nervous wait

TBH, I haven't coped very well. I also had a m/c in Oct last year and am now nearly 10 weeks preg. (missed m/c at approx 8 weeks, bleeding at 10 wks, 6 days) I have worried everytime I go to the toilet. Felt every cramp. Tell my self I'm not really preg, etc EVERY DAY!

It's been hell. I can't even bring myself to join the 'due in'... thread, cos I don't want to jinx it. I've hardly told anyone, as last time I found it so hard 'un-telling' people.

I've just been telling myself what ever will be will be, but I think I have found it hard to 'bond'...not that you really can, but YKWIM...my Mum said to be careful I'm not too 'distant' and protecting myself, but I find it hard to be anything else....once you have had a m/c you know not to get your hopes up...

The best thing is I have had a supportive GP who let me go for a scan at 7 w, 5 d (even tho I was sure of dates) for a 'dating scan' and the midwife has given me another scan referal for 'cramps' that I can use when I need another scan. I've had a rough day today, so I think I'll use it tomorrow. That way when (if) I go for the 12 wk scan, it will be my third....it has helped but nothing REALLY helps.

Sorry this is not the most positive answer, but if you feel like this for the next 10+ weeks, I just wanted you to know you are not alone. It's normal (I think) to feel scared and anxious.

Best of luck! I hope you get the BFP you want and that this is one sticky baby!!

I too found the first 12 weeks hard and even now sometimes find it hard to tell people i am pregnant if that are not that close with me in case something should happen to baby.

I had a really great support system with my family, my mum and sisters and sil were great, they knew DH wasnt being very supportive (spose his way of not getting hurt again) so made sure they were always there to listen, always had someone to go to scans or blood tests with etc. I did have a few melt downs, one at 7 weeks when i had the tinyist bit of spotting ( more like coloured discharge) and mum was there to take me to the docs. had a scan at 7 weeks which was fantastic cos our last one didnt have a heartbeat and this one did! Had another melt down at 9 weeks, got another scan after some more barely there spotting.

I felt at times that i was being really nerotic, would post on here to the girls about the slightest thing but they are also a great support system, you dont realise how many people actully do go through a m/c cos people do not really talk about it in real life.

I spose what made this one a little better was seeing the positive things, as in we conceived this little one on our m/ced babys due date, its due on the 27th which is a lucky number for us, its also due on DH's dads bday. Also i jsut had a really good feeling about this one from the start where as the last one i didnt, i knew there was something wrong from when i first got my BFP.

Sorry for the long post, but i know how hard these first 12 weeks are, it helped taking things day by day, celebrating the extra days past the last m/c (early at 5w6d and not picked up till dating scan).

My mum also lost a baby b4 conceiving my sister. she said she felt she distanced herself all through the pregnancy so she didnt get hurt should something happen. She now feels that even now with my sister being 29 she still feels a little more distant from her than she does the other kids.

Woah that really was long but know that us girls are all here to support you. Congrats Newbie26 and also to you Surfergirl!!

hannibil..so true.. i was the same about feeling like it would be ok with Ethan:) so great you had a massive support system.. my Dh the same! and in a similar way we were due the same day as we lost first one..

this second one hit us hard though..we just didn't think it would happen again.. :( due same day as number one

also newbie for every week past 6 the chances go way up so that may help...

I'm 10 weeks tomorrow and I'm still asking that same question.

I probably got pregnant and little too quickly for me to get my head around it. Even seeing a heart beat, m/s, lots of symptoms of a healthy pregnancy and all the right things... I still panic at every twinge think 'oh great its going to happen again' and check my underwear every time I go to the bathroom... I'm even scared to tell people even after 12 weeks incase it all goes wrong...

I guess I don't have any answers, I just have to keep hoping everything is okay and trust it will be, it's just not that easy... If anyone could give us a guarentee that would be nice but even once you get past 12 weeks, you still hear of m/c... and not forgetting the terrible tragedies of stillborns... I'm not making this any better...

One day at a time?

Hugs newbie26
I feel like I am probably going to anxious right through this pregnancy - even though I know bubs is doing fine. I guess its like the others said, you do try to protect yourself as you already know first hand - things go wrong.
I am starting to feel more bonded to my bump as I have started feeling movements, which are at least a pretty good sign something is alive in there.

Hugs - there are always loads of ladies on here to talk to when you are feeling worried or scared, we know how hard it is.

Huge congrats Surfergirl! I'm so happy for you.
When are you due?

Fingers crossed for you Newbie.

Thanks M2Bee - I've been reading that thread since I got the BFP, but I'm too scared to join the list and have to get 'taken off' - (I'm such a worry wart)...so...maybe I'll grow some balls and join in. Quietly. I pretend no one can see me....

T-Rex - due Nov, 21st by 1st scan, 20th by my dates, 18th by this scan...Who knows??

I didn't want to upset your happy post surfergirl, but I m/c (very early) on weekend.

Got specialist appt tomorrow so hopefully will get on right track (my previous specialist hasn't been very good).

I am also being prescribed asprin - to do with something in my bloods that came back. Anyone else been on this?

Newbie! I am SOOO sorry. (and don't apologise for upsetting the happy post - this is YOUR post, it's all about you! I'm sorry I hi-jacked!)

I really hope your specialist can give you the answers you need and set you on the right track for a (sticky) BFP.

Hugs for you now tho, it's a rough time...