Living far from Birthing Centre/Hospital

Im due with our second baby in mid January.
With DD, I was induced but either way was 20 minutes from the birthing centre or the hospital if I had gone naturally. We had family and close friends within 2 minutes of us if DH happened to not be around, family took over farming duties so DH didnt need to worry (they were on the neighbouring farm) and since we had no other kids there wasnt that to deal with.

Since then, we have moved. We are now 40 minutes to the birthing centre and just over an hour to the hospital. Family and friends are anywhere from 40 minutes to an hour as well. We also dont have any friends around this area and are in the middle of trying to find a relief milker that we can call at the last minute but either way, DH wont necessarily be able to leave the farm at a moments notice.

Also, because of how things went with DDs birth, I would much prefer to be in the hospital than the birthing centre. Both are booked so we have the option to head to the BC if things are moving really quickly but my mw fully agrees that the hospital is what's best for me.

So considering all the above, we have started talking about what we are going to do especially in relation to a carer for DD, when to head in and where to head to (dont want to go to hospital too soon). My thought is to head to my parents house (40 minutes) when I know things are happening and labour at their house until I need to go elsewhere (which would then be 5 minutes to birthing centre, 20 to hospital) but I am getting anxious as we get closer that DH will end up delivering this baby in the car on the side of the road with DD in the back because we havent left soon enough, or that he wont be able to leave when I need to due to the farm, or that I will be hanging around my parents house for days....

Anyone been in a similar position and able to ease my worries a bit? Or suggestions on what we could do??

In some regards the homebirth option crossed my mind (would solve some of the issues) but not really interested in that as an option, again because of how things went with my DDs birth.

Thanks

Slightly different in that I did have a homebirth, but part of our plan was to have DD with us while I laboured for as long as that seemed sensible. If she was still with us and we needed to transfer to hospital, we'd have arranged to meet my sister at the hospital - she lives in the city only 5 mins drive from hospital, we are 45 mins at least from hospital. So I'd have let her know when we left and she would have met us there and just left us her car and taken DD in our car (it has a carseat). DH would have gone round to exchange cars and collect DD once it was all over.

For what it's worth, I had a horrible first birth and managed an awesome second birth at home, but I can understand that's not everyone's cup of tea. I do hate to say it, but even though my first labour was 30 hours and could have been longer had DD not gone into distress, my second was first cramps at 1.30am, I was sure it was the real deal by 4am, and I had a baby just after 7am. If I'd been going to hospital, I would have rung my sister to come out to mind DD at 4, she would have been there by about 5, at which point we would have headed to hospital and I would have been in agony for most of the trip because contractions were pretty serious by 5, and an hour in the car would have been hell. If I was planning a hospital birth after the last one, I would plan to take DD in the car with us and drop her into town, so that it would have been the hour from 4 to 5 that was traveling as that would have been bearable.

Edited by T_Rex