Advice needed

Hello everyone, I'm new here but I was hoping someone could help me with some advice.
How to deal with relations who visit with child who often misbehaves whose parents tell him off - but the discipline goes no further - and so behaviour carries on.
We have been asked not to tell him off in our own home while child goes thru this phase (so far it's been about a year and counting).

We have a rule that in our house the children, and adults, live by our rules. Same goes when I visit my sister, when in her house we abide by her rules.

Put your foot down now and if they don't like it they don't have to visit.

loadsofkids suggestion of visiting them instead is a great one or you could try and meet at a public park or something.

Finally (as a last resort) if it's really bothering you and being forward with the parents isn't working you could always try embarrassing them by loudly telling your child/children that here is a prime example of how they should not act.

just out of curiosity, what is the behaviour and how old is the child?

Have a nice quiet conversation with them about their childs behaviour and how it is not acceptable in your house & if they can not control their child or are not happy with you dealing with the situation ask them not to bring said child with them & as loadsofkids suggested arrange to meet them at another place

What shocking behaviour - I wouldn't take my child out if this was continuing behaviour I would be too embarassed

okay, i was wondering - cause i don't know you - if perhaps you were over-reacting with a normal child behaviour, but since you've said that, I don't think you are over-reacting at all. my son is three - and he is pretty energetic and ...full-on. I would be mortified if he carried on like that, especially as we have certain rules in our house too. As uncomfrotable as it might be, i would have to sit down and say that you have rules that you want everyone to abide by, and if he won't, then you'll have to rehtink visiting.

We have good friends who have a daughter who behaves similar to that- we don't have them over very much anymore. We tend to go to their house now or only have them over for short visits. Its a shame as it has taken a real toll on our friendship- they have kids both similar ages to ours but we just wind up feeling really resentful after each visit.
We've had a wall drawn all over with vivid. Our dining room chairs are totally stained with red jelly where she tipped her bowl over and mashed it into the marterial with her hand (while they stood there pathetically saying 'don't do that' but not doing anything to stop it!!! ). Shes broken countless toys and never ever listens to either of her parents- we don't allow her upstairs as thats where Charlottes books are kept and she has a tendency of ripping pages out of books, but they honestly spend most of the trip arguing with her on the stairs trying to stop her ripping the stair gate off its hinges!

Argh anyway- thread jack over I would totally have a word with them- hopefully you can be a bit more up front as they are family. If not then just minimise the visits to your house and try to go to theirs instead.