Being really naughty

and im not talking about dumb stuff like yelling and having tantrums on the floor etc, Thomas has started hitting Lily, hitting the dogs, throwing himself into doors etc etc etc when he doesnt get what he wants. Its really pissing me off because he'll do it over something small and stupid. I've tried the supernanny method of putting him on the naughty seat etc, but he doesnt stay put no matter how many times he gets off and I put him back on - he's only 2 - sure he understands he's done something wrong, but he probably doesnt understand why. I dunno.
I've had to send him back to his room this morning - he's standing at the door shreaking his head off. Thats another thing that gets me. He'll wake up and start shreaking like he's got something REALLY wrong with him - but I go in and he's like 'hi mummy!' really happy, no tears etc. How do I get him to stop doing this? How do I stop this really naughty behaviour? Its driving me completely mental and it actually starting to make me and Matt argue because he doesnt think what Thomas is doing is wrong. ARGH.

Could he be reacting to a new baby in the house? Suddenly he's not the baby anymore?

Reward the good behaviour and ignore the bad.

They also get a boost of testosterone around 2yrs as well, so it could be a mixture of things going on with him at the moment.

What's he like when you have one on one time with him?

Maybe he feels a little lost now... a baby moving in is a huge deal for a toddler.. so I can kind of understand the change in behaviour. What to do about it?

Just try lots of positive reinforcement... lots more one on one time.. and be kind to yourself too.

His language is really good - I can almost have a proper conversation with him. When he gets really angry tho, he wont talk and just grunts etc.

I'm really trying to praise him for the good things as small as they may be, but he still gets praised.

WW - I personally don't believe in time out for children that young..What is he doing that you deem is naughty? Is he being naughty or is he exploring.. checking his world out...

MissA - Have you heard of the boring cuddle? I've been using this with #3 and I'm seeing a slight improvement mainly when things just aren't going his way..and we get the frustrated tantrums.
If you google that you will find a very interesting article about it... I think it's the first one that comes up.. if you can't find it let me know.

whitewave wrote: Mel, it is the hitting and yanking of hair that I'd like him to stop. To be honest, I didn't expect the time out to work, but I tried it a couple of times when I was at the end of my tether.

My DS was a biter at that age and what worked for us was positive reinforcement and removing from the situation. So when he is behaving well really praise him. When he hits or pulls your hair remove him from the situation, or remove yourself and tell him why you are doing it. When he comes back show him how to be nice and talk about gentle hands etc.