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    Posted: 15 June 2011 at 8:57pm
Hi everyone

I've just found out I'm 7 weeks pregnant, it's totally unplanned and we were using condoms so I had no idea I could be pregnant, as my periods have always been a bit scattered. Even though its not planned, we plan to have the baby and are happy.

Anyway, I have been smoking a pack a day all this time. I threw away my smokes this morning when I got a positive pregnany test, but I am so scared that I might have done damage to my baby. Does anyone know much about this? I feel so bad
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As long as you try give up now its the best you can do.

I dont really know if there would be any affects to baby from that short amount of time. I think smoking long term can cause premature birth & asthma etc.

Dont be to hard on yourself Congratulations on your pregnancy. Wishing you a safe & healthy pregnancy
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And long term during pregnancy can cause small growth as well.
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from what I understand cigarette smoke reduces oxygen to the baby and can result in low birth weight/prematurity etc... but you are very early on, so if you stop now your baby is very unlikely to be effected :)

"A study published in the August 2009 journal Obstetrics and Gynecology found that expecting moms who quit in the first trimester actually raise their odds of delivering a healthy full-term, full-size baby to about the same as that of a nonsmoker. Moms who quit in the second trimester improved their odds, too, but not as much." (from baby centre)
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it's okay, don't be too hard on yourself - you know now and that's the important thing!

latest research says rather than give up cold turkey you should start to wean yourself off ciggs, unless you don't think you will go thru withdrawls

are you going to your GP to get your pregnancy confirmed? if so talk to them about how best to cut back or stop altogether, or ring the quitline and discuss with them

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don't beat yourself up- stopping now is the best thing you can do and it will not have affected your baby. The baby will not start get "supplies" from you for a few more weeks. And most for the risks are to do with later in pregnancy but stopping right now is fantastic! :)

I'd just like to disagree with Choco69 (sorry) but going cold turkey in my experience is your best bet. Read Alan Carr's "easy way to stop smoking". The actual physical "withdrawls" are over rated... nicotine only has a very short life (which is why you want a cigi about every half hour or so) so effectively you go through withdrawls every night when you sleep for 8 hours... thats how strong "withdrawls" are... you can sleep through them. The biggest thing I have found is just retraining your old habits but it is a fabulous gift to give your baby and yourself. If your partner also smokes it would be a good time for him to stop too as you will both have a better rate of long term success.

Anyway- thumbs up!
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My friend & also my DP read Alan Carr's - Easy Way to Stop Smoking. And gave up very easily. I fully recommend it
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Congratulations on your pregnancy Like everyone has said, stopping so early in the piece is great, even if you were smoking heavily before, and I don't think Bubs will have been affected too much. I'm sure long-term smoking right through pregnancy does the real damamge.

To be honest, it's nice to see someone quitting straight away and stressing so much, when so many people smoke like chimney's throughout. Even though this baby wasn't planned, he/she is obviously going to be very loved.

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I was in the same situation with my eldest,I was 6 and a half weeks when I found out,she wasn't planned,and I was a heavy smoker during that time....9 years later,shes fine.
There is no point feeling guilty for something you didn't know about,I also drank before I knew I was pregnant,im not going to feel guilty for that either.
Don't beat yourself up,you are wanting to quit...I would feel more guilty if I found out and still smoked during the pregnancy.





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Yeah don't feel guilty...you weren't to know. I was a smoker initially during pregnancy....before I found out I was smoking 5-10 a day, when I found out I went down to one for a few days and then stopped. My son is fine. The main thing is that you have stopped.







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I think the withdrawals choco was talking are not just the physical ones.

Research has shown that for some people the stress of trying to go cold turkey is actually worse for their baby than having one cigarette a day.

It is great that you quit - and to be honest with the hormone changes you may not experience any withdrawal symptoms, but if you find yourself getting overly stressed about it then talk to your doctor, quitline or your midwife. Excessive stress is just as bad for you as smoking if it starts manifesting itself physically.
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sorry, what research? I just find the stress excuse a bit BS and is often an excuse used by addicts to not give up as they actually don't want to or to prolong the inevitable (and yes, I was a heavy smoker for far too long).
If you understand how nicotine addiction works you will understand that withdrawls happen from your last cigi smoked. So if you go cold turkey then you might have 2-3 days of your body getting used to it. If you cut down and have (for eg)1 cigi a day then you extend and prolong the withdrawls for as long as you have 1 cigi a day (and it doesn't reduce the withdrawls). Volume smoked does not equal the intensity of withdrawls. Nicotine is a chain addiction- 1 leads to the next and creates the craving for the next one which is why you must break the chain.
Cigarettes do not relieve stress- actually the opposite... they raise the heart rate and lower the oxygen levels in your blood (remember those head spins when you first started smoking?). If you've ever seen a grainy placenta that has started breaking up due to cigi smoking you wouldn't say that the minimal "stress" of giving up is as unhealthy as smoking.

My advice remains the same- read Alan Carrs "the easy way to Stop smoking" if you are needing help (yes, you can keep smoking while you read it and he even tells you to!! LOL)

*hops down off soap box* Anyway- Hats off to anyone who gives up regardless of the method they choose- it is the best gift you can give your baby and yourself.

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I'm not sure if it's coincidence or not, but I had a friend quit as soon as she got her BFP and that pregnancy ended in MC then when she got pregnant again, she slowly weaned herself and the baby was fine. I know it doesn't 'prove' anything, but to me, it kinda makes sense.

Also, I have 2 friends who have read the book, and they obviously don't 'want' to quit so it didn't work, just like quiting in any way you have to want to do it for it to work.

I found out I was pregnant at 4wks and it took me until about 6-7wks to give up. What made it easier for me was smoking made my horribly sick with MS so I found it easy to be quit and not stressed. And now, i've almost been smoke free for 2yrs cos I have no desire to start again.

Congratulations on your pregnancy, all the best for the next 8ish months xx
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Don't have time to find the exact research however pulled this info from the June 2011 issue of US Obstetrics & Gynecology article on Nicotine Dependence in Pregnancy

A higher proportion of women stop smoking during pregnancy than at any other time in their lives. It is estimated that 20% to 30% of women stop smoking at some point during pregnancy and 80% to 85% of these women will remain abstinent throughout the pregnancy. A majority of those who do quit have done so by their first prenatal visit (18%–40%), and those who do not stop by this time are likely to continue throughout pregnancy. Of the women who manage to stop during pregnancy, about 70% resume smoking within 6 months into the postpartum period.

US clinic practice guidelines are to first offer counselling (ie in NZ that would be something like quitline) which is successful particularly in light to moderate smokers (about 80%). For those who after counselling are not able to cease smoking (cos it is actually a highly addictive drug) then pharmacology in the form of patches are to be given.

Smoking cessation at any point in pregnancy, including the third trimester, can be beneficial and result in the birth of higher birth weight infants and decrease the risk of adverse antenatal events attributed to smoking.

The goal should be to not only stop in pregnancy but to continue abstinence after the baby is born. Any nicotine that is consumed (by anyone in the vicinity of the baby) can be absorbed by the baby when breathing it in either directly from the air or from the chemical remnants on their clothing.

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Congratulations on your pregnancy and choosing to stop smoking... I would consult with your Dr about the best way to continue with that!

I also read Alan Carr's book, highly recommend it. I was a casual smoker when I got pg with my first (the worst kind) and stopped cold turkey but I was only smoking 5-10 a week so not quite the same amount of nicotine or habitual crux.

Good luck and DONT feel guilty!!!!! We all do the best we can for our children, non of us are perfect!




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I was a heavy smoker until i got my BFP, i was in a similar situation as i was on depo so it was very unexpected. The doctor i saw to confirm pregnancy told me the same - to cut down to three a day, two a day, one a day over a couple of weeks. I stopped cold turkey - the one cigarette i tried to smoke when i knew made me feel so guilty i didnt take more then one puff. Of course she also told me to rub turps on my nipples to toughen them up for breastfeeding so she might not have been full quid.

Anyway - i had a big healthy baby boy who so far shows no side affects. The important thing is you've stopped and that you'll stay stopped - even after baby is born. If your partner smokes, try get him stopped too!
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