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Vanillabean 
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Posted: 27 June 2008 at 7:05pm |
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So here I am back here for the second time this year and I find have so much respect for people with recurrent losses who keep trucking on.
Last time I wanted to get back on the horse straight away but this time I can't even imagine going back to ttc right now. I guess its not a bad thing but I think I am going to take a little time out to grieve this time around.
Wish it really was the stork that brought babies, it would be so much more straight forward.
The ttc journey is full of so many twists and turns.
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Snickerdoodle
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Posted: 27 June 2008 at 7:25pm |
 vanillabean
I said it in another thread, but I'm really sorry for your loss.
You'll know when it's the right time to start trying again.
Taking time to grieve is important
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mummyofprinces
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Posted: 27 June 2008 at 7:57pm |
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Oh vanillabean, honey I am so sorry.
Big hugs!!!!!
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Posted: 27 June 2008 at 8:23pm |
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Oh Vanillabean I am so gutted to see you back over here. Big hugs. Take some time to spoil yourself!!!
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katie1
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Posted: 27 June 2008 at 9:31pm |
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Am so sorry too. Look after yourself.
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Posted: 27 June 2008 at 9:48pm |
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Mama2two
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Posted: 27 June 2008 at 10:22pm |
Vanillabean - I am so sorry to hear that this has happened to you twice in a row. There is no rush with this process though so if you can't imagine trying again then wait until you can.
I had 2 m/c's in a row reasonably close together, gave it a break and then the next pregnancy resulted in my DD.
Big 's to you.
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Posted: 27 June 2008 at 11:13pm |
sucky, you take as much time as you need/want.
Edited by Bizzy
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Genie
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Posted: 28 June 2008 at 12:32am |
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I'm really sorry for your losses, I know how difficult it is. I suffered losses before each of my 2 living children, as well as this pregnancy, they all devastated me and each time I didn't have successful pregnancies until I had decided there was more to life than ttc and I wanted to focus on something else..then each time - wham pregnant and with a happy outcome. Take care of yourself.
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Shadowdance
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Posted: 28 June 2008 at 11:53am |
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I remember one day going online after our third loss feeling like 'why bother' someone up there obviously hates me and I'm just going to keep being punished for something. (hey after a miscarriage you're not always feeling logical)
A woman online had been through something like 13 miscarriages and was still trying. I asked her how she kept going and her comment to me was
Through all the pain, the need never dies.....
It was a very basic statement but one that has never left my mind and I still hold her in total awe.
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Posted: 28 June 2008 at 8:01pm |
Vanillabean.. I feel for you. Hope that you are doing okay and spending quality time with DH. Take as much time as you like to make sure that you are in the right mental frame of mind. Good luck babe
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Posted: 28 June 2008 at 9:41pm |
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Posted: 28 June 2008 at 9:57pm |
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Big hugs. Like the others said, take some time and take the TTC pressure off yourself. You will know when you are ready to TTC again. After my 2 miscarriages I was dead set against TTC for a while but slowly but surely i'm feeling ready. Time doesn't erase hurt but it does help you regain your strength and move forward.
Thinking of you.
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Mummy to Gabrielle and Ashley
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Posted: 29 June 2008 at 4:47pm |
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I was so sorry to read about your loss vanillabean.
Sending you lots of hugs!
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courage to keep trying
