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yasbecool 
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Posted: 14 January 2011 at 9:34pm |
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i would like some advice on what to except im currently 12 weeks and 4 days and i'm actually really scared, i dont have the father as i fell pregnant horribly in a gang rape, i'm having a hard enough time as it is so please dont give me any hate i just wanna know what to expect .. im lucky enough to have my auntys support and this one guy who has kept be going threw things he has helped me in so many ways and i love him for it any advice would be amazing i really need it right now i dont know what to expect or what to do ): thank you
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busymum
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Posted: 14 January 2011 at 9:39pm |
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Do you have a teen centre or something like that in your area? If you don't know, the Police - I assume you have been dealing with them - will know who you'd be best talking with to get support. You'll need to get in touch with a GP or maternity section of a hospital too.
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TheKelly
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Posted: 14 January 2011 at 9:58pm |
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Where abouts are you? If you are in Auckland there is a place called Bethany Centre, run through the Salvation army, its free to stay there and they have girls of all ages, I stayed there when I was 19 and pregnant and it was very good, they do classes and you can continue your schooling by correspondance.
If you are in Auckland (or even outside ) that would be the first place I called.
Im sorry this has happened to you,and it wont be an easy road, especially given the circumstances, but with the right support you will be able to do it.
Have you seen a counsellor/victim support person for what you have gone through ? if you haven't it might also pay to see about doing that
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MummyFreckle
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Posted: 14 January 2011 at 9:58pm |
I am sorry to hear about your situation, but glad you are getting some support from your Aunty.
There are lots of places to go for support - here are a few websites to have a look at
http://www.theword.org.nz/site/detail/sexualsafety/teenagepregnancy
http://www.kiwifamilies.co.nz/Topics/Parenting/Teen-Parents-Corner/Teenagers+Pregnancy.html
http://www.rapecrisis.org.nz/content.aspx?id=3
If you are in Auckland - then somewhere like this might be able to offer some good advice - http://www.awc.org.nz/3/information.php?sid=12&mid=3
You will need to find a midwife to care for you during your pregnancy, depending on where you are in the country there are lots of options. It might be good to be under the care of a "team" of midwives at a hospital as they can prob access other support services too.
All the best - its a scary time (regardless of how old you are!)
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MuppetsMama
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Posted: 15 January 2011 at 8:46am |
I strongly recommend A Girl Called Hope
The first thing you need to do is find a doctor, independant midwife or someone else who can support you medically through your pregnancy.
Good luck
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Whateversville
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Posted: 15 January 2011 at 9:55am |
I second A Girl Called Hope 
Never been myself, but I've helped fundraise thru my church 
Good luck with your pregnancy. Everyones pretty much covered what you need to do next
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Marengo
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Posted: 15 January 2011 at 10:08am |
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yas good on you for reaching out for some help, its a scary time being pregnant and it sounds like you have had a rough time of it..
you can always ask questions on here if you have any questions about how to find a midwife, or any questions you have
having support is important so any offers you get of help make sure you take them up on it :) thats wonderful that you have your aunty to help you and your good friend also..
as kelly says you will be able to do this :)
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High9
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Posted: 15 January 2011 at 10:53am |
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I know of a few places in Wellington so PM if you want...
There is a school that helps in Porirua + The House of Grace in Newlands, Wellington which takes in young mums during their pregnancy + the first 3 months post baby and teach you everything you need to know.
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