https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sun, 05 Apr 2026 00:47:30 +0000 Sun, 24 Jun 2007 14:40:18 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=8478 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8478&PID=166098&title=how-do-i#166098 Author: Mummy2three
Subject: 8478
Posted: 24 June 2007 at 2:40pm

I fell pregnant when my DD was 19 months. I tried to involve her in things to do with the baby, explaining to her about baby being in my tunmmy and getting her to help set up baby things. We talked about what things babys need and what we would have to do with the baby. She was really excited about being a big sister and we had no problems when DS arrived. I would ask her to help me get little things and give her lots of praise so she felt really included and there were no jelousy issues ]]> Sun, 24 Jun 2007 14:40:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8478&PID=166098&title=how-do-i#166098 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8478&PID=165841&title=how-do-i#165841 Author: Andie
Subject: 8478
Posted: 23 June 2007 at 10:52pm

I don't think you're thinking too far ahead, I think you're right on the money, starting to prapare her for baby's arrival already, especially with what you said about her being so protective of you two.  What about a special doll for her?  If she gets the doll and she and you can play together (doing the sorts of things that you'll be doing with baby - bathing, changing, etc) and you can talk to her as you both play about the baby in your tummy.  And would a special job or 2 help?  Like her job could be to kiss baby before nap times, or choose baby's socks, or something.  ]]> Sat, 23 Jun 2007 22:52:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8478&PID=165841&title=how-do-i#165841 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8478&PID=165624&title=how-do-i#165624 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 8478
Posted: 23 June 2007 at 4:56pm

Talk about families with her and point out babies. If she has any wee friends with brothers or sisters you could say things like you are going to be a sister like so and so is.]]> Sat, 23 Jun 2007 16:56:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8478&PID=165624&title=how-do-i#165624 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8478&PID=165549&title=how-do-i#165549 Author: daikini
Subject: 8478
Posted: 23 June 2007 at 2:53pm

Introduce the baby into normal conversation, make references part of every day life (even when she's not around, just so you are in the habit of it when she is there). If you decide to find out the gender and have a name chosen that you are willing for others to hear (or choose a unisex nickname that you can continue to use after Baby's arrival) then call Baby by that name around DSD so that she becomes familiar with it.

Josiah was 18mths old when Xavier was born. I included him in what was going on as much as possible, chatting about "Baby's kicking lots now! Do you want to feel the kicking?" and things like that. Josiah ignored most of it, but I know he got the general idea. Nat and I would talk to him about "Baby in Mummy's tummy" and say "Say 'Hello!' Baby." and pat my tummy. Kiya did it too, and Josiah would copy her. We found out we were having a boy, and so from then on we talked about Xavier... by the time I was due, I could say to Josiah "Say 'Hello' to Xavier" and he would pat my tummy with a big smile. Often Xavier would kick back! Josiah loved hearing the heartbeat at my midwife appointments and I would talk to him about how that was his little brother's heart etc.]]> Sat, 23 Jun 2007 14:53:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8478&PID=165549&title=how-do-i#165549 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8478&PID=165539&title=how-do-i#165539 Author: busymum
Subject: 8478
Posted: 23 June 2007 at 2:14pm

She should be ok, 2yo's adjust pretty quickly to a new sibling. The best thing is to talk about it in a casual way beforehand, get her a baby doll around the time that you are due (maybe for her birthday since it will be about the same time?), and enlist her big sisterly help.... can you get this get that etc. When you are feeding the new baby you will be able to pop DSD next to you with a story to read and when you do nappy changes she will probably be keen to take the dirty nappies to the bucket etc.]]> Sat, 23 Jun 2007 14:14:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8478&PID=165539&title=how-do-i#165539 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8478&PID=165529&title=how-do-i#165529 Author: MyMinis
Subject: 8478
Posted: 23 June 2007 at 2:00pm

maybe talking to ehr about the baby and get ehr a wee baby doll to learn to look after.
Haleigh is 21 months next week and we are due to have our baby any day now and she has her own wee baby dolls that she looks after and we teach her to treat them like a real baby, we're still nervous at how she will react when hes actually ehre but she talks to my bump and rubs it and cuddles it.
I think so long as they know they're not being replaced adn that they are always going to be loved the same they should be fine.
]]> Sat, 23 Jun 2007 14:00:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8478&PID=165529&title=how-do-i#165529 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8478&PID=165527&title=how-do-i#165527 Author: aimeejoy
Subject: 8478
Posted: 23 June 2007 at 1:59pm

Its under toddler > parenting toddlers > preparing toddler for a new baby.]]> Sat, 23 Jun 2007 13:59:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8478&PID=165527&title=how-do-i#165527 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8478&PID=165526&title=how-do-i#165526 Author: miss
Subject: 8478
Posted: 23 June 2007 at 1:59pm

Hey mybelly, no great words of advice here - maybe more mums will read it if you post again in the parenting or general area? With a heading like getting #1 ready for #2?]]> Sat, 23 Jun 2007 13:59:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8478&PID=165526&title=how-do-i#165526 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8478&PID=165525&title=how-do-i#165525 Author: aimeejoy
Subject: 8478
Posted: 23 June 2007 at 1:58pm

Does she like listening to stories? You could try reading her stories about new babies coming and beinga big sister. I have started telling Hannah about the new baby (she is 20 months) and she can tell people we are getting a baby and she is going to be a sister - not that it means anything to her, but I guess its a start. I guess just talking to her about it a lot will prepare her. A lot of people also get a little pressie for the new bub to give to the sibling. There is an article on OhBaby about this too - not sure where it is tho.]]> Sat, 23 Jun 2007 13:58:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8478&PID=165525&title=how-do-i#165525 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8478&PID=165508&title=how-do-i#165508 Author: MyBelly
Subject: 8478
Posted: 23 June 2007 at 1:28pm

Hi,
Just had a thought, hoq do i get my 19month old stepdaughter used to the fact she is going to have to share me and her daddy with another baby? shes very very protective of us and hates having us near ANY other baby, she has to come and put herself between us and that baby

I know i have a while yet and that a lot of things will change in 4-5months, but im just wondering how i should start preparing her, we have her close to 5o% of the time, and her birth mum doesnt have any other kids to, and she is the 1st grandchild in both families, so gets a little spoilt, but we are just starting to get anxiouos that she wont cope with the new baby!

Thanks heaps in advance ]]> Sat, 23 Jun 2007 13:28:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8478&PID=165508&title=how-do-i#165508