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    Posted: 23 December 2007 at 9:22pm
So DD has been wearing undies in the day for about 6 weeks now, she's been doing really well with only about 1 accident a week.
She has no problems at all going to the toilet to do wees BUT the problem is when it comes to doing poos in the toilet.
To start with she was only doing it at night or in the morning when she had her nappy on. Then she started holding on for about 3 days and would finally go either in her nappy or in her undies.
Now she's going more frequently but will not go in the toilet. Its usually in her undies once a day, or in the bath the other night grrrr.

I know when she needs to go as she starts getting really agitated and grizzling. She will say she needs to go to the toilet but if I sit her on it she cries and gets really upset and says she wants to get off. Then she will continue to jump up and down and grizzle every 10 mins or so. I've tried rushing her to the toilet right when it looks like shes going to go, but she seems to hold on.
Then she sneaks off and does it in her pants.

I really don't know what to do, I've tried sitting her on the toilet and bribing her with treats. I've even taken a toy off her and said she will get it back once she starts doing poos on the toilet. But nothing seems to work.

Please, does anyone have any ideas, I really need some help here.
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Maybe have a sticker chart or something so that everytime she goes poo in the toilet then she gets a sticker and shen she has X number of stickers then she gets a treat of her choice??

What about maing it into a game?? Maybe put some loo paper on the water and see if she can 'sink it' with her poo??? She might think thats fun??

I have no idea if these ideas actually work as I have no experience with toilet training, but these 2 ideas came to mind.

Hope you find something that helps
My beautiful 2 girls...nearly 4 and 13 months
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Originally posted by rubydooby rubydooby wrote:


What about maing it into a game?? Maybe put some loo paper on the water and see if she can 'sink it' with her poo??? She might think thats fun??


Sorry I have absolutely no experience either but this just made me crack up!!!!! The things us parents have to do huh!!!!
Kelly, mum to DD, 19Jun06 (26wks 1lb15oz) DS1, 24Oct10 (32wks 4lb11oz) and DS2, 31Dec11 (32wks, 4lb11)
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I think just keep on being positive and encouraging. Reward with stickers if you like but not in a way that she feels that she was psyched up to get a sticker and then lost out. It's hard for them to relax long enough to get a poo out and the pants/nappy/undies are what she is used to for now. I think you're doing great and just need to hold out for the time she surprises you. Sorry I know it takes ages, I'm just starting to TT #2!

With Hannah I found that if I got too excited and put her on the loo every time it looked like she needed to go, then she would tense up and get constipated - so I had to let the odd one go into her pants/nappy to keep her regular lol
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we had about six months from being toilet trained for wee to being toilet trained for poo. one day - he just clicked. We tried to make it not his fault as in "naughty poo for coming out in your pants, they belong in the toilet don't they?" which seemed a bit ridiculous but eventually worked and Jake didn't feel like we blamed him - although inside sometimes I was really annoyed.
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I second what the other ladies have said, it took Ashlyn longer to get the poos right and yep there were many days that I thought "not another pair of sh*tty undies!!" but it wasn't going to help her with me getting upset so we just persevered and made a really big point of making it a big deal when she did get one in the toilet.

I did have a couple of really bad days where I just couldn't deal with it all and just binned the undies, much eaiser to keep the peace!!

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Its so good to hear that some of you other ladies have had the same probem. I have a friend who thinks its weird that she won't go in the toilet, but I had read that it can be common.
I will just be patient with her, I know she will get it right one day and then I definitely will make a big deal of it.

Busymum DD is doing the same, she tenses up when I sit her on the toilet.

Kezplanet I've already thrown out a couple pairs of undies, sometimes its just all too much effort to have to clean up the mess.
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i am dealing with the same thing at the moment and i am getting sick of scrubbing poop out of undies so grose. we did have it sused but she got sick and went right back to square one.
have you tried a potty for poos my girl (before she got sick) was great at wees on toilet and wouldnt do pooes till DH took out the toilet to do some diy and i told my girls that thay had to go on the potty and next minute she had gone poos on it and afther that she was good(would go on the toilet). she is also a daddys girl so we trided ringing daddy at work so he could congradulate her that worked for a couple of days.
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