https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Mon, 04 May 2026 05:00:25 +0000 Sun, 29 Dec 2013 15:10:18 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=43770 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43770&PID=5857303&title=last-name-help#5857303 Author: jazzy
Subject: 43770
Posted: 29 December 2013 at 3:10pm

How long were you together? Does he pay child support? ]]> Sun, 29 Dec 2013 15:10:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43770&PID=5857303&title=last-name-help#5857303 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43770&PID=5857278&title=last-name-help#5857278 Author: JaniceN
Subject: 43770
Posted: 29 December 2013 at 11:13am

Hi there I have been through the court system and dealt with a dead beat dad and believe me it won't change I fought and gt sole custody and after I got that he wasn't seen nor heard from again . I have my boys with a high finated last name with my last name first then the fathers last name which I got told to do as legally my last name being first gives me more right and the option my boys could choose when they are older . What ur ex is trying to do is get you to drop your name so his last name can be on certificate giving him more rights. Don't change it . Hope this helps.]]> Sun, 29 Dec 2013 11:13:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43770&PID=5857278&title=last-name-help#5857278 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43770&PID=5857174&title=last-name-help#5857174 Author: Mumof1littleboy
Subject: 43770
Posted: 27 December 2013 at 1:43pm

Thank you both for your reply!

It has been an extremely stressful time and doesn't help that my son has health issues to but guess I can only wait until court to see what will happen and hope the judge sees it for what it is :)

Hope you both had a lovely Christmas ]]> Fri, 27 Dec 2013 13:43:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43770&PID=5857174&title=last-name-help#5857174 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43770&PID=5856743&title=last-name-help#5856743 Author: mummystheword
Subject: 43770
Posted: 18 December 2013 at 11:12pm

From what I understand if your not married or have not changed your name, unless specified at the time the child's last name will always default to the mothers last name. It's just automatic.
From the history you have just gave and the fact a year has almost gone by I would find it highly unusual for a judge to rule to change the last name. I'm only in my first three years of practice so please don't take this as legal advice but I wouldn't stress too much about the name change if what you have said is accurate :)

As you said if your son felt strongly about this down the track he could change it with your help or if old enough on his own. ]]> Wed, 18 Dec 2013 23:12:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43770&PID=5856743&title=last-name-help#5856743 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43770&PID=5856736&title=last-name-help#5856736 Author: animaxnz
Subject: 43770
Posted: 18 December 2013 at 6:22pm

Thats sounds really stressful, and your ex doesnt seem to be proving himself a fit father :(
I havnt had to deal with this but I would think your son should have the last name of the person who is raising them. My step sister was devestated when her mum married my dad and changed her name. My step sister felt like less of a family member because she had a different name from everyone else. It definately effected her in a psychological way.]]> Wed, 18 Dec 2013 18:22:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43770&PID=5856736&title=last-name-help#5856736 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43770&PID=5856730&title=last-name-help#5856730 Author: Mumof1littleboy
Subject: 43770
Posted: 18 December 2013 at 2:54pm

So my son will be 1 tomorrow

His father and I broke up when I was 7ish weeks pregnant (we knew from about 5 weeks, relationship broke down due to his infidelity and not being able to grow up, he's now 27 and I'm 23) anyway... He ran away and had absolutely nothing to do with me throughout my pregnancy..when my son was delivered I contacted him and let him know baby was born and let him visit, he visited with his parents and signed the birth certificate. On the birth certificate showed I had given my son my last name, he had no complaints with it at the time. He was in and it of my sons life and then decided to take me to court, we went to outside mediation and set up and agreement for which he decided not to do eventually and decided to take me back to court. We were sent to court led mediation and we once again came up to an agreement, this agreement he hasn't been doing, he's barely been there for my son and in this mediation he decided he wanted to change my sons last name to his, I agreed to think about it then decided I didn't want to change it, I'm the only one that's been a constant in my sons life, I've been told by his father that he doesn't want anything to do with him and we came to an agreement that our son can decide if he would like to change his own last name when he's old enough. Well contact has broken again I got in contact with my lawyer about how slack he's being so he's decided to take me to court. He's now trying to get full custody (hahaha) anyway he's abandoned contact again and pushing to get my sons last name changed to his..I've found out that the judge can rule against this and decide to change it so....can anyone tell me why kids are typically given their fathers last name? And has anyone been through this and can give me some advice??]]> Wed, 18 Dec 2013 14:54:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43770&PID=5856730&title=last-name-help#5856730