https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 04 Apr 2026 17:15:00 +0000 Thu, 17 May 2007 11:39:09 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=7441 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=146724&title=sex#146724 Author: .Mel
Subject: 7441
Posted: 17 May 2007 at 11:39am

I told hubbie last night that the thought of doing IT made me feel wierd and when he asked me why I said, I can't possibly think of doing it because 9/10 baby is moving around and the whole mindset with me is that's just weird. ]]> Thu, 17 May 2007 11:39:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=146724&title=sex#146724 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=146533&title=sex#146533 Author: Maya
Subject: 7441
Posted: 16 May 2007 at 8:04pm

nzpiper wrote: No, I meant I cried at the end of it!!! and it wasnt bad...it was like the only emotion I could do was tears.....silly hormones!

I did that the first time we BDed after I found out I was preg with Maya. I felt sorry for Willie so let him have his way, but felt so icky about it afterwards that I burst into tears and that freaked him right out.

The poor guy had to go without while I was pregnant with the gremlins as aside from me really not feeling like it due to bad morning sickness, we were told by the OB not to go there as I had several bleeding episodes and a threatened early labour.

So he was reaaaally keen to get back into it after they were born!]]> Wed, 16 May 2007 20:04:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=146533&title=sex#146533 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=146532&title=sex#146532 Author: busymum
Subject: 7441
Posted: 16 May 2007 at 8:02pm

hehe piper I've done that on occasion ]]> Wed, 16 May 2007 20:02:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=146532&title=sex#146532 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=146527&title=sex#146527 Author: MissCandice
Subject: 7441
Posted: 16 May 2007 at 7:55pm

lol i havent done that yet... i can imagine if i did poor DF would think he done something wrong..]]> Wed, 16 May 2007 19:55:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=146527&title=sex#146527 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=146515&title=sex#146515 Author: peanut butter
Subject: 7441
Posted: 16 May 2007 at 7:44pm

No, I meant I cried at the end of it!!! and it wasnt bad...it was like the only emotion I could do was tears.....silly hormones!]]> Wed, 16 May 2007 19:44:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=146515&title=sex#146515 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=146512&title=sex#146512 Author: MissCandice
Subject: 7441
Posted: 16 May 2007 at 7:42pm

Haha that happened to me too, he said he was to tired and i cried cos i thought he didnt want me or that it was something else.. thanks for the advice guys its really helped.]]> Wed, 16 May 2007 19:42:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=146512&title=sex#146512 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=146502&title=sex#146502 Author: Candkids
Subject: 7441
Posted: 16 May 2007 at 7:18pm

lol
nzpiper that happens to me too!! sometimes its me that wants it, and then sometimes if we havnt done it for a while it gets kinda sore and hubby wont want to touch me incase it hurts me and i just ball my eyes out

oh and one time he was to tired and i cried lol guess that was a taste of how he feels lol]]> Wed, 16 May 2007 19:18:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=146502&title=sex#146502 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=146498&title=sex#146498 Author: peanut butter
Subject: 7441
Posted: 16 May 2007 at 7:09pm

babytyme I found my hormones did weird things with sex....even if I was into it I would often end in tears.....which really pissed me off!!! DF thought it was quite cute though.]]> Wed, 16 May 2007 19:09:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=146498&title=sex#146498 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=146493&title=sex#146493 Author: Candkids
Subject: 7441
Posted: 16 May 2007 at 7:00pm

that was exactly how i was feeling too, all i wanted to do was make him happy coz seeing him sad really breaks my heart, however it really backfired, he started geting really down and thinking of himself as selfish then he had a massive anxiety attack, he went to the doctor about it and the doc said it was perfectly normal for a partner to feel this way and the best thing to do is really both get it out about how your feeling, thats why now were completly honest and its great, hes never been selfish at all, he admits that he wants it all the time, but hed rather watch me sleep and know that me and bubs are rested.
and hes even admitted that its hard, but hes gotta get used to it as wen babys born he wont be getting any for quite a while.]]> Wed, 16 May 2007 19:00:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=146493&title=sex#146493 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=146487&title=sex#146487 Author: MissCandice
Subject: 7441
Posted: 16 May 2007 at 6:43pm

I try to tell DF how im feeling but then he says how he feels and i already know.. he just wants sex.. and i do it, not always because i want to but because i love him to pieces and just want to make him happy..]]> Wed, 16 May 2007 18:43:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=146487&title=sex#146487 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=146479&title=sex#146479 Author: Candkids
Subject: 7441
Posted: 16 May 2007 at 6:29pm

you shouldnt feel bad i spent so long feeling bad about not wanting it but really it was coz i was feeling crappy and then after the prem labour scare i didnt want to do it at all incase it made me go into labour, sometimes hubby would get down but hed never say anything but i could tell, however what i did find out was that if i was uncomfortable doing it and didnt say anything, hed figure it out then hed feel really really bad and that sucked so now i just tell him how im feeling, and i make him tell me how hes feeling too, and its been heaps better ]]> Wed, 16 May 2007 18:29:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=146479&title=sex#146479 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=146476&title=sex#146476 Author: MissCandice
Subject: 7441
Posted: 16 May 2007 at 6:22pm

Hi there

Im glad i found this post, i havent really looked at the other posts apart from the August Mums one..

Im the same as almost all of you, i dont feel like it and i feel awful.. DF kinda understands, i get the feeling that he doesnt really he just doesnt want to hurt my feelings.. Iv spent alot of the time feeling bad, and upset that i cant give him what he wants and what i know he wants.. I mean they are only human.. Altho i do keep thinking to myself if he loved me at all couldnt he just understand.. Also the comments he makes after we do 'do it' every now and then make me feel worse and i just cry! I dont know if the crying is because it hurts ( what he says ) or if its just hormones.. It says things like, god we dont do it enough! Or we will be in bed and he will try and il say i dont feel like it, and he will say i knew that just thought id try, or i wasnt getting my hopes up.

I thought it was just me because he said he asked all his mates that have pregnant gf's and apparently they do it all the time and that its just me being a hold out..

God it felt good to get that out.. God bless whoever made this post :)]]> Wed, 16 May 2007 18:22:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=146476&title=sex#146476 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=144958&title=sex#144958 Author: my4beauties
Subject: 7441
Posted: 14 May 2007 at 10:18am

I certainly did NOT feel like it for the first 12-15 weeks as I was really sick & had extreme tiredness. DH would get quite grumpy with me after 3 or 4 days & the longest I held off was a week. I remember when I let him have it once & i was not into it & I felt really horrible during it so will not let that happen again - if I'm not in the mood HE'S NOT GETTING IT, even if it means he gets annoyed with me I know he'll get over it!

At the moment I don't mind it at all... but from past experience, once I hit the 35 wk mark I'm not going to want it & that's going frustrate DH as he won't be getting it for a couple of months. ]]> Mon, 14 May 2007 10:18:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=144958&title=sex#144958 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=144950&title=sex#144950 Author: aleisha
Subject: 7441
Posted: 14 May 2007 at 10:09am

LOL Trust me he would still rather do it than not even if im not enjoying it! Its not that i really mind or anything like that its easier to just let him do it anyway.He actually gets really grumpy after about 3 days if he hasnt had sex.And its not that he means to or is annoyed with me at all for not wanting to.He totally understands that it must be uncomfortable while pregnent. But hes just one of those men that NEEEDS to have sex.Or his brain goes all funny!!!LOL
And honestly at the moment i dont mind too much as someone else said earlier as its supposed to bring on labour??? ]]> Mon, 14 May 2007 10:09:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=144950&title=sex#144950 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=144925&title=sex#144925 Author: YvetteandElla
Subject: 7441
Posted: 14 May 2007 at 9:47am

Wow aleshia you should have a word with that hubby of yours, to tell him how you feel, I sure he would rather not have sex than be doing it if you really dont enjoy it]]> Mon, 14 May 2007 09:47:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=144925&title=sex#144925 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=144913&title=sex#144913 Author: aleisha
Subject: 7441
Posted: 14 May 2007 at 9:28am

Yep im on baby number 5 and sure enough the whole pregnancy i havnt felt like it once.I still do it every 3 or 4 days just to shut him up as hes not really all that understanding . its easier to just get it over with.But yeah no real involvement from me or enthusiasim at all. But it does come back after babys are born.However i found everytime it did take around a year or longer afterwards even.This time especially im really worried about hurting the baby.Everyone tells you they cant feel it etc.But how can that be???I recon they must be really annoyed when there getting there heads poked!!!LOL
]]> Mon, 14 May 2007 09:28:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=144913&title=sex#144913 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=144899&title=sex#144899 Author: bookwyrm
Subject: 7441
Posted: 14 May 2007 at 8:56am

I am the opposite. My sex drive has doubled. But I am not that far along (still in first trimester) so it is possible mine will drop off as baby grows and get more uncomfortable. I hope it doesnt... c'est la vie.

Tara]]> Mon, 14 May 2007 08:56:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=144899&title=sex#144899 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=144060&title=sex#144060 Author: Candkids
Subject: 7441
Posted: 11 May 2007 at 6:44pm

i totally lost my sex drive with both pregnancies, lucky hubbys really understanding and says hes just happy with lots of cuddles and knowing that im getting rest.

i think the wanting it all the time thing is a bit of a myth, i have had 7 friends who have had children in the last 18mths and only 1 of said she wanted sex all the time all the others said it wasnt on the adjenda.]]> Fri, 11 May 2007 18:44:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=144060&title=sex#144060 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=144009&title=sex#144009 Author: .Mel
Subject: 7441
Posted: 11 May 2007 at 4:42pm

I have had no urge whatsoever for probably the past 10weeks I could not think of anything worse to be honest. I think hubbie understands I'm happy to have cuddles in bed, but stop it before it goes any further.. ]]> Fri, 11 May 2007 16:42:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=144009&title=sex#144009 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143902&title=sex#143902 Author: Bumble
Subject: 7441
Posted: 11 May 2007 at 1:26pm

When I was pg, cos I didn't want it and felt a bit guilty...I would "help out" with DH...       ]]> Fri, 11 May 2007 13:26:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143902&title=sex#143902 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143872&title=sex#143872 Author: MyMinis
Subject: 7441
Posted: 11 May 2007 at 12:36pm

with haleigh i wanted it and df didnt till the end (only to try get her out).
this time round ive gone totally off it esp since i started getting sore in the pelvic area.
df asks and gives a wee sulk then gives me a hug and goes to sleep hehe.]]> Fri, 11 May 2007 12:36:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143872&title=sex#143872 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143845&title=sex#143845 Author: busymum
Subject: 7441
Posted: 11 May 2007 at 12:03pm

I find in the first trimester I go off it if I'm feeling nauseous or really exhausted (and I don't even get ms!). In the second trimester it's pretty good, so long as we keep it up and don't go for too long without. In the third trimester, well it takes a bit to get used to making love around a basketball But I couldn't go without for a whole year so I give it my best! DH is pretty understanding, especially in the couple of months after baby is born.

I usually find my drive is linked to my AF cycle so in the time between birth and AF coming back, that's my "flattest" time.]]> Fri, 11 May 2007 12:03:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143845&title=sex#143845 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143820&title=sex#143820 Author: YvetteandElla
Subject: 7441
Posted: 11 May 2007 at 11:30am

I am now so glad I posted this message - I now feel normal and we all should be so glad that our DH/Dp's are so understanding.

I suppose with men if they know we are not that interested they are not also. I am just lucky DH is not pushy]]> Fri, 11 May 2007 11:30:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143820&title=sex#143820 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143816&title=sex#143816 Author: peanut butter
Subject: 7441
Posted: 11 May 2007 at 11:25am

Bel wrote: Does that sound right?

Seems to ]]> Fri, 11 May 2007 11:25:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143816&title=sex#143816 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143793&title=sex#143793 Author: Bel
Subject: 7441
Posted: 11 May 2007 at 11:05am

This is an interesting one - I am not really wanting sex at the mo, but lots of people have told me the urge will come soon. DH doesn't believe that - he says I didn't get any m/s so why would I do any of the other normal things?

We are still 'doing it' but it is mostly for him, I am not worried about the baby, could just take or leave the whole experience at the moment is all.

Does that sound right?]]> Fri, 11 May 2007 11:05:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143793&title=sex#143793 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143789&title=sex#143789 Author: caraMel
Subject: 7441
Posted: 11 May 2007 at 10:55am

I was a nymphomaniac when I was preggies with Ella, but when I was carrying Benjy I became the total opposite and didn't want it all.
Definitely not abnormal!]]> Fri, 11 May 2007 10:55:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143789&title=sex#143789 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143777&title=sex#143777 Author: EllenMumof2
Subject: 7441
Posted: 11 May 2007 at 10:44am

yes i must say every such i have been preggies with number 3 i have lost all interest and feel bad about it some times DP is great though and is very understanding]]> Fri, 11 May 2007 10:44:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143777&title=sex#143777 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143776&title=sex#143776 Author: peanut butter
Subject: 7441
Posted: 11 May 2007 at 10:44am

Thank god you asked this!! I am the same. I was told that by 20 weeks i would have these uncontrollable urges and would be waking DF up in the middle of the night.....still waiting! and now that I'm getting pain in my pubic bone I am soooooo not into it.

DF is really good about it as he's kind of gone off it too....thinks he's hurting baby.

but (TMI) we tried the other day and its ALL different.....we were in hysterics trying to work out how it all fits.

i just hope my drive comes back once bubs is here.]]> Fri, 11 May 2007 10:44:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143776&title=sex#143776 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143760&title=sex#143760 Author: BaAsKa
Subject: 7441
Posted: 11 May 2007 at 10:26am

I lost mine completely after my first boy was born and i never got it back until he was 1.5 maybe 2yrs old!!! but DH understood totally!! and it hasnt affected our relationship at all.
I wouldnt worry too much as it will pass even if it does take a while. I felt terrible for DH but he totally understood as im sure your DH does ]]> Fri, 11 May 2007 10:26:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143760&title=sex#143760 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143746&title=sex#143746 Author: kebakat
Subject: 7441
Posted: 11 May 2007 at 10:01am

I haven't felt like sex since about week 8 lol.. DH has just got use to the fact that my sex drive is non existant.]]> Fri, 11 May 2007 10:01:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143746&title=sex#143746 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143733&title=sex#143733 Author: YvetteandElla
Subject: 7441
Posted: 11 May 2007 at 9:35am

Yeah he is the best and the most understanding, he doesnt even ask for it.

It just makes me sad like we are missing something from our relationship.

it just sucks we have been togther a long time 10 years but only married for a year.

I have been on Anti D's for over 4 years so it is not a new issue it has just been made worse by being preggas.

My DH loved the 3 months when we were trying and wished we were trying for longer ]]> Fri, 11 May 2007 09:35:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143733&title=sex#143733 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143725&title=sex#143725 Author: Bumble
Subject: 7441
Posted: 11 May 2007 at 9:27am

I never wanted sex when I was pg.... nor when I was on antidepressants too... You are not a failure. Does DH/DP understand what you are feeling??

The only time that I had sex when I was pg was at the end to soften the cervix... even then I didn't really enjoy myself....]]> Fri, 11 May 2007 09:27:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143725&title=sex#143725 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143722&title=sex#143722 Author: YvetteandElla
Subject: 7441
Posted: 11 May 2007 at 9:22am

Ok this may be a very weird issue, but I need to get it off my chest.

Am I abnormal I do not feel like sex at all being pregnant.

I have never had much of sex drive as I am on antidepressants but now it is much worse.

I feel like a failure as a wife ]]> Fri, 11 May 2007 09:22:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7441&PID=143722&title=sex#143722