw tantrums (though thankfully not as often). We had so many battles!
I don't think it is a girl thing, as our DD at 18 months is nothing at all like DS was. Some kids are far more work than others
In the end I bought a book on spirited children (I can look up the title if you like). It gives you some ideas, but also encourages you to lower your expectations a little and it does talk about how these kids tend to turn into leaders as adults.
Good luck!
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jaycee
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Posted: 25 November 2010 at 6:12pm |
I ignore tantrums and they stop pretty quickly - what is the point of wasting a tantrum if you don't have an audience 
Seriously though - what do you usually do when DD starts to wind up? Usually most tantrums about control by toddlers. Keep up with the ignoring or just pop her into her room.
Maybe have a look at Diane Levy - "Of Course I love you, now go to your room"
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Bizzy
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Posted: 25 November 2010 at 8:24pm |
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i find that my daughter trantrums more if she is tired or hungry... and if you can see that a tantrum might start from something small then divert it! otherwise if it is for something silly and just her trying out this control thing then walk away, go to another room and do something else...
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Posted: 25 November 2010 at 9:05pm |
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Hey I've got a 14month old boy and NO IT'S NOT JUST A GIRL THING ! Everything you said about your little girl sounds like wat i go through most days with mine ! It drives me crazy !
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busymum
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Posted: 25 November 2010 at 9:26pm |
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I like to go through a mental checklist - tired, hungry, etc - and if I'm at least fairly sure it's just for "fun", that child gets taken out of the room - put in the hallway or bedroom. I don't usually shut the door, it's just enough to remove them from attention. When they come back for cuddles, that's great so long as the attitude has changed. Otherwise they go back :)
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Shezamumof3
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Posted: 26 November 2010 at 4:14pm |
Thanks for the replys! 
Jaycee, I usually try and ignore her or distract her with something, and if she is REALLY winding up I put her in her cot, mainly so I can calm down lol - Yesterday I put her in there and when I went to get her she was crying but all smiles when she saw me.
I think it might be an attention thing most of the time as she seems to have started this since DS has been at daycare, and when he comes home the tantys start! especially because he needs learn to share, he snatches things off her all the time and she gets SUPER angry
I will ignore her when I know shes being silly, and if she is doing it because she's tired, if its close to bedtime I will distract her with something, and if its not close to bed time then maybe I'll try giving her quiet time with some books in her room...
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Posted: 26 November 2010 at 7:58pm |
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DD threw a tanty tonight over wanting more and more tomato sauce on her noddles, although there was heaps there already. Was quite something.
She was hungry, but not into her noddles. Ate her yogurt , which distracted her and fixed it, its hard when they do this, but normal too I guess.
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Very Stroppy 15 Month Old
