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FionaS
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Topic: W-h-i-n-e (toddler, not mummy) Posted: 27 December 2007 at 11:21am |
Gabrielle is teething ATM and is whinging a LOT.
The worst time for us is first thing in the morning. She gets up happy but immediately starts whinging away wanting breakfast. This has always been the case. I give her a banana and drink while I make her cereal but I'm obviously not fast enough as she whinges and whinges and whinges. Every morning is the same and it is a really draining way to start the day. If I sit her in her highchair and chat to her while I make breakfast she totally melts down but if I let her run around she pulls at my legs and whinges.
Is this just expected toddler behaviour or should I be trying to teach her to be more patient? At the moment I just get her food ready as quickly as I can, without appearing flustered. She then whinges all through breakfast but is ok afterwards.
It just feels like the whinging has increased a lot lately yet I know she has sufficient language to ask for what she wants instead of whinging.
Any tips? Or do we just hang in there until this stage passes? As far as we can tell, we are not doing anything to encourage or reward the whinging but at we are also not doing time out or anything.
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Posted: 27 December 2007 at 12:00pm |
No tip's jsut hugs I have the samething with Mikey at the moment. And add Alan to the mix it is worse. I jsut move as fast as I can for Mike yto avoid unnessary noise.
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Posted: 27 December 2007 at 12:19pm |
So maybe it is just an age thing. I guess by about 18mths they'll be better able to understand us when we ask them to be patient
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Posted: 27 December 2007 at 12:30pm |
LOL I found 18 months with alan worse, but then I had a new born then tho.
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Posted: 27 December 2007 at 12:57pm |
BellaBabysMum wrote:
18 months PFFFT Ella still whinges, ok so shes 17 months but the whinging gets worse. i think its frustration at not being able to tell us what they want. Ellas good though she will say Ta and point to what she wants. |
shhhhhhhhhhhhhh not listening!!!
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Posted: 27 December 2007 at 2:04pm |
its a stage and it will pass right about the time they leave home lol
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Posted: 27 December 2007 at 2:26pm |
james wrote:
its a stage and it will pass right about the time they leave home lol |
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Posted: 27 December 2007 at 5:17pm |
Oh boy, sounds just like my 2 yr old!! The minute she wakes up all she says is "make a milo, make a milo" repeatadly. Even when you're getting the bottle ready & boiling the jug she's saying it. Normally it's Dh making it, so you can hear him say "yes Gia, I'm making it now, see, making it now" then she replies "make a milo, make a milo". Grrrr!! All the same, it is cute! Once the bottle is in her hand she's happy as & don't hear her saying again til the next morning  .
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Posted: 27 December 2007 at 7:05pm |
Briona was a real toughie at waking as well - still is hard of waking but not as bad to us! - After too much grizzling, for both our sanities, I would put her back to bed with the door open and she could try again. Usually that bought me a bit more time to get things ready.
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Posted: 27 December 2007 at 7:36pm |
busymum wrote:
Briona was a real toughie at waking as well - still is hard of waking but not as bad to us! - After too much grizzling, for both our sanities, I would put her back to bed with the door open and she could try again. Usually that bought me a bit more time to get things ready. |
what a great idea chick I must try that with Mikey.
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Posted: 27 December 2007 at 8:46pm |
We do the same thing - the girls are told that whinging does not get them anything. They are reminded that they need to ask nicely and wait patiently or it doesn't happen. Ayja has been hard with this one, and it is a stage they go through at that age as well but it's not something you should come to expect, more use it as a time to remind them and enforce what you say. If the girls can't wait patiently while we get something etc, we make them hop away from us.
ie: "Yes ayja, when i have put this.. on the plate i will get you that drink, If you cannot wait nicely for it in the kitchen with me you will have to go away. Can you sit here and wait nicely?" and then we usually just talk and distract her as we finish whatever we are doing.. ie talking about what it is that she wants what colour cup is she going to have etc.. you know the mindless bollocks. lol
We also encourage them to "use your words please" "you need to ask for what you would like, can you say a drink please mummy?" we are probably also a bit nazi on manners.. just gentle reminders like "please and thankyou are the words..." is usually enough now to make them go "please mummy?"
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