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noisybaby Members Profile Find Members Posts Senior Member Joined: 08 January 2009 Location: Dunedin Points: 378	Post Options Post Reply Quote noisybaby Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: hitting Posted: 05 August 2010 at 1:12pm
	This has probably been covered before but I would like some advice on how to stop my DD whos 2yrs old to stop hitting me and her 3month old brother. She hits me in the face to the point I have had to stop wearing my glasses and I have tried ignoring the behaviour but she keeps doing it. Do I leave her to keep doing it till she stops as I don't respond or what do i do.? I have told her its not nice and it hurts but she just laughs and does it again. By the way she isn't speaking yet but does understand everything When she hits her brother I just ignore her and make a big fuss over him. It kind of works. What do i do shes driving me insane


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first Members Profile Find Members Posts Senior Member Joined: 17 January 2008 Location: Auckland Points: 1357	Post Options Post Reply Quote first Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 05 August 2010 at 2:04pm
	In our house hitting is absolutely unexceptable. If my son hits I put on my absolutely horrified voice and say "I can't believe you just hit, That is not exceptable." I then pick him up and dump him in time out. I say when you are ready to say sorry you can come out. Usually he's out in a few minutes appologising and giving kisses to the person he hit. He does sometimes hit when he gets over excited and I see that as a different matter. I just grab his arm and say remember we don't hit its not nice, lets find something nice to do with your hands - let clap instead. Sometimes they just need the energy redirected.


Shelt Members Profile Find Members Posts Senior Member Joined: 17 May 2008 Location: Tauranga Points: 1181	Post Options Post Reply Quote Shelt Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 05 August 2010 at 8:56pm
	I just grab both her hands and make sure she is looking at me then say "we don't hit in our house, hitting is not acceptable" and then pick her and and put her in time out. I then tell her she can come out when she is ready to say sorry. Normally she says sorry right away when I go back after a minute or so and gives whoever she hit a cuddle. I think the key is to give a consistant message - that isn't something she should be doing - and keep giving a consequence.


Shezamumof3 Members Profile Find Members Posts Senior Member Joined: 14 April 2007 Points: 10096	Post Options Post Reply Quote Shezamumof3 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 07 August 2010 at 9:30pm
	My boy is 2 as well. I do the same as shelt and grab DS' hands and tell him "No, we dont hit, thats not nice" in a very firm voice and look him right in the eyes and that always makes him realize he has been naughty. He sometimes hits me, but not often, but he hits his sister quite a bit, on the head usually when she is annoying him. I also tel him to say sorry, even though he cant actually say sorry yet, his speech is getting better though. Terrible twos! Arghh


crafty1 Members Profile Find Members Posts Senior Member Joined: 03 July 2008 Points: 1024	Post Options Post Reply Quote crafty1 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 16 August 2010 at 3:29pm
	ditto the above. I make sure to say why too. eg We don't hit that hurts me, or makes me sad. it helped my boy understand when he was hit quite hard at a playgroup. i talked about how that made him feel sad and scared.


Natalie_G Members Profile Find Members Posts Senior Member Joined: 09 June 2008 Location: North Shore Points: 1638	Post Options Post Reply Quote Natalie_G Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 17 August 2010 at 2:40pm
	It drives me mad aswell. Arianne hits me, no one else, I must be a push over. I always say its naughty to hit. Doesn't seem to work.


HoneybunsMa Members Profile Find Members Posts Senior Member Joined: 01 February 2009 Location: NZ Points: 1724	Post Options Post Reply Quote HoneybunsMa Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 16 September 2010 at 10:31pm
	Oooohh I wish someone had advise for a 15mth old. DD hits and knows its not good. I already pull her up for it. I figure we say no so often that with this in particular I say we don't hit we hug instead. I'm hoping I can nip it in the bud now so that it doesn't get bad later. I normally pull her hands away as well and get down to her level or pick her up and put her on my lap. Sometimes its because she gets so over excited and I know she can't express herself properly but other times its because she is actually angry

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