a tricky kind on tanty

So Ella's two now and it recently dawned on her. *insert expletive here*

I'm having real trouble with his new kind of tantrum she's throwing, where she refuses to go anywhere I need her to - refuses to leave a room or enter one if I ask her, leave or get into the car, leave a shop that she didn't even want to be in, and on top of that she's a runner - runs to the other end of a shop, bolts in the street, and no amount of "Ella, STOP" helps. I'm still working on that by playing a 'stop' game with her but I probably need to do that more often.

Trouble is, I'm 27ish wks pg and at a point now where it plain hurts to be carrying her, especially as she doesn't 'let' me hold or carry her when she's trying to escape, and I end up struggling to hold her like a rugby ball while she screams. She won't cross the road with me holding her hand (she does her staple move of drop and cry) and I've had to literally carry her by one arm across some roads because my arms were full and I couldn't get down to lift her or hold her. I'll go looking for a wrist-buddy lead that Ella isn't likely to pull off, but how do I deal with her lying down or running away constantly in the meantime, while I'm waiting for the 'training' to kick in? This constant scooping her up off the ground and having to carry her can't go on - each time it sets off a run of BH in my bump and for some reason, these ones are really uncomfortable, and that will only get worse, so that can't be my strategy anymore.

Both of mine are runners too, I feel your pain!
I'm teaching Benjy now that if he doesn't behave and hold my hand, he has to go in the buggy.
It is a bit of a hassle carting the buggy around with us if he's behaving and walking properly, but he's too heavy to carry and at least he is happy to 'help' me push it!

I'd definitely get a wrist strap but as far as the picking up goes, I'm afraid that's all I can (and could) think of . But you can grab the back of her clothes instead of a full body-grab if that's easier

Otherwise you might have to do the "Ella, you need to walk nicely with Mummy or I will put you in the stroller/trolley" - we do that with Kryssi, she gets two warnings. Oh, and since she has older siblings she has recently decided that she prefers sitting in the back of the trolley than the "under 2 years seat" LOL!

short reply earlier due to baby girl on knee.

I have on occasion literally dragged gabriel, when he was younger, through the mall. he refused to get up and i was trying to juggle him and a baby too so just took him by the arm and walked...he wouldnt walk so was dragged. (not ideal tho i know for outside). I think i did it twice.
gabriel was a runner too and it wasnt until he got older and could understand that it stopped so i think you are better off just putting her in the buggy. Non negotiable.

another idea:
maybe instead of carrying or trying to juggle her across the road you tell her - "hold my hand or we stay here." even if you have to put down your bags or whatever else you have and just wait till she holds your hand. i do that with the boys...no one crosses a road without holding me or the pushchair and if they refuse we just stand there! we never stand for long tho.    

i have seen wrist straps in kmart. i had one i got from emma, it was a lovely pink...i remember once going to a market and boys arguing over who got to wear it, cause they both wanted to and no one wanted the pushchair! if you want i can check if emma doesnt want it and send it down!

Oh don't you hate the "no no no s"!!!

Isla gets the firm lowered voice ' if u dont be a good girl and hold mummys hand then u will sit in the buggy',...Im not nice about it and she gets one warning,..then in the buggy with a snack or book to distract her. Then its " if u dont be a good girl then we will go home',..so far the threat has always worked, but I so would leave if I had to.

Andie wrote: ahhhh. over the shoulder... that would save my poor bump some squeezing and kicking! Ta. And I'm fully planning on buying a wrist strap for tethering Miss Ella, so if you really aren't using yours Deb, I'd love to borrow it! Thanks!

its on the way - well will be tomorrow...

I lifted my rather tall 18month old right up until the day I went into labour with the twins. I just made sure I bent my knees instead of bending over to lift him up. I have now just started the "running away" phase - a bit hard when I have a twin in each arm. I have purchased a harness and reins set and have just started using that. I would rather have him safe and put up with negative comments about the harness. (if anyone does say a negative comment about them - I wont be afraid to tell them how it is!)