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Posted: 05 November 2007 at 12:22pm |
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Hi all
I've created a little monster!
Fabian is my fist child and all my family are up North and I have no friends with children, so my husband and I have been flying blind from the start and not doing a bad job at all!
BUT! Fabian will not go to sleep in his room unless someone stays with him until he is asleep - I've tried the whole leave the room and put him back in his bed routine, but I got up to 55 times and gave up.
I don't mind if we have to keep doing this and he'll eventually grow out of it or be old enough to understand that we are just in the next room and not leaving him - but just some nights when I resort to putting him in my bed after an hour with him, waiting till he falls asleep and then popping him back in his bed - I get so frustrated and sometimes I'm with him for an hour or so, although this has been made somewhat worse with daylight saving and no black out curtains!
HELP HELP HELP!
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cuppatea
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Posted: 05 November 2007 at 12:31pm |
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You could try sitting next to his cot/bed till he falls asleep and then slowly (over about 3 weeks) move your chair further and further away until you are no longer in the room.
You could also try sticking to what you were doing and just not give up, on Supernanny it takes them hours sometimes but in the end the kid always cracks and then each subsequent night it takes less time.
One other method is a pop in method, where you put him to bed then tell him you will be back, leave the room for a few secs then go back, then leave a little bit longer and keep increasing, eventually he will fall asleep waiting for you. Then each night you can slowly decrease the number of times you need to go back in by starting at a larger interval. That only works if he doesn't cry as soon as you attemp to leave.
Hope that helps.
I went to a Diane Levy sleep seminar and she has a book called save our sleep, it may be worth you buying it and it has lots of different approaches and you choose which one based on the personality of your child.
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lizzle
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Posted: 05 November 2007 at 12:31pm |
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My son taine is the same age and started off really well with his sleep[ing. now he goes to sleep well, but will wake up every night and will not go to sleep until he is in with me. can't even leave him with his dad - has to be me. this has been for like four months. we tried leaving him to cry it out and he cried for three hours (his bro slept through it all - weird) - and didn't go to sleep. so at the moment, i just go with it. what a lot of help i am - but letting you know you're not the oinly one. one thing we have tried and didn't work - a soft toy/comforter. Taine didn't care for it. but might work.
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fabians mum
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Posted: 05 November 2007 at 12:50pm |
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LOL - same here, has to be mum - not dad - mind you that's for everything, mum not dad - a real mummys' boy...
Hey question for you - does Taine hate his blankets being on him when he goes to bed? I found Fabian was waking every night and same story as you - in bed with mum, and I found out he was too hot and as soon as I changed his sheets to cotton - just gave him his blankie as a sheet and put him in short pjs, he started sleeping through the night. Maybe worth a try!
I've tried putting him to bed and saying i'll be back, but he just gets out of bed 2 seconds after I've closed the door and comes out, so I'll try putting back to bed routine when I'm off at christmas, at least then I don't have to worry about going to work the next day, and he can sleep in as well!
Thanks guys, I know it'll get better, it's the when that I need to know !
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FionaS
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Posted: 05 November 2007 at 12:55pm |
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Wow that sounds really tiring for you. As others have said, they key is consistency. Basically any method will work eventually providing you persevere. Keep in mind that the longer a habit continues, the longer it takes to break. All the best!
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fabians mum
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Posted: 05 November 2007 at 1:04pm |
My god tiring -  you're not kidding, the amount of sick days I had off at my last job, I'm surprised I didn't get fired!
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CuriousG
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Posted: 05 November 2007 at 2:15pm |
Welcome to my world. I know I have created the rod for my own back and now it seems really hard to try and get her to sleep in her own bed. I have resorted back to letting her fall asleep in our bed then moving her because in all honesty, I dont have the willpower to let her cry it out. She doesn't understand at this stage anyway.
I did do some research and apparently they do grow out of it eventually and most children want to sleep in their own rooms at some stage. So its up to you - if you can bear with it until it happens naturally then you are set! 
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Posted: 05 November 2007 at 2:34pm |
Yeah Fabian doesn't really understand that mummy is coming back to check on him - he thinks I'm leaving him EVERY time I leave the room and goes into panic...
I know he'll grow out of it, I just feel hopeless sometimes! Thanks 
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