TT again - moving into undies

I need a TT coach please

Dan is great with using the potty for wees if he has nothing on his lower half. Will stop what he's doing, go wee, come back and tell me very proudly (often with the potty in his hands) and then gets on till next time. He'll sometimes poo in it; otherwise he'll get me a nappy and tell me he wants it on.

This has been happening for a few months. So I decided to take it forward a step. We got some undies (so so cute). But, he just wees in them. I don't know if :
a) he thinks they're like nappies, so he can wee in them (though he seems a bit upset when he's realised he's wee'd), or
b) having his bits covered means he isn't so conscious of needing to go. But that doesn't make that much sense cos it's an internal feeling of needing to go.

It's only been a couple of days and we're going gently, not making a fuss if he wees in the undies. I'm not sure what's the best way to go forward.

Do we keep trying the undies so he gets more used to them?
Do we drop the undies for a bit?

I don't care if he wets them - we have heaps now, but I don't want him getting distressed. And given that he's successful without them on, does he just need a bit of time to get used to them so all the connections line up again in his brain? I'm also not hugely fussed if he doesn't TT yet, but given that he's great without undies, I thought (and Plunket thought) it was probably a good time to give it a go.

Help! I need 0800-Toilet Trainer.

Yeah, that's why I'm not wanting to push it, but it's just that he's great if he has nothing on.

Jack was like that for a long time. TT was a very long process for us and it made me feel like the most useless parent ever. Caprece was so easy which made me realise it is the child not the parent that choses when TT happens. On that note I think you have a pretty sweet attitude to it which is the way to be

I think if I was in that situation I would go back to no undies for a bit and then reintroduce them. Remind him about going to the toilet as well and maybe make a big deal of you going and how you need to pull your pants down.

Good luck!

That's interesting Kakapo. Nice to hear I'm not the only one!

Thanks everyone for your advice. I hadn't thought about the motor thing of not being able to get his undies off. We might practice that and gradually build up the time in undies so he gets used to them, and just give him lots of time to run round in the nude (bugger that it's winter, poor child).

He "knows" that you do wees and poos in the potty (we talk lots about it in the car and when DH and I go to the loo and Daniel tells me that wees and poos go in the potty) but that's not yet connecting to action.