When number 2 is really number 3

Ok this might be a bit odd because I have a fantastic 2 year old daughter and am 22 weeks pregnant. But last June I had a miscarriage and I was devastated! Luckily we conceived very quickly (we have had fertility issues) with this baby but I'm surprised how sad I still feel as I approach his/hers EDD.
The odd bit is that I feel like I'm not giving my lost baby it's due when people talk about me having number 2.
Does anyone else feel the same way and how do you deal with it?

I correct people - This is my first child, but my first pregnancy gave me an angel.

I correct people.. if they ask if J is my first I tell them no we lost our first..

I think if somebody responded like that, I would simply state that if she loved, cherished and wanted her blighted ovum to hold in her arms, and to grow up to be a beautiful person, then Yes, she should feel the same way.

You would think someone who had had a loss would understand how hurtfull that repsonse could be (regardless of the circumstances of that loss).

I am 12 weeks with my 2nd pregnancy and lost the first at 8.5 weeks. As we tell people about this one, I almost always tell them about the one we lost last year. It's really important to me to acknowledge my angel as otherwise it makes me feel as I should be ashamed of it. I haven't had any negative reactions to telling about it, and in fact many people then feel comfortable to share there own mc stories.

Shellgirl Im the same, I try to be open about our MC as Im sure there are many other there who feel so alone by the whole process, and even raising awareness for others (since Im the first one of my friends to have a baby, even the first one of my family (and Im the youngest!)) so that they know it happens and that if it does happen to them that I am here and I can talk about it.

Gosh Jessiesmum, that is horrible!! What a B with an itch!

Jeepers thats a bit harsh... nice friend!