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Neeks 
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Posted: 19 January 2009 at 6:15pm |
with the word 'No' that makes my daughter want to go back for another go???
OMG it's so frustrating when she plays with the buttons on the telly, the DVDs and just lately... her girly bits when I'm changing her nappy 
Is she just testing the boundaries or is there something more too it?? She knows she's not allowed to touch these things as it's been a repetitive exercise since she became mobile and it's just getting worse
HELP!!!!!!
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Posted: 19 January 2009 at 6:17pm |
Lauren is obsessed with her girly bits ATM too 
I am hoping its just a phase?
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Posted: 19 January 2009 at 6:26pm |
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Gosh Jack plays with his willy all the time! I have never told him off for that though
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Posted: 19 January 2009 at 6:41pm |
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Luke is just as bad (not with the playing bit - he seems to take no notice) he loves the TV and anything he isn't supposed to touch. I think they see the NO thing as attention so they keep doing it. Lukes other favourite pasttime is climbing up on the picnic table outside - I have never allowed him up there, yet he continues...
Guess we keep trying and wait for them to get old enough to fully understand. Distraction seems to be the only way often...
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Posted: 19 January 2009 at 6:56pm |
This is going to sound weird. Try and change the tone of your No. It works. Cooper wont' respond if I just use my usual voice but I have a No voice and he doesn't touch anything.
I think its just part of the toddler world, needing to explore and touch everything. Eventually they will get bored and move onto something else that they aren't meant to touch! 
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Posted: 19 January 2009 at 7:28pm |
My guess is that each item is just too facsinating to stay obedient for long LOL
ETA: Don't worry about the genitals, it's natural exploration and they do grow out of it. The annoying thing is when they get themselves dirty that way.
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Posted: 19 January 2009 at 8:10pm |
LOL, I suppose it's a way of getting my attention even if it's kind of a negative type of attention.... she doesn't know any better.
As for the girly parts... I know it's something 'new' that she's found but it's kind of embarrassing when your in a mums and bubs room at a mall and she's playing with herself LOL makes me want to up and leave without looking back
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Posted: 19 January 2009 at 8:19pm |
Wait till she's Leahs age and spends all day in the nude for potty training.........I think her hand just stays in her bits all day no matter what she is doing (then of course she wants to come and climb all over me)
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Posted: 19 January 2009 at 8:47pm |
 LeahandJoel wrote:
Wait till she's Leahs age and spends all day in the nude for potty training.........I think her hand just stays in her bits all day no matter what she is doing (then of course she wants to come and climb all over me) |
Haha I was just about to say the same thing 
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Posted: 19 January 2009 at 9:28pm |
.Mel wrote:
This is going to sound weird. Try and change the tone of your No. It works. Cooper wont' respond if I just use my usual voice but I have a No voice and he doesn't touch anything.
I think its just part of the toddler world, needing to explore and touch everything. Eventually they will get bored and move onto something else that they aren't meant to touch! |
I did read in one of Pinky McKay's books that they know that they aren't allowed to touch certain things ie TV etc but at their age they don't have any control (I suppose impulse control) and cannot help but touch it.
I generally don't say 'no' to Jack, I say 'leave it' or his name and if I use a bit of a deeper voice he stops doing whatever it is.
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Posted: 20 January 2009 at 8:38am |
Yep they all do it, and saying no usually makes things worse. Try moving her away saying no the first time then just removing her without speaking the rest. Or try and distract her onto another activity.
Wouldn't worry about her playing with her 'bits' lol! Thats completely normal 
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Posted: 20 January 2009 at 6:53pm |
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ahh yes I always though it was just boys who played with their bits although so far she only does this while I am changing her nappy
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Posted: 21 January 2009 at 12:09am |
Keziah only does it at nappy change time too cause thankfully it must disappear at bath time LOL but as soon as the nappy comes off at any other time it's WHAM and her hand is just there....
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Posted: 29 January 2009 at 10:58am |
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Gabrielle thinks no is a funny word and the more attention she gets for bad behaviour the more funny it is to her. Distraction is my best device now! I try to make sure she doesn't get bored and attention seeking in the first place and then when she does I bring out the cool toys like puzzles and stacky blocks etc that she loves.
It can be so incredibly frustrating though!!
GAbz is also starting to take notice of the girly bits at nappy change. So cute though when I give her a wipe she trys to wipe herself :)
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Posted: 29 January 2009 at 7:51pm |
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Playing with their bits is just natural and if you dont pay any attention to it - it will be just a phase.
I do suggest that you set boundaries for when you say "no" to her ie when touching the tv etc. I found that if I just had to keep repeating "no" it became a game unless there was a consequence if I had to repeat myself a couple of times. A time-out in the cot for 2 mins always works for me and I always made sure that there was a couple of warnings first before the consequence.
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Posted: 29 January 2009 at 9:30pm |
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I agree with Cat, we do the ask, tell, do thing here. First I ask them to stop, then I tell them to stop and if they still haven't stopped I remove them from whatever they are doing that they shouldn't, I usually count to 5 before I remove them too.
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