HELP! My son wont to poos in the toilet.

Hi ya Shaz, how you doing ? ( its Kam btw)

I had a real problem with C in this regard, went to a few drs and psychologists etc, and finally found that what worked best was a star chart with and a lot of praise every time she went in the toilet, it was a long process , but so long as you keep at it, they eventually get the idea .
We did the chart so that if she went for a week she would get some sort of treat , and we made sure she knew what it was for , then we moved up to no poos for two weeks and so on .

Sometimes they don't like the splash , so we put toilet paper down , and C also didn't like the having to sit there waiting , so we had a tape that played a story and if she hadn't done anything by the time the tape was over, she could get off , but with the reminder to go again later .

Hope some of that helps

Mine fella is the same, refuses point blank to go poos in the toilet, thankfully he asks for a nappy to do it in so at least it isn't too messy but really starting to do my head in as he is fine with wees and knows when the poo is coming just won't go to the toilet to do it. We have started to bring to the toilet when he is finished and flicking the contents in so he can see where it is supposed to go. At the moment we are resorting to bribery he knows he is getting a Buzz lightyear when he finally does it - yeap we are that desperate! So he keeps saying when I do poos in the toilet I get a buzz and yet still rufuses ahhhh

Hey Kelly, Im good thanks :) Cheers for you advice. I like the idea of a tape. Might look into that.

Shelly: I so know what you mean about bribery! We resorted to that too, but still NO POOS IN THE TOILET!

Ems: You are so right. I read an article in a Treasures mag about boys and toilet training. It said sometimes boys think their penis may drop off and that can put them off doing poos in toilet ( thank god adult males dont think like this eh!)

We have this issue too .... as do most of the boys in my coffee group! Thankfully Jake still asks for a nappy to poo (we haven't had ANY accidents of either kind since he TT'd quite late) - but considering hes known when he's gonna poo for 18months, I actually thought he'd get poos first. We have resorted to bribery too (a big digger) but since he hasn't been wee TT'd for long we're just gonna ride it out a bit longer.

Will be keeping an eye on this for more advice though ......

I forgot to say -- the reason Jake won't go on the toilet is cos he only poo's standing up. We did get all poos on the potty at 20 months, for about 2 weeks, but at that stage he didn't get when he needed to wee, so we left it. And also he was getting so upset and we had to hold him to get him to do it ..... most of the time he actually stood above the potty.

I have tried getting him to stand in the bathroom / loo and do it. He usually end up mucking around in there, then comes back out and does it behind the table.

Will go and read the article ....

Yay, thats great!
We're in West Harbour. No poos here :(

I am a survivor! DD1 was TT at 2 and refused from day one to go on the toilet. I tried everything bribery, anger, sympathy, everything and still it was a no go. Then she got constipated ... and then she got lactulose to stop the constipation ... and after 60mls a day for a week what do you know she says "i need to go poos, might try the toilet" and off she went and did it. That was two weeks ago and now everyday she wants to go poos on the toilet. It was all over and I can't believe how easily she just went after over a year of grief! I think if it is soft enough, and it takes no effort at all to get it out they are happy to sit there and do it. DD1 was a stand up and hide girl and the faces she would pull were hilarious. But since she has had the lactulose the faces have gone as it is obviously no effort to go and she is happy with them being soft.

Good luck!

Nikki I went to a toilet training course by a continence nurse and she said that kids wanting to poo standing up is actually a really common issue with them refusing to go on the toilet. She suggested that if you are using a toilet then you give them a stool so that their knees are slightly higher than their hips, and show them how to lean forward to make doing poos easier. Apparently this makes pooing a bit easier for them.