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meganflett 
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Posted: 25 March 2011 at 9:02am |
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Hi,
I was just hoping someone could tell me its normal to be a nervous wreck with your first pregnancy??
I have been to my midwife three times because i didnt think my boy was kicking enough....and even when i do get a good kick it doesnt stop my mind going to the worst!
We never expected i would get pregnant let alone make it past the first 12 weeks and now that im almost 32 weeks i cant help but feel like its going to be a big cruel joke!
It doesn't help having people tell me that ladies got to 32, 34 weeks and had no idea at all anything was wrong and they just lost their babies....it just makes me worry more.
Please someone tell me its ok to be so nervous and scared with my first pregnancy??!!
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james
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Posted: 25 March 2011 at 9:22am |
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yep tottaly i was like that all the way thur with james big hugs
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Posted: 25 March 2011 at 9:46am |
normal normal normal.....even with 2nd, 3rd etc 
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Posted: 25 March 2011 at 11:21am |
Totally normal
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Posted: 25 March 2011 at 11:40am |
yep completely normal I was like that with DS and to make it worse my mum is a midwife so anytime I couldnt feel him kicking I used to make her .listen to my tummy and check him haha must of been about ten times a day I was makin her do that 
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meganflett
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Posted: 25 March 2011 at 11:55am |
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Its just so hard because each time i've gone in he's moved heaps i just didnt feel it so they've told me he's probably kicking into my back but it doesnt help when im at home.
Hubby is over me telling him im worried because usually 5 mins later he moves but i cant help it.
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Bexee
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Posted: 25 March 2011 at 1:52pm |
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It's just the start of a lifetime of worry I'm afraid - when bubs is born you'll worry about whether they're pooing enough/too much, sleeping alright, feeding okay, too hot or too cold. The list goes on... Welcome to motherhood!
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Posted: 25 March 2011 at 8:55pm |
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so true bexee! all totally normal and doesnt change next time round either
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Posted: 25 March 2011 at 8:59pm |
Totally normal, and I totally agree with bexee! Its just eh beginning 
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Posted: 26 March 2011 at 1:00pm |
I was exactly the same, and i havent stopped yet! I too was ringing my m/w all the time saying he wasnt moving but he was and then i was convinced he'd stopped growing and THEN i was positive he was going to be born teeny tiny and sickly and probably premature. I agrivated my midwife so much in the overdue time that i had three scans in two days and a 2 day stay in hospital before i was induced as i was freaking out so much.
He was born 10days overdue absolutely healthy at 9lb8 so none of my fears were true 
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Posted: 26 March 2011 at 7:12pm |
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Completely normal. Everything about having our baby was a miracle and to this day I am the nervous wreck over protective mother people talk about lol
To be honest I went in to the hospital expecting an emergency of some kind and totally prepared myself for the worst case scenario, so was shocked things went smoothly.
Do you have or know someone who has a doppler? We borrowed one and it was my saving grace a lot. I know easier said then done, but try and get some relaxation in and take care of yourself.
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Posted: 26 March 2011 at 7:16pm |
Very, very normal!! I stressed from the moment I found out I was pregnant and am still stressing and DD is 1 next week! I'm also pregnant with number 2 and stressing just as much about EVERY little thing.
It's all worth it though.
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Posted: 01 April 2011 at 8:03pm |
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It is normal but I think it's really important to find a way to relax, like maybe try pre-natal yoga or listening to a hypno-birthing relaxation cd. Don't read birth books, listen to horror stories or hang out with negative people who try to terrify you. It's true that some babies die at a late stage but it is VERY rare. The vast majority of babies are born just fine. Your body knows how to grow a healthy baby, your baby knows how to get itself born.
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