Queenstown Midwifes Recommendation

Hi Guest 50468,

I'm sorry, this thread inadvertently turned into a bit of a sl*gging match, which wasn't intended at all. I was more trying to defend Vicki's practise than offend yours! Some of the patronising attitudes on here really got my back up but in contrast to some other comments on here I don't beleive I said anything disparaging. The only reason I didn't recommend you in the first instance was I didn't think you covered QT.

I'm more than grateful for the information and care you gave me, like I said before it was nothing personal at all that made me switch - you're kind of a victim of your own success, you made me beleive I can birth naturally! I feel very strongly though that that will not occur in QM as you know how badly that whole experience affected me so I really feel I have to give myself as good a chance as I possibly can - for me that needs to be outwith a hospital, if at all possible. I really feel the fear and lack of trust will hinder my progress if I go in there, that's obviously personal to me and something I need to work through and I'm not trying to suggest that should be the same for everybody, but nor do I beleive that everybody should have to birth in hospital for a VBAC.

Is there really any such thing though as a risk-free birth? If anything goes wrong then I'm prepared to accept responsibility for that but I think the chances of rupture are low enough for me to not dwell on that too much. There are bigger risk factors for all women giving birth but there is still plenty of homebirths happening here, despite the distance, I think it's an OK set of odds for me - hopefully I'm not proved wrong. Whatever happens, this time the decisions (and any consequences) will be mine.

A woman getting tired and wanting pain relief could happen at any homebirth (though I'd suggest that most homebirthing women have learned their own ways to deal with pain, generally speaking), so how do you mitigate against that, given the distance? Surely that's a risk for all homebirthing women, VBAC or not?

I fully understand that you have to keep good relations with the Ob's for the good of your ladies which is why I would never try to convince you otherwise but as I wanted something different I had to look for an alternative - I have to say I felt pretty bad doing that but I'm only going to get one shot at this birth, I need to feel I've done my utmost to get it right this time as I was so compliant last time I completely lost all control over the experience, thus ended up with an undesired outcome. It took a lot of soul-searching to make the decision and I hated doing it.

I'm glad you got the chance to clarify, sorry if I wasn't clear in the first instance or if I misrepresented you in any way and I hope you understand my reasons for switching were in no way a bad reflection on you or Mountain Mamas practice, I just wanted something different.

I hope Vicki gats the chance to come on here and put her point forward too as, unlike my comments, one of the comments aimed at her is downright derogatory. I wasn't going to point this out to her as I didn't want to hurt her feelings but I now think as she's been very clearly identified she has a right to have her say.

Many thanks, Nikki.

Hi, i have been going through some old posts.
even though its a couple of years later, i was wondering if anyone wants to share thoughts on why you wouldnt have jan / vicki as a midwife again.