No heartbeat at scan

Hi all

Some of you may already know that we went for an eight weeks scan on Friday and were excitedly waiting to see a heartbeat only to be told by the sonographer that our baby measured 8 1/2 weeks but had no heartbeat We were and still are absolutely devastated

I now know this is called a missed miscarriage and I am wondering whether any one else has gone through this and gone on the naturally miscarry. Im hoping that because this has only just happened that I might miscarry naturally in the next week or so. I'm not sure how realistic it is that I'm thinking like this

My other question is how many miscarriages do you have to have before we can see a specialist to rule out any other problems that may be causing this to happen?

Hi Jax

I am really sorry that this has happened to you. We suffered a blighted ovum in July, we went off to the specialists all happy and came out devastated when they couldnt find an egg sac or a baby....my medical report from the hospital says 'missed miscarriage' I wonder if they are the same thing???

I started to miscarry naturally eventually, about 3 weeks after my first scan showed nothing and then opted for a D&C, my reasons for this were that I wanted the best start when we decided to TTC again.

Big hugs to you my dear, please feel free to PM me if you want/need to chat....

Hi there Rach. nope as far as i know a blighted ovum is different, in that basically things fail to develop.     whereas a missed misscarriage is usually the fact that the baby's heart has stopped beating for some reason, and it is usually picked up much later at a routine scan that baby stopped growing etc earlier than dates would suggest they are, or when the mum finally starts bleeding.

Rach i had the same thing as you, we went off to our 8 week scan and had the kids with us even, to see a beautiful wee perfect formed bubba, measuring right for dates if not a little bigger, and didn't even realise until they told us that they couldn't find a heartbeat or blood flow to baby.

I waited another week "just in case" for another scan to absolutely confirm, then another nearly 2 weeks until i could get in to have a D&C due to strikes thru the hospital. In that time i still continued to have morning sickness, sore bb's etc, my body had no signs of catching on really. Had i not requested that early scan i'd never have known until goodness knows when.

I am sorry to hear that you are going through this. it's terrible to have absolutely no warning at all and think things are fine only to go to a scan and find out that this isn't so.

huge hugs to you.

Oh Jax, I am so so sorry to hear this. Its so unfair.

You probably know I am in a similar situation, except I went for a 7 week scan and the fetus hadn't developed at all. I am waiting for a second scan just to double check that nothing has changed and then I want to have a d&c so that I will be able to have a chromosomal analysis done on the POC.

I think it can be very variable how long it may take to miscarry naturally. I go to an acupuncturist and she said she would be able to help speed up a natural mc, so if you can find a acupuncturist in your area that may be an option.

The public system won't do testing for recurrent mc until you have had 3, but I strongly recommend going to see a specialist privately to have the tests. I did and it only cost about $200 for the consultation and the tests were free.

Once again, I am so so sorry. I know I never expected ttc to be such a long hard journey and I am so sorry its turning out that way for you too.

I agree with the others re. the recurrent m/c specialist in that it takes 3 before you can get a referral. I've now had 3, but we are going to go private anyway just to be seen sooner. It's costing us $180 for the first consultation, the tests are free but if I need an ultrasound it will be between another $75-$190 (depending on what they are looking for).

I said in the May thread, my heart goes out to you.

I have been through this...found out at 12 week scan and bubs died at 8 weeks..so we had D and C as I couldn't face miscarrying at home and it had already been 5 weeks almost.. and they tested my baby straight away..

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Hi girls, thank you so much for your replies, it means alot that you have all shared your stories with me, it really helps me to prepare for what is yet to come.

Thing is, I thought the first m/c was just a one off and I didn't ever think that it would happen again, although it took me quiet a while before I was ready to get excited about this next pregnancy. And just at eight weeks I was starting to think yay this is gonna be a sticky wee baby. So gutted

But it helps to read of the success stories and know that we probably will have a baby one day, but gosh I never thought it would be this hard or emotionally painful.

Vanillabean big cause I know this must be really really hard for you at the moment as well, and thanks vb & minik8e for the idea of going to a specialist, I think we will do that. Wondering where in Hamilton we will find one, there is no recurrent miscarriage clinic, but there is a support group so might start with them to get some advice.

Thanks for all the kind thoughts girls, it really is appreciated, your all stars

Thanks Kate, I think thats where my dr is going to refer me to when I am ready, so I guess I will start there, just not sure when. I don't think I will leave it too long but am just waiting to see if this happens naturally first.

Jaxs, I just read your story and my heart dropped. The same thing happened to us just three weeks ago.

I opted for a d&c asap. That way I knew everything would be sorted, plus i got to sleep away the pain - i don't think i could have handled m/c at home.

big hugs and make sure you look after yourself physically and mentally

Im so so sorry this has happened to you as well jakinty big hugs, I found the first m/c so much easier to deal with but this one really sat me on my ar$e

Thanks foxy one, Im pretty sure I will be visiting the dr's later this week for the referral and ringing the hospital to try and get in early next week as I don't want to leave it too long either. Funny but my body does still think its a viable pregnancy, hope that starts subsiding soon.

Thanks for the info kate, I know you have recently been through a m/c as well and it is never easy. It does help to realise it not just me that actually quite alot of us go through this & go on to have healthy pregnancies.

Thanks heaps girls

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