After IVF/ICSI?

This infertility ride is ... well, it gets harder as time goes on to find the right word for it. The despair is something else entirely, the lack of hope and the struggle to keep pushing is a war all by itself.

I have endo (surgery back in Sept '06, but symptoms back again by about March this year), and DH has both motility and morphology issues. We just had the latest test results back this week and they're pretty bleak. We're doing an IVF cycle privately later in the year - and we've got another meet with our specialist in 2 weeks to discuss the plan.

Having not done the IVF thing yet, I can't imagine quite what you've been through ...and I am so, so very sorry that you lost your first little one. If I was you, I'd do it again. Even just once. Sit down, talk to your DH about it, decide where it will end ...with three cycles or six, but do it again.

You're not alone, though it really does feel it sometimes, as though you're the only person in the world and you're locked in this box that you can't get out of.

Stupid infertility.

Ohhh Ginger, you are sooo lovely. You are right, DH and I had a good old chat about "what to do" and we have come up with the decision to give IVF one more go. I just have a feeling in my waters that this time might work.

I am so sorry to hear that your news is not great, but I have heard so many great stories from couples that have had babies with IVF, even when the outlook was bleak. And to be honest, the whole process is not that bad, even the needles are not too scary.

Thanks for your words of encouragement, it is funny that a nice word can make all the difference

If I can still feel positive after ttc for the last 3 1/2 years, it just shows how sharing your thoughts with women going through the same things can lighten the load.



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I'm so pleased to hear it Mrs Miggins! (That you're going to do it again I mean )

I'm pretty 'lucky' in that there's a lot of fight in this here Ginger and I mentally pick up my samurai sword when things get tough, and plow forward It sounds like we're a bit similar like that, and it really does make such a difference.

I can't imagine having a baby, but I can't imagine not having children, and it keeps me going

Hi girls, Great little support this forum is ,welcome mrs miggins im a newbie too! and starting IVF in august so its nice to read the needles arent that bad! mind you i couldnt stand them 3 years ago just getting a blood test was a major freak out for me but ya seem to get stronger through this process and now the hormones needles everything is just part of the journey im a bit freaked with work etc as the head cheifs dont knwo anything and i will have to travel to hamilton from tauranga so not sure how i will get around this one but im sure i will hope you all have a lovely day

Sorry for the late reply Mel, just been enjoying not having to worry about babies and have not looked on line.... Luckily for us (!?!?!!?) we don't have to book for a paid cycle for IVF treatment so we will do it when we have saved the money! Have secretly enjoyed not having to think about it(just between you and me ( and everyone else on line!). Have been working and playing hard It has been such a long time since I haven't thought about ttc that I kinda feel a bit relieved, haven't even been taking folic, scary eh! I know what you mean about lot's of babies where you work..... Lot's where I work and have heard about lots where you work too!!!!! Crazy!!! What the!!!! Anyway, good luck sweetie.... I have applied for perm jobs as I don't want to pin all my hopes on babies, as I have done in the past.... Anyway, am focusing on the fact that I am a great (aunty) to my friends kiddies...Had some great news from an IVF couple that I know, they have just got pregnant naturally.... and they have the same problem that we do... so, I am about to go and ravage my husband

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