Pregnant again - why arent I happier?

After 2 mc this year I have just fallen pregnant again - so why do I feel like crying all the time? It is hard to stay positive, and I am torn between positive thoughts will help - and don't get your hopes up. I am sure being so stressed about it won't help the baby, I just don't know if I am strong enough to cope with another loss.
Any magic tricks to cope with the first 20 weeks pregnancy after loss? It is bad enough I run to the bathroom 10 times a day to check for bleeding, and I am only 41/2 weeks.

Big congrats!  I know how you feel. I was nervous as hell when I fell pregnant straight after my MC (especially when people were telling me off for not waiting the full cycle).  But I decided how I felt wouldnt stop me MCing if thats what was going to happen so I may as well enjoy the pregnancy and think positively.  IT was definately a bury my head in the sand mentalitly but I worried (a virgo so I worry about anything) that if I worried all the time I would be cheating the baby out of me enjoying the pregnancy and that made me feel worse.....did that make sense.

 

So sit back and relax.....deal with it if you need to IF it happens.

 

I know this sounds very airy fairy but I also had a strong vision in my mind of me holding my baby at an upcoming wedding.  It was so vivid that I held on to that everytime I got nervous.  Funnily enough, now I dont think that it will be a girl but we'll see

congratulations...smoody..that was so well said !

I probably have a different view..i lost a baby to missed mc at 12 weeks and throughout the whole of my preg with E is was terrified...every person who told me not to worry just irritated me more:)even though I know they were trying to help...i really really tried to chill out but to be honest I stressed most of the time.. I was sad I got cheated out of being happy and chilling out :(!!!!

anyway I just took it one day at a time...acknowledged how I was feeling and spoke to people who understood.. I don't have any magic tricks though:( !

I've also been through two MC although not in a row. What helped me was having a couple of early scans - had one at 6 weeks because I had some bleeding (once I saw the blood I was like, right, thats it, its all over) but the scan showed a heartbeat. I then had another one at 8 weeks because I knew so much could happen between 6-8 weeks. The scans really helped me..and the doctor was happy to give me a scan referral if it helped with my stress levels.

Good luck!

I know just how you feel.
I have been through an ectopic at the end of june after 3 years of trying for number 2 and just a few weeks ago found I was Preg again. Unfortunately this one is going to miscarry so I am just waiting.

I remember saying to the u-sound tech that becasue of the ectopic the whole innocence has been taken from me.
I was on tender hooks waiting for the 1st scan at 5w5d.

I remember knowing nothing with my son only excitement (no fear) but I can never go back there.

It is so hard to stay tve but you need to hold onto the smallest bit of tve information and focus on that.

Something that helped me this time (although frowned upon by family) was to start planning, looking for baby gear, trademe, websites. I felt silly and was "worried" I would jinx it, but it did help me look to the future with my new baby in it.

I told my husband I couldn't do it all again if this one didn't work out, but all I can think about now is when we can try again.

Stay strong, sometimes its hard but try to keep yourself positive, find anyting that can help you do that.


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