Discipline

Is Isla too young(13 months) to use a variation of the SuperNappy naughty stool method,...ie- get down to her level,...use a stern voice to say what we dont like about what shes done,...then remove her from the area- corner of lounge- where she can still see me,...ignore for 1 min,..then go back to her and say eg."mummy put you here cos you bit mummy and its not nice to bite,",..then hugs.

She seems to get the message! But is she too young? And is there something else that I should do instead?

ETA- I do not want to bite her back which has been sugested to me

Edited by Kellz

sorry to lurk i know i cant comment as i dont have a child yet but for that age at work.. we didn't put them in time out(cant at preschool) but we did do similar and if i was at home I would have.. as you say we got down to their level and said 'We don't bite each other at preschool, please be nice to your friends' and removed them from the play and then showered attention on the other child.. we would go back and see them after 1 min and talk to them about what they had done..even very young they seemed to understand..

yeah that is exactly what they teach us at college and what seems to work with under 2's (did that for 4 years) ...i feel weird answering this topic when I don't have a baby yet:)

yeah before that is a little young for time out..but still removing them etc works.. I'm not a fan of biting back either..it's a normal developmental stage.. will have to talk to my Mum about it and she believes in biting them back.. :(

She is defintely not too young! if she is giving you "that look" then definitely carry on with what you are doing!

Good Job!

Kellz, DD has started biting too (14 months) and pulling my hair - it's her favourite game and she calls it 'ow' and laughs. We are trying something similar, but she just laughs at us and thinks it's all a game. It's like she doesn't get it that we don't like what she's doing...am not sure what else to do, but hoping consistency will win out. So hard to keep it up when it doesn't seem to have any effect though!

What is wrong with DD then?? It really annoys me when she just laughs at me when I talk to her sternly (low voice, at her level etc.). Although she probably does know what she's doing is wrong because she watches me while she does it and laughs. Maybe she just likes the attention and I need to do more with her during the day...something to think about. Have been so tired lately I think I've been letting her down with that one.

Mazzy - Rhyley laughs at me too and goes to do it again - thats when i have to walk away - and thats what he doesn't want me to do so its easier for me to walk away than trying to get him to stay away (it just wouldn't happen)

Yeah I think definatley the ingoring part will work best for you Mazzy. When I put Isla in the corner of the room, even tho Im only a few metres away where she can see me, I sit half facing away from her, and pick up a book or something so she can see Im ingnoring her. Maybe you need to pick her up and put her by the door or something, then walk down the hall or next room etc, so that shes not getting the attention she wants from doing the hair pulling etc.
Also I remeber Super Nanny always reinforced to the parents that the other side of the naughty stool thing is postive praise,...praisng the child often, and being positive, giving lots of attention when they are doing things well, being good etc,...then removing this when they do something you dont like.
Good luck!

Thanks everyone for all your comments!

Edited to change spelling from 'Super Nappy' to 'Super Nanny'! Lol! Opps!

Edited by Kellz

Lol! Im a dork!