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DzinerGirl 
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Posted: 07 November 2011 at 9:30pm |
Noah started daycare for 2 days a week in the middle of September, we did a couple of half days with me staying with him to get used to the place and the teachers.
The first 2 days he was there (without me) went great I barely got a kiss and a wave when I went to leave however...since then he cries when I leave  sometimes when I put him down once we walk in the door!
I know he enjoys it as all the teachers say what a smiley boy he is and the photos in his portfolio prove it but when will the crying stop?! It breaks my heart somedays even though I know he stops the moment I'm out of sight.
Has anyone experienced something similar? Is it more of a boy thing rather than a girl thing?
Any advice?! 
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Kellz
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Posted: 08 November 2011 at 7:08am |
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My DS does the same, and stops crying almost instantly as soon as Im out of sight and is happy as while there, then cries again when he sees me when I go pick him up! I think its really normal. Just be confident in your decision to have him there, and be positive and up-beat about all the cool things hes going to be doing that day, on your way to daycare and when u drop him off. If he sees your happy about it then he will get his confidence from you.
DD started at 15 months and cried almost the whole time she was there as well as at drop-off, pick-up for 6 months- I wasnt happy about having her in there, never planned for her to go to daycare but had bad pnd and needed her to be there so I could attend therapy appts,....after 6 months the head teacher had a good talk to me,....and once I started being positive in the mronings and excited about daycare she settled straight away and was fine after that!
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Posted: 08 November 2011 at 9:46am |
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Thanks Kellz, I have started saying things like " yay we're going to school today" and "you're going to have fun at school today aren't you" and things like that, so I guess I'll continue doing that.
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Posted: 08 November 2011 at 9:49am |
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I just tell my little one to be a big girl and you will be fine..
Mine was crying first then stopped for about 6 months and then back to it... but only on the first back a tuesday - goes 3 in a row - happy by Thursday again
Also going thru the 18 months seperate again
I know a couple of kids that still cry at 4.. just as long as they no crying all day then will be fine
It is hard tho...
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Posted: 08 November 2011 at 10:38am |
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Oh Cheryl, its way tougher for the mummies aye?! We have Pip in daycare one day a week, and she loves it. I noticed if I drop her off quickly, then go without lingering, she is fine. If I stay and give her kisses & cuddles, then she starts to cry. DH has noticed the same, we feel bad dropping & running, but it works for us & she is much happier too
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Posted: 08 November 2011 at 10:51am |
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I have been through it with both. DD took longer to come out of it but she did - probably took 2-3 weeks.
DS started daycare 2 weeks ago, into his 3rd week now. First couple of days there I barely got a wave good bye but then he got separation anxiety, however same as you I knew he was settling quickly after I left and having a great time. It still breaks your heart though.
He is already over it now, he will hold my hand and I spend about 5-10 mins mucking around with him, then we will go to his teacher and he will ask for a hug and kiss and say bye mum. Soooo happy now that there are no tears! This morning he even asked when we were going to school! Guess that it is just a big change having heaps of other kids around and they need time to adjust and feel really comfortable. Even us grown ups feel anxious when we are out of our comfort zones.
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Posted: 08 November 2011 at 11:05am |
At our daycare there is always a carer with a cuddle for each chilld as the parent leaves. DD's carer would pick her up, tell her to say bye to mum and they'd wave. Then as soon as I was out the door she'd quickly interest DD in something else. 90% of the time it was DD's carer but once she settled in it was sometimes another carer if hers was busy. Is someone doing that for your boy?
hang in there tho, it gets easier 
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Posted: 08 November 2011 at 1:05pm |
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Jacob does exactly the same thing. Just like Noah, sometimes he'll start crying the moment I put him down, even if I'm just stashing his nappies in his cubbyhole etc. It gets easier, it's honestly just that they love Mummy and don't want to leave you - but once you're gone they'll have a ball.
Jacob's been really good for the last couple of weeks, so it's possible he's grown out of it? But whether they do or not, it's pretty normal, if that helps at all.
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Posted: 10 November 2011 at 8:13am |
 Kellz wrote:
My DS does the same, and stops crying almost instantly as soon as Im out of sight and is happy as while there, then cries again when he sees me when I go pick him up! I think its really normal. Just be confident in your decision to have him there, and be positive and up-beat about all the cool things hes going to be doing that day, on your way to daycare and when u drop him off. If he sees your happy about it then he will get his confidence from you.
DD started at 15 months and cried almost the whole time she was there as well as at drop-off, pick-up for 6 months- I wasnt happy about having her in there, never planned for her to go to daycare but had bad pnd and needed her to be there so I could attend therapy appts,....after 6 months the head teacher had a good talk to me,....and once I started being positive in the mronings and excited about daycare she settled straight away and was fine after that! |
Pretty much what happened to us! He settled alot better (though still not brilliantly) when I was confident for him. We've ended up pulling him out for a few reasons but a big one was that even at 4 he really had trouble settling but there are a few factors involved. Hope she settles for you soon!!
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