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    Posted: 17 April 2009 at 9:26am
My DS has started to bite... all the time. He doesn't bit hard yet but I really don't want it to get that far. Does anyone have any suggestions to get him to understand that this is not Ok??????

I would hate for him to bit another child or say one of his grandparents.
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Hi Bex
My DS2 is a biter I dont have any great suggestions as Im still working with it but this is how I deal with it consistantly - I approach him , remove him from situation then using a firm voice I tell him biting hurts & is not Ok or similar & walk away & ignore him, I then comfort then bite'ee/ victim. Unfortunately he bites others & I have to constantly watch him.
I hope for your benifit Alex doesnt start biting others. Good Luck curbing it
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Timeout worked for us. Takes a while for them to get the idea of what timeout is about but it is very effective. We started at around 1 with Spencer, they aren't too young to understand it. Just first start with say 15 secs and work up to the minute. You may need to put him back into timeout several times before he gets that he has to stay there.
One day I had to put Spencer back at least 50 times, and then another day he tested me and bit every time he came out of time out just to see if I would keep putting him back for doing it again, which I did.


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I have resorted to biting mine back. Not hard but enough for him to know that it does hurt and he shouldn't do it.

I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived!
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When Dom started biting I would put him straight down and say firmly 'no biting, we are gentle with each other in our family'. Then I would get him to show me how to be gentle. It works well with hiting and pinching too.
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my bo9y bits and i tried everything everyone suggested and nothing worked......even though we tell him it hurts he just smiles like he is trying to tickle you............i feel sorry for him....he only does it to us and hasnt done it to any kids ............now i shove a carrott in his mouth...........he says yum and forgets about biting me.................good luck
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I picked Fay up from daycare today and was told that she has started biting there. I thought we had dealt with this one months ago and managed to contain it to just me really. She was about 9 months old when this started and now it seems to only happen when she is really excited and forgets herself
We have always used the same approach as Glow
sharp
Stop, that hurts,
she is removed from the activity,
I over comfort the victim *( tho it has to this point mainly been me),
then exclude her from what ever activity we were doing for a few minutes
then she apologizes and we carry on
I talked to her tonight about how nice it was having friends and playing and how she was a nice girl but that nice girls don't bite anyone and that her friends will not want to play with her and that would be sad - not sure how much she understood, but she is a fair bit older than alex
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Hey Bex, it is actually quite common for kids between around 1 to 3 years to bite... Often it's due to either; teething, lack of expressive language resulting in frustration, excitement or anger (with no verbal way to express). For example if a child takes a toy off them, older children generally no how to say "no I'm playing with it" kinda thing, however, before that language develops some kids express this through bitting...

When I worked in an early intervention team and this is what recommended to parents to deal with biting...

1. comfort the bitten first - this is giving them the attention and not the biter... help give the bitten appropriate language to say to the bitter (e.g. that hurt, stop)
2. be consistant and use age appropriate language for the child. At one there receptive language is probably around 2 key words a phase so getting into any long explanations of why not to bit is not going to sink in...
3. As biting often functioning as a means to express themselves help them learn the appropriate words or actions to do so.
4. watch for situations that provoke biting and remove the child from the situation before it happens - e.g. little ones don't have the ability to share yet so provide them with their own toy.
5. don't bite back as this isn't teaching any social skill to replace the problem behaviour it is merely reinforcing it.

I wouldn't get too upset about it as it is a very common reaction! oh yeah and if you think it could be due to teething maybe try just giving him something he can bit ...
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Wow, thanks for all the advice. I think in the end it was just teething, new tooth cut on weekend, and the biting seems to have settled down a bit now, only seems to do it now when hes excited.

Will keep all the advice in mind though.

Thanks
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Hi,

We tell or little one its naughty, put her in time out and we also got this great stuff at the chemist you can put on your finger or whatever and if they try to bit you aim it at them and it is really bitter so it discourages them from biting.
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote Candkids Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 24 April 2009 at 6:36pm
sarah was a really REALLY bad biter i tried everything but nothing worked so in the end i bit her back, and she never did it again .
there was a really good article in littlies mag last year about it, they may have it on their web site

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DS 11mths
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