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FionaS
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Topic: Another post re: fussy eating Posted: 17 August 2008 at 8:07pm |
Elle's food fussiness is reaching new levels. She would reliably eat weetbix, creamed rice, omlette, pear and cheese. Now she won't touch any of them. She says "don't like it" to everything. I can see that this is just phase related to controlling what she eats but I'm not sure how to get past it. She makes her own breakfast (choose her cereals, puts them in the bowl, adds the milk etc but STILL won't eat it!).
At present I offer a wide selection of foods and without fail she rejects all the cereal, fruit, vege, meat and bread. She just survives on small nibbles of the few things she like like crackers, biscuits, and V8 fruit juice (which I give her once a day in desperation).
Today I made chocolate muffins (with some carrot in them) and iced them + sprinked on hundreds and thousands just to make sure she would eat them but what do you know....she just ate the icing and none of the muffin itself.
The problem is that her constipation has returned and she was totally miserable all weekend until she finally did a poo tonight.
So...do I keep including foods she does like (basically all just refined carbohydrates) knowing that she will just survive on those, or do I remove them completely and hence force her to eat new foods?
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caraMel
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Posted: 17 August 2008 at 9:34pm |
My Ella went through a stage similar to what you describe. I absolutely despaired of her ever eating anything and wasting away due to my inability to get her to eat anything other than plain biscuits!
I tried all suggestions on offer with little success. In the end, I just let it go. I felt that it was affecting our relationship too much and not getting us anywhere to keep making food an issue. I kept on offering a selection of foods at every meal and snack time and just let her eat what she chose from the plate.
I made sure I included at least one thing she had liked in dinners and let her decide whether she wanted to eat it.
We cheered her on when she ate well and didn't make a fuss of it when she didn't. We also stopped asking her to try things or have a little more of things, removing all pressure on her.
She was SO much happier when she had control of her choices and I was happier for seeing her happy.
When she did start trying things, it was quite random and she'd go backwards and forwards. What was a success one week might be tossed aside the next.
It seems to be an ongoing process with her and dinner is still a work in progress but she is a hundred times better than where she was at 2 years ago.
My method might not be the most advisable, but the way I saw it, she wasn't any worse off than when she was refusing things before we removed the pressure and we were all a lot happier.
I should add that Ella also went through periods of constipation and really went off her food when she was backed up. It never went longer than 3 - 4 days though.
Good luck Fiona.
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caraMel
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Posted: 17 August 2008 at 9:39pm |
Oh! I just re-read your post and saw the bit about the carrot in the muffins.
A little while ago I got a book called 'Deceptively Delicious' by Jessica Seinfeld. Its got heaps of great recipes all with hidden veges!
If Elle will eat things like chicken nuggets, muffins or brownies the book might help you.
I keep offering the good stuff too, but hiding veges helps me feel better, knowing she's getting some veg in there.
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Posted: 17 August 2008 at 10:51pm |
Mel - Any chance of me borrowing that book to have a sneaky photocopy?
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Posted: 17 August 2008 at 10:51pm |
Oh and sorry to threadjack Fiona!
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FionaS
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Posted: 18 August 2008 at 11:54am |
Nope, she won't eat chicken nuggets etc. She will eat McDs fries but if I make my own shoe string chips (I can't taste the difference) she won't eat them! Such a madam.
I hide veges in everything but it doesn't make her more or less inclined to eat.
I even made her mini star, heart and teddy shaped piklets on the weekend and she wouldn't even eat those!
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Posted: 18 August 2008 at 12:32pm |
Hmmm I have one of these....Aside from everything else I dread at the moment...feeding him is a nightmare!
I long for the day he eats some carrotts and a bit of meat and mashed potato!
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Posted: 18 August 2008 at 12:39pm |
Kaia is often like this, she sounds very similar to Elle in terms of being quite stubborn and strong willed.
I tend to just let it slide, I offer food often which she oftens turns her nose up too. I just let her decide. But I am quite strict on what she is allowed to eat when she does decide to. For example, Andy seems to think eating something is better than eating nothing so will offer her whats she likes. I prefer to think that she is getting the good stuff so will not offer her biscuits etc just so she will eat.
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Posted: 18 August 2008 at 12:55pm |
I remain very cool and calm about it as I know if she senses that I'm worried or stressed she will play on it. I just keep assuming it'll improve but overall the fussiness is getting worse.
I offer stuff every day but 95% of it gets thrown away.
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