Night waking - what do I do?!?!?

I'd say she is frustrated. She is probably waking as she enters the light sleep phase of her sleep and doesn't know how to resettle without the dummy. She may not even remember the dummy itself but know something is missing. If she has done this several nights in a row, it will now be a habit and habital nightwakings can be frustrating for kids.

You say you tried CC but remember it takes consistency and persistence for any method to work. If you try something new every few days they get confused.

I understand how confusing it is (trust me...I really do understand) but why not choose the method you feel most comfortable with a stick with it. If she insists on pushing you away, then I guess you have to leave her be and eventually she will stop doing it. I imagine she needs to learn a new self-soothing technique to replace the dummy (and you as you don't want to have to soothe her several times a night).

Does she have an object that she takes to bed regularly? If yes, try including that item more during her wind-down routine. For example, if it is a soft toy, both sit and stroke it while you read / cuddle / sing or what ever it is you do. What you are aiming to do is to get her to associate that object with sleep and settling so when she wakes, she will repeat that to soothe herself.

hope that helps - I have talked to so many sleep experts and the above is a summary of what I think they would say to you.

she slept through perfectly last night and so far so good tonight (please don't let that be a jinx!!!!!!)

Blardy kids - who'd have them?