BFN :(

I just got the call from F+ that I've been anxiously waiting for since my preg BT this morning - BFN. I was really hopeful this time, cos it was our second IUI, and they used 4 million strong healthy sperm and I had two good eggs, so I thought the odds were pretty good. My DH is overseas so I don't want to ring him as it's 2.30 a.m. over there, and I don't really want to talk to anyone else, but I'm pretty gutted.

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Oh, hon. I'm very sorry. Is there anyone else you can call?

Oh Catie I'm so sorry and I know how you feel. Give yourself the time to cry and just be upset it's important. You will move on and don't give up you can do this.

Catie I am so sorry

catie, I am so sorry to hear this.
Please take care and remember that we are all here if you need support.

Catie and Fergie Im so sorry. Catie dont give up now, once you hold your baby it will all be worth it and Fergie Im sorry to hear you have to go down the egg donar path and hope you find a donar quickly if you decide you want to go with that option, remember it takes more than eggs and sperm to make a parent, its how you love the baby you are blessed with.

Thanks guys.
I've treated myself to a pedicure today, and a mocca and eggs bene which I've been avoiding for the last couple of weeks and am feeling a bit better and more philosophical. I think coming off the progestrone doesn't help though - a bit of a crash, quite teary. But DH has been lovely, says we can just keep trying for as long as it takes (tho realistically if it hasn't worked by the 4th time statistically if probably never will). But we'll probably skip this next month and have some time to relax and not have our lives dominated by TTC.
Thanks again!

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Catie, I know how you are feeling. I had two days of tears and now just feel numb. I am not motivated to do anything and just keep lying in front of the T.V. I have an appointment with F+ on Wednesday again to look at what we can do. My husband was supposed to be coming to the appointment with me but now says that he is too busy at work and can' make it. It makes me upset when his work comes before this, because I think we are in this situation because we never started trying to conceive earlier because my husband thought the time was not right due to all his work commitments. After we had the bad news on Wednesday, my husband started blaming himself for what had happened and said that he always let his work come first. Yet, again he can't make the appointment on Wednesday because of work? Again, work is affecting our only chance of pregnancy. I don't have time on my side anymore as I am now 38.

My husband says we will just keep trying? F+ don't think it is worth it? I think they are going to start speaking to us about their egg donar programme.

I don't feel like I can really speak to my husband as he seems to be shutting this out of his mind! I think I am going to explore all options by myself. Someone at work told me about a homeopath in Browns Bay that has helped many people with fertility. I am going to see him on Friday. So, I am just going to try and stay positive! You must do the same!!

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