Waiting to miscarry?

Hi everyone.

I wish I had found this forum 2 weeks ago. My husband and I were told two weeks ago that all wasnt looking good at our 5 week scan. So it can as no shock (well not entirely true, I still had hope) when we were told that I wasnt going to carry the baby as the egg sack is misshapen etc. I have been waiting to miscarry for a week and a half, with strong period like pain off and on. My sweet husband has taken some time of to help out as Im a wee bit of an emotional wreck!

My problem is I cant take the waiting anymore and have decided to have a D&C. Im wondering if anyone has had this done privately? If so what was the cost? where etc? and If I do go publicly any tips ect? Feel very scared! Dont react well to pain relief!!

Thank you for listening to me..
xo

Oh lillasmum - I'm so sorry.

I don't know about the costs of getting it done privately - but I would suggest looking at the southern cross website - I know they have schedules of stuff for pre approval that have average costs on them. Or maybe ring a hospital directly (Ascot in Akl)
This is just a horrible time for you and DH.

Hi lillasmum
sorry to hear about your situation. I'm kinda in the same boat although not officially confirmed my preg isn't viable. I found out very very early about my preg (would only be about 3 wks) and because I had spotting and some cramps they took hcg levels. They are static at the mo............they are saying its more than likely not going to happen but are monitoring me with more bloods and got told if I have cramps or bleeding to go in and see them............I feel like I'm sitting on a ticking time bomb!!!    A small part of me is trying to be positive thinking if its so early then my levels may rise and all will be well but in my head I know that its probably not going to happen.
This waiting though is doing me in ............every little twinge I wonder if this is it.
So big hugs to you as I know what this horrible waiting thing is like.

I have had both...public DandC and waiting to miscarry in a different pregnancy recently... with the Dand C we got in 4 days later publically ..i didn't consider private even though i have insurance and I was treated brilliantly etc in hospital and was in and out in the same day though i nearly had to stay but that was a complication from me ....normally you go home same day after 4 hours or so.. the only thing i wished they had warned me were the horrible terms used talking about my baby and the procedure:(

anyway with the other one i waited...had no pain but a lot of blood and after 5 days got a scan and had to have no further treatment.....feel free to pm me with any questions

Yeah I think thats the worst thing about it all.......waiting and not knowing