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    Posted: 16 February 2010 at 11:29am
Hi,
I am new and have come to these forums after I lost baby no.3 at 13 n half weeks round the 4th Feb 2010. So still really fresh.
I went into hospital where they gave me an oral tab fri then back in on Sunday and they inserted 4 tabs to bring on labour. And it happend with in a few hours I delivered a tiny baby and palcenter which was heart breaking.
I was shocked at the long process and the bad information given by my midwife, then teh doctors then teh gynaecologist, the best information was from the nurses.
I have written letters questioning the system with missed miscarriges and how they are managed, and the way n which mothers are just told to wait. it is appauling.
Since it has been two days since being in hospital it is al pretty fresh and I am feeling really alone. Because the baby is out now, people must be assuming I can just move on and it is all over. So I just want to chat to people who have had similar things happpen to them.
I am also really keen on adding one more to our family but the thought is really terrifying and will wait till later in teh year to decide as my husband doesn't want to talk about it.
My heart is with everyone who is dealing with their loss   


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If you wanna talk to someone you could see if a social worker is available to chat.

I'm sorry for your loss..

I had my boy Jared at 22w gest and I too was appauled at the system, my MW and my ob. Sadly I don't think its gonna change.
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Hugs. I'm so sorry for what you've gone through. The system is dreadful and unfortunately you've had far more experience of it than most.
This site is a great support! Loads of people who just 'get' it and don't mind the odd rambling vent about the world!
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*big hugs*

I have to say our healthy system is shocking, and with all 4 of my miscarriages i had to deal with it myself as the doctors were awful.

there is a great website

www.thelostones.co.nz

the girls on there and here are awesome


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*hugs*

I had a horror experience with my M/C as well but having a good GP made things as bareable as they could be.

My heart goes out to you, I still cry everytime a new post is made in this forum.
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Hi bjcutie

I am SO sorry for your losses and the lack of treatment. People just don't get it. Wht they don;t realise is that is doesn't geat easier with each one, it get harder!

My thoughts are with you, greive all you want to, cry, scream, throw things, do what ever you need to! (I have a few broken kitchen floor tiles at my place!!!!)

If you want to PM please feel free

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Hi,

Thanks for your thoughts
My 2 girls would love a sibling and keep asking about it even when they know it's not happening this year. So it is continuously on my mind, so I think will try for another mid year?
Would love to hear from anyone who tried for a baby after a miscarriage and the success rate?
And how do you get the little time line pictures on teh bottom of my msg page? I'd like to aadd my 2 girls n lil angel.
Thanks again for your replies, helps to know i'm not alone, and hubby n I will get counciling to work through this hard patch.
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sorry i am so late in seeing this.. i had a missed mc (DandC) then Ethan in 08 and then natural mc and then Liam in feb this year.. so hopefully same happens for you!

you need to go to website like lilypie.com and click on the appropriate age for your bub from there :)
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