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Shorty
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Topic: OH MY GOSH! Posted: 04 August 2008 at 12:02pm |
My son THREW himself on the floor last night 4 times!
1st we thought he had fallen over coz as quick as he went down he got up....
2nd time he whinged.....
3rd time he kicked his legs and screamed...a boy scream so was pathetic......
4th time he rolled back and forward letting out a terrible whinge noise.
He was tired and just lost the plot! He had a small sleep during the day about half of what he would have normally had, then his bike would not "park up" like he wanted it to.
We have tried to teach him to ask for help when he needs/wants something. But there was no way he was going to ask.
What do I do?
I just sort of left him as I didn't want to create a further problem
We then went to get stuff for dinner, well he didn't want to get back in the car so tried to run the other way, I diverted him by making the walk to the car a "race" with him....well 3 steps later he worked it out and tried going the other way, I asked him to walk nicely but he just bolted. So I calmly picked him up and got him to the car and he was kicking away! Got the the car seat and he arched his back was putting on this awful whinge like cry (so fake and pathetic) I just carried on calmly and told him it is home time. Got him in the car and then left and started to point out the lights around us to stop him yelling and crying.
I just hope it was a one off......
I am not sure what to do when it happens?
Please tell me we have not hit the terrible two's, we have done so well till now
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Posted: 04 August 2008 at 12:41pm |
Hahaha it must be the terrible two's well for our boys anyway...
Lycan did something similar the other day while we were out shopping at the mall. He wanted a ball and i said NO because he has about 10! so as we got out of K-Mart he decided to sit on the ground and scream...i walked about 5 meters away from him and waited for him to stop in the mean time people were stopping and talking to him thinking he was lost & that made him stop. When i finally had enough of his behaviour i picked him up, he carried on screaming all the way to the car, everyone was looking at me like i was a mean mum.....when we got to the car he wouldn't get in his seat, when i finally got him in his seat he started kicking me and arching his back, somehow i managed to get his seat belts on him...
So just know you are not alone, i too hope that that was a one off.....fingers crossed for the both of us!!
Sorry i have no advise on how to handle the situation if it happens again, cos' like you i am new to dealing with paddy's in public....
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Posted: 04 August 2008 at 1:17pm |
Ahh yes...I was going to post a new topic about the terrible two's as well and how suddenly they seem to have appeared!!!
Alyssa hasn't had an actual tantrum yet (touch wood), but she is certainly crying more and playing deaf-ears more than ever before. Definitely seems to be testing the boundaries and I guess I put it down to the age thing too. She also has a fake cry/whine thing happening.
Sounds like you're handling it the way I would in terms of trying to ignore Tyrell when he plays up - so sorry I don't have any tips either as we're new to the game as well :) I'm just hoping she won't be like me as a toddler and scream until she passes out..
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Posted: 04 August 2008 at 1:56pm |
Oh my gosh can I type LOL Pepsi?
Oh Deez and in public...lol I probaly wouldnt have worried what everyone else would say or do, I will still do what you did
My mum told me I used to go to my room and throw myself on the bed and let loose so when I told her she just laughed.
We have been able to distract him till now.....I just hope he doesn't kept it up.
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Posted: 04 August 2008 at 2:02pm |
I was JUST last night talking to Pearls on MSN about all of the above! Seriously, Ashlee must know she's turned 2 and now has decided to become terrible, too.
It's embarrassing to have everyone staring at you in the mall, but what more can you do??! If you've done all you can to negotiate with the monster, then as long as they're safe, I'll let Ashlee throw a tantrum, or DH will pick her up and carry her to where we need to go.
Some days, I have a short wick; most days I have the patience to deal with it. But I'd also love some tips and tricks for tantrums.
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Posted: 04 August 2008 at 2:02pm |
Oh two is such a magical age!! Amy does the collapsing on the floor thing too - she even banged her head a few times - until she realised that it really does hurt on the hard wood floor!!! LOL!!
We tend to ignore it, as it mostly happens when we are at home and she doesn't get her own way.
We have a problem with the running away - she is not shy or scared of much and thinks it is a great game. So for us it is either walk holding hands or be in the pushchair.
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Posted: 04 August 2008 at 3:53pm |
LOL Yep, Kirst and I had a good chinwag about this one - if at home, we usually leave her to it depending on the reason for the tanty. In public, I'll ask, tell, and then do it for her or alternately just carry her off if we are in a hurry or needing to leave.
For example we were at the Food Show on the weekend, and Erin discovered she could sit inside a giant Croc shoe they had on display at the Crocs stand. People thought it was so cute and kept asking if they could take photos, as she was smiling and waving at everyone who walked by! We wanted to move on though, but she definitely didn't - so DH just heaved her up out of the shoe when she didn't comply and walked her down to the other end of the hall (though not before the Crocs lady gave her a free Jibbitz to stick in her shoe in an effort to calm her a little).
She was absolutely screaming blue murder all the way, and thrashing about, but was eventually distracted enough to forget.
Sometimes we just have to laugh it off too, so much effort coming from such a little person!  It's all you can do really.
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Posted: 04 August 2008 at 4:24pm |
Tyrell??.... No mum you must be wrong, with that angelic face and gorgeous smile I couldnt ever imagine it  .
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Posted: 04 August 2008 at 7:09pm |
It sounds like most kiddies definitely do a big turnaround once they hit 2..and literally, almost smack bang after their 2nd birthdays!!
Maybe there is some kind of "invasion of the bodysnatchers" thing going on that we didn't know about?!
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Posted: 04 August 2008 at 7:52pm |
Our 2 year old stuff started at 22 months.
I posted in another thread but our current challenges are:
SCREAMING - just one or two very loud screams if you say no or ask her to do something. We don't get major tantrums as such, just a scream and a wriggling crying lump.
Running away at e-v-e-r-y SINGLE request. No matter how little or how appealing ,she says no and runs away.
Running away everytime you say stop - this one is very dangerous and driving me nuts.
Tonight she was playing with some little canvas paintings and accidentally bumped one into my head so I said gentle "ooopsy, careful of mummy". She immediately looked really annoyed and whacked me with the canvas!
You have no idea how ironic all this is given DH and my personalities. We never ever raise our voices, or fight or even argue and there is certainly no violence in our home but Elle seems to have a rough predisposition. No idea where she gets it all from!!!!!
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Posted: 04 August 2008 at 8:55pm |
It would be great to put them all in one room and see just who pushes who first, and who the bossiest one is! You know, they'd probably be absolute angels in each others company *rolls eyes*.
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Posted: 04 August 2008 at 9:30pm |
For the longest time my mum thought Erin was the perfect angel because Erin almost never misbehaved when her Nana was around, though that did eventually change!
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Posted: 05 August 2008 at 10:02am |
LOL Kels yep my precious little man let loose on Sunday.
I am happy to say we had a tantrum free day yesterday.....lol long may it live
Ha kirsten I could imagine a fee seranios if we did that!
I would love for my son to keep this behaviour at home, not sure if I could be as patient in public!
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Posted: 05 August 2008 at 10:08am |
Oh you just get sly looks like you've just beaten your child...hahaha......we'll have to harden up...
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Posted: 05 August 2008 at 7:58pm |
Amy, I would have done the exact same thing.
baalamb wrote:
It would be great to put them all in one room and see just who pushes who first, and who the bossiest one is! You know, they'd probably be absolute angels in each others company *rolls eyes*. |
Nup not my daughter! She'd definitely try her luck until one of the others set her straight. She did it with Tyrell and now they're best of friends lol
*touch wood* we have not had a public tanty as yet (please don't let her read this!) when she does the roll-on-the-floor-kicking-and-screaming thing at home I just step over her and walk away so it lasts about 5 seconds.
If they haven't got an audience it's not worth the effort for them (or so the "experts" say)
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Posted: 06 August 2008 at 1:05pm |
Ugh and when they are sick and tired and Bored...WHAT A HIDEOUS day that can be!
Blake hasnt done a tantrum thing yet..but can be known to whine and say No....
I am waiting.....
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Posted: 11 August 2008 at 1:51pm |
ok so I am over this whole Sunday preformance!
We had a lovely day, I played soccer while dad took son for a nice bike ride and run around the park.
We had lunch and a browse through the shops, then he had a really good 2 hour sleep. Woke up happy as, but by 6.30ish he had lost the plot. Starting out with hitting me, I took him away and sat him on his couch and explained it is not ok to hit mummy. He got up and hit me again (not hard at all just to show his thoughts on the situation) dad stepped in and took him to his couch and said you can not hit mummy, made him sit for 2 mins got him up and told him no hitting mummy and you need to say sorry....he came over and said "sorry no hitting mumm" gave me a kiss, I then said lets have some play time, he wanted to draw, got the pens and paper, well that lasted less than 2 minutes....he threw the pens all over the place. I took the pens and said we don't throw them and he did it again, I told him he would sit on the couch again.....well he threw them accross the room. Put him on the couch and he cried, got him up after 2 mins and told him we don't throw pens and he helped me pick them up.
He gets on this wee tangent! it is insane! I am struggling with what to do with it.....I think from now on I will just totally ignore him.
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Posted: 11 August 2008 at 11:08pm |
Hehe, the worst is yet to come
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Posted: 11 August 2008 at 11:09pm |
I reckon try lots of different things and see what works for you when he throws a tantrum. Ignoring Isaac seems to work best for us, but other times he needs to be removed from a situation until he calms down.
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Posted: 12 August 2008 at 11:37am |
What you mean it gets worse?
My angel somehow has just vanished! lol he has been fine again.....he is weird!
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