OHbaby! Forums : same sex mummies to be https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 30 Apr 2026 01:14:37 +0000 Sun, 28 Feb 2021 17:15:02 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=41644 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Sex mummy? jeez ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5910358&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5910358 Author: boyar266445
Subject: 41644
Posted: 28 February 2021 at 5:15pm

Sex mummy? jeez]]> Sun, 28 Feb 2021 17:15:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5910358&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5910358 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hey!! I’m so sorry- I never saw...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5907757&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5907757 Author: Sophie231829
Subject: 41644
Posted: 14 April 2019 at 2:38pm

Hey!! I’m so sorry- I never saw this response!! How did you guys get on? Sydney has all been privately funded and logically pretty difficult but meant that we didn’t have to wait for a donor. I am hoping that you both have had lots of luck since your last reply- sorry again that I missed it!! ]]> Sun, 14 Apr 2019 14:38:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5907757&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5907757 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi, My wife and I are Hamilton...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5907266&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5907266 Author: CaseNdchlo
Subject: 41644
Posted: 27 July 2018 at 10:58am

Hi,
My wife and I are Hamilton based and doing our first round of Natural IUI with known donor sperm -due to start daily bloods awaiting ovulation next week. We were waiting for a clinic donor for almost two years now and luckily found a donor. What a process! We are also the first of our friends to ttc.
How does it work with you guys getting ivf through a Sydney clinic..? Do you travel there, cost wise is it more effective..? Sorry for all the questions!
Wishing you the best with your journey :)
]]> Fri, 27 Jul 2018 10:58:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5907266&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5907266 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hey! My wife and I are Auckland...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5907179&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5907179 Author: Sophie231829
Subject: 41644
Posted: 21 June 2018 at 7:33am

Hey! My wife and I are Auckland based and trying for our first through a IVF clinic in Sydney. Hoping for a positive pregnancy test on Monday! Interested in getting to know some other same sex families and hearing your stories re trying to conceive etc as we are the first of our queer friends to become parents! Very excited to have found this forum and looking forward to your responses! ]]> Thu, 21 Jun 2018 07:33:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5907179&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5907179 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi Grace. I just tried to check...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5906977&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5906977 Author: Nicole223204
Subject: 41644
Posted: 19 March 2018 at 4:00pm

Hi Grace. I just tried to check out your blog but it says you guys are taking a break? My wife and I have a ten week old son and are really keen to touch base with other couples who have been through/are going through the pregnancy journey as a same sex couple. Hope to hear from you :) ]]> Mon, 19 Mar 2018 16:00:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5906977&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5906977 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi all. I&#039;m one half of an...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5906808&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5906808 Author: Grace227394
Subject: 41644
Posted: 04 January 2018 at 9:56am

Hi all. I'm one half of an Auckland based lesbian couple. I've just started a blog about our journey towards pregnancy - www.makingapeanut.com
I would love to hear from others who are in the same position :-)]]> Thu, 04 Jan 2018 09:56:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5906808&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5906808 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi Monica.By now you and your...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5905347&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5905347 Author: Nicole223204
Subject: 41644
Posted: 03 June 2017 at 9:40pm

Hi Monica.By now you and your wife would have had your baby. Congratulations! My soon to be wife is pregnant (we are still at a relatively early stage) but would really love to hear about your experiences and talk through your experiences and feelings. We don't know anyone else going through the process so it would be great to talk to you both :) ]]> Sat, 03 Jun 2017 21:40:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5905347&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5905347 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi, is there any same sex couple...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5903439&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5903439 Author: monica185421
Subject: 41644
Posted: 27 February 2017 at 6:01pm

Hi, is there any same sex couple out there that lives in the Auckland area and is about to have a baby?! :)
My wife is 37 weeks pregnant and it is all getting so real!
We currently don't know any other couple going through the same thing, but would love to meet someone else going through the same experience and would like to share some feelings and experiences :)
We live in Whangaparaoa but would be happy to travel to the shore or city centre! ]]> Mon, 27 Feb 2017 18:01:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5903439&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5903439 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi there hungry hippo - Carrying...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5895249&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5895249 Author: bluey_york
Subject: 41644
Posted: 26 February 2016 at 4:16pm

Hi there hungry hippo - Carrying your partner's eggs is pretty cool! congrats on that..I'd be interested to know what that process was like? We've been trying with a donor the past year or so and got given a positive result only this week :) haven't told anyone.. its all very new to me. So bring on 2016. :)
]]> Fri, 26 Feb 2016 16:16:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5895249&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5895249 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hello all! So awesome to find...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5892637&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5892637 Author: hungryhippo131
Subject: 41644
Posted: 03 January 2016 at 8:18pm

Hello all! So awesome to find some other same sex mammas.

My GF and I are due to start IVF in the next week or 2. We are using her eggs and then I carry which is rather exciting.

Just wondered if there are any ladies in Auckland who may be due/trying this year? Be nice to be able to chat with others experiencing the whole process etc around the same time as us
]]> Sun, 03 Jan 2016 20:18:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5892637&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5892637 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Congratulations P&G - thats awesome...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5888346&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5888346 Author: bluey_york
Subject: 41644
Posted: 04 September 2015 at 9:19pm

Congratulations P&G - thats awesome news!. and thanks for your well wishes.. Went in today for 1st IUI .. Feeling a bit up and down.. like it happened to someone else.. my partner has been really supportive and my mantra is 'whatever happens, i will get through'.. she's booked us into a hotel out of the city somewhere nice tomorrow.. so that should be good. I'm really freaking out about actually being pregnant now.. haha.. typical. I'm a bit worried about not having any family support over here as they're all in OZ.. but one thing at a time eh.. the two week countdown is next.   keeping the faith x ]]> Fri, 04 Sep 2015 21:19:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5888346&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5888346 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hiiiiii for some reason I can...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5887916&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5887916 Author: P&G
Subject: 41644
Posted: 23 August 2015 at 8:22pm

Hiiiiii for some reason I can never get onto here!
Yay for TTC! That's exciting :)))) wishing you all the
Luck in the world! We welcomed a little girl into this
World on the 18th of June this is our second! First being
Now 21 months, second now 9 weeks! It is a roller coaster
But a wonderful one! We feel so blessed to have had two
Very successful pregnancies so keep the faith! ]]> Sun, 23 Aug 2015 20:22:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5887916&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5887916 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi all.. Glad to see this page...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5887908&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5887908 Author: bluey_york
Subject: 41644
Posted: 23 August 2015 at 2:23pm

Hi all.. Glad to see this page still going albeit not for a while. Its been a year since i last posted and since then we've found a donor and heading to the clinic next week for first IUI to conceive our first little bubba. Odds are 1 in 5 they say. Feeling pretty nervous but hoping to link in with a good support group, online or in real life.. not sure where else to go thats local.. ]]> Sun, 23 Aug 2015 14:23:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5887908&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5887908 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Can you describe the photo icon...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876179&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876179 Author: P&G
Subject: 41644
Posted: 14 November 2014 at 9:22pm

Can you describe the photo icon to a dimwit please lol
For the life of me I can't find it! funny our daughter is 04th December birthday
She was 17 days overdue. Little Saggitarians are such
Comedians she's a blast so happy mostly! Waves to everyone
In public lol loves animals and books and music ]]> Fri, 14 Nov 2014 21:22:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876179&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876179 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : On post reply there is a picture...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876177&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876177 Author: amk11
Subject: 41644
Posted: 14 November 2014 at 8:24pm

On post reply there is a picture icon and you can add from there. Joshua will be one on december 15, so they are the same age :) so keen for another, seeing FA 4 dec
]]> Fri, 14 Nov 2014 20:24:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876177&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876177 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : She is going to be 1 early December...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876175&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876175 Author: P&G
Subject: 41644
Posted: 14 November 2014 at 8:12pm

She is going to be 1 early December was trying to figure out to post a pic lol
But I couldn't work out how to do it! She's a real go'er been walking since 8 months
So lots of bumps! How old id your little boy? ]]> Fri, 14 Nov 2014 20:12:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876175&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876175 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Thanks p&g, how old is your bubba...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876174&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876174 Author: amk11
Subject: 41644
Posted: 14 November 2014 at 7:30pm

Thanks p&g, how old is your bubba now?
]]> Fri, 14 Nov 2014 19:30:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876174&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876174 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Quite a journey you have had! ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876173&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876173 Author: P&G
Subject: 41644
Posted: 14 November 2014 at 6:52pm

Quite a journey you have had! ]]> Fri, 14 Nov 2014 18:52:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876173&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876173 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : What a cute dude that is awesome!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876172&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876172 Author: P&G
Subject: 41644
Posted: 14 November 2014 at 6:51pm

What a cute dude that is awesome! ]]> Fri, 14 Nov 2014 18:51:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876172&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876172 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Joshua ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876158&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876158 Author: amk11
Subject: 41644
Posted: 14 November 2014 at 5:58pm



Joshua ]]> Fri, 14 Nov 2014 17:58:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876158&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876158 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : He was quite a miracle after 4...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876157&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876157 Author: amk11
Subject: 41644
Posted: 14 November 2014 at 5:57pm

He was quite a miracle after 4 rounds of ivf and a miscarriage..... Sadly trying at home or IUI was not an option for us :( but we got there in the end ]]> Fri, 14 Nov 2014 17:57:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876157&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876157 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : 11 months tomorrow and he is such...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876156&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876156 Author: amk11
Subject: 41644
Posted: 14 November 2014 at 5:52pm

11 months tomorrow and he is such a happy boy
]]> Fri, 14 Nov 2014 17:52:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876156&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876156 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Yay looks like all and all we...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876147&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876147 Author: P&G
Subject: 41644
Posted: 14 November 2014 at 2:59pm

Yay looks like all and all we are doing pretty darn
Successfully here!
How old are every bodies first children now ? ]]> Fri, 14 Nov 2014 14:59:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876147&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876147 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Congrats p&g and koromiko...,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876145&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876145 Author: amk11
Subject: 41644
Posted: 14 November 2014 at 1:40pm

Congrats p&g and koromiko..., we will try for number 2 next year as we have a frozen embryo ]]> Fri, 14 Nov 2014 13:40:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876145&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876145 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : That&#039;s awesome news! Same...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876144&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876144 Author: P&G
Subject: 41644
Posted: 14 November 2014 at 12:57pm

That's awesome news! Same for her aswell if wants to join on Facebook
She can email me!! Almost know enough 2 mums to potentially
Start a coffee group in Auckland! :) ]]> Fri, 14 Nov 2014 12:57:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876144&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876144 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : I thought I would let you know...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876138&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876138 Author: NzVeggie
Subject: 41644
Posted: 14 November 2014 at 11:07am

I thought I would let you know that Pepi got her BFP and due around end of June (same as me). She's been rather missing in action since though so we are all hoping she's just enjoying her pregnancy away from the net!!!

And congrats to all you same sex mummies - I admire the journey you have to go through to have children. One of my best friends has 2 mummies... and she's 34 now! So she's one of the first clinic insemination babies back in the day when things were done a bit differently with anonymous donors etc.]]> Fri, 14 Nov 2014 11:07:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876138&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876138 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Same to you guys! Are you on Facebook?...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876132&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876132 Author: P&G
Subject: 41644
Posted: 14 November 2014 at 10:33am

Same to you guys! Are you on Facebook? I'm part
Of a due April/may/June around nz people that discuss
Lots if you want me to join you? Send me an email on
Threesixone@gmail.com ]]> Fri, 14 Nov 2014 10:33:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876132&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876132 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Oooh congrats P&G! We have a June...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876131&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876131 Author: koromiko
Subject: 41644
Posted: 14 November 2014 at 10:14am

Oooh congrats P&G! We have a June due date too, but will be a 3 year gap. ]]> Fri, 14 Nov 2014 10:14:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876131&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876131 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi Pepe Just saw your reply gosh...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876080&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876080 Author: P&G
Subject: 41644
Posted: 12 November 2014 at 10:02am

Hi Pepe

Just saw your reply gosh I'm slow on here!
Haha yes keen and we are now 6 weeks pregnant
To a different donor this time.
Both times we have done testing via doctors privately
Before hand and then just DIY at home both successful
First round with my partner we are very fortunate!
We joined a database and found both on there :)
How are you going in your journey?? I hope you have
Had success or are still hanging in there! ]]> Wed, 12 Nov 2014 10:02:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876080&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876080 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : That&#039;s exciting! Congratulations!!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876079&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876079 Author: P&G
Subject: 41644
Posted: 12 November 2014 at 9:57am

That's exciting! Congratulations!! When is she due? How old is your other child
We are also pregnant - my partner is carrying again :)
We are due Mid June 2015 so will have an 18 month
Gap between our two hopefully they will get along lol]]> Wed, 12 Nov 2014 09:57:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876079&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876079 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Fun to find out this page is still...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876075&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876075 Author: koromiko
Subject: 41644
Posted: 12 November 2014 at 12:15am

Fun to find out this page is still (occasionally) active. My partner is pregnant this time, super exciting as we tried for a while with her before me as well. I'm in the Rainbow Families facebook group.]]> Wed, 12 Nov 2014 00:15:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5876075&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5876075 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Good luck, not long now ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5873052&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5873052 Author: amk11
Subject: 41644
Posted: 16 August 2014 at 10:17pm

Good luck, not long now ]]> Sat, 16 Aug 2014 22:17:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5873052&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5873052 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi P&amp;G,Long story - but...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5873013&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5873013 Author: Pepi-bebe
Subject: 41644
Posted: 15 August 2014 at 11:42pm

Hi P&G,
Long story - but we've had 12 attempts, got pregnant doing at home insemination (with my wife's brother as my donor), but lost both at 12 weeks. Then we couldn't get him back to NZ (he lives in the Caribbean) for 6 mths, then tried for 7 months and couldn't conceive, then he went home again and it's been 16mths of not being able to try (his sperm wouldn't thaw - didn't like the cold - so we couldn't use a clinic!) We tried two other known donors, had them both go through the donor recruitment process, one backed out the week we were due to start trying (got back with his ex who didn't wnt him to do it), the other pulled out after 3 months as well. I worked out the other day that even without ever getting to an actual IUI or IVF, we've spent around $30k now... :-( So we've ended up finding an anonymous donor (which I never wnated, but after 3 years of waiting and I'm now 37 and 38 in April, well we just had to start). It's been hard and we start IUI with Repromed in Auckland in about 9 days - so fingers crossed I get hapu and get a take home live one this time!
Did you guys do IUI for the 8mth old? Known donor or anonymous? What will you do this time around?

PS - wow you are keen TTC with one 8mth old already - and a 14 year old lol!
PPS - My wife wont be trying unless I definitely can't carry.


Edited by Pepi-bebe - 15 August 2014 at 11:45pm]]> Fri, 15 Aug 2014 23:42:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5873013&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5873013 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Good luck p&g, its a hard one...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5872508&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5872508 Author: amk11
Subject: 41644
Posted: 07 August 2014 at 1:06pm

Good luck p&g, its a hard one to decide who will have the baby. I really wanted to but my eggs are rubbish so it didn't work, 3 failed rounds of IVF, wife got pregnant first round! Might try with her frozen embryo
]]> Thu, 07 Aug 2014 13:06:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5872508&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5872508 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hiya PB I Get really lost In this...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5872506&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5872506 Author: P&G
Subject: 41644
Posted: 07 August 2014 at 12:53pm

Hiya PB

I Get really lost In this forum but that's us too - attempting next month.
Have you had many attempts yet TTC? We are a same sex couple with
14yr old DD and 8 months old DD in Auckland :) my partner wants me to give
It a go but all the females in my family have not much luck where as her side
Conceive easily! ]]> Thu, 07 Aug 2014 12:53:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5872506&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5872506 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Other ladies are you on rainbow...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5872505&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5872505 Author: amk11
Subject: 41644
Posted: 07 August 2014 at 12:50pm

Other ladies are you on rainbow families on Facebook. Can be quiet but I has a good group of members]]> Thu, 07 Aug 2014 12:50:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5872505&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5872505 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi pepe,Best of luck to you, have...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5872504&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5872504 Author: amk11
Subject: 41644
Posted: 07 August 2014 at 12:45pm

Hi pepe,

Best of luck to you, have everything crossed for you and your wife. Our wee man is 8 months old now and we have just moved back to Wellington from Hamilton. Might think about no 2 next year as we have a frozen embryo

Edited by amk11 - 16 August 2014 at 10:17pm]]> Thu, 07 Aug 2014 12:45:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5872504&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5872504 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi,I&#039;m back and wondering...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5872503&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5872503 Author: Pepi-bebe
Subject: 41644
Posted: 07 August 2014 at 12:42pm

Hi,

I'm back and wondering if there are any other same-sex couples / singles TTC at present? It kind of sucks that I'm probably the only one that has been TTC for 3 years now!

Let me know if there is anyone else out there!

PB
]]> Thu, 07 Aug 2014 12:42:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5872503&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5872503 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hiya - no idea! Just reading back...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5866329&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5866329 Author: P&G
Subject: 41644
Posted: 04 May 2014 at 7:24am

Hiya - no idea! Just reading back people were talking
About another group - maybe on Facebook ?
Yes def and at same time we have a set of same sex
Couples two weeks before us have a boy and 3 months
Before us have a boy too! Seen quite a few success stories
For sure in this modern age :) we decided on an uninvolved
Donor but I do know a gay man for many years that was looking
To have some involvement with baby exactly as you describe an
Uncle capacity so didn't know if you'd like me to pass on details
He's pretty easy going etc so can't imagine he'd have a problem with
Testing, counselling etc as part of the process, happy to ask if he is still
Looking to do this - also based in Auckland! ]]> Sun, 04 May 2014 07:24:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5866329&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5866329 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : P&G - any clue what the other...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5866326&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5866326 Author: bluey_york
Subject: 41644
Posted: 04 May 2014 at 12:13am

P&G - any clue what the other group might be under?

C]]> Sun, 04 May 2014 00:13:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5866326&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5866326 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi and wow P&G– thanks for the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5866325&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5866325 Author: bluey_york
Subject: 41644
Posted: 04 May 2014 at 12:00am

Hi and wow P&G– thanks for the encouragement and congrats on your bubs!! That’s fantastic  - Yes - ideally – in a perfect world our donor would be involved in an distant ‘uncle’ type capacity. We don’t want to co-parent so much but are open to negotiation on specifics. We at the very least would want him to be open to allowing contact if bubs wanted. XX thanks again – we are doing our best to keep the faith .]]> Sun, 04 May 2014 00:00:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5866325&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5866325 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : I&#039;ve just noticed perhaps...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5866324&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5866324 Author: P&G
Subject: 41644
Posted: 03 May 2014 at 11:19pm

I've just noticed perhaps there is also a group elsewhere
Now sorry been out of touch! Hope all the mummies
Have happy healthy babies :)) we are so pleased to be
Parents have a really fun time raising a daughter who is
Sitting unsupported now, about to start tasting solids, chatters
Away, is just beautiful! And full of life to wake up to every morn ]]> Sat, 03 May 2014 23:19:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5866324&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5866324 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hiya! Keep the faithMiracles do...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5866323&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5866323 Author: P&G
Subject: 41644
Posted: 03 May 2014 at 11:16pm

Hiya!
Keep the faith
Miracles do happen!
We are in Auckland
Were lucky enough to find a donor
We now. . .
Have a happy healthy almost 5 month old daughter
Who is our pride and joy
And we were 31 and 32 so hang in there!!
- did you want the donor to have involvement
Or not at all is my question?
]]> Sat, 03 May 2014 23:16:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5866323&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5866323 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi there everyone – I’ve really...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5866321&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5866321 Author: bluey_york
Subject: 41644
Posted: 03 May 2014 at 11:00pm

Hi there everyone – I’ve really enjoyed reading back through all the supportive posts on this forum. My friend who is a midwife sent me the link to this, however it looks like I may have missed the boat with you guys not being so active on it anymore.. (I see the last post was last year).
I really need an outlet at the moment, so I’ll just write this and put myself and our story out there anyway. My partner and I of six years have been planning a family for the last year now. We’re getting there – we know all good things come, but at 32 (and in the ‘orange zone’ according to my AMH test) and my partner just turning 30 and wanting to have a baby down the track too, we are getting a little edgy not having found a donor dad yet.
I guess we were never really quite prepared for how difficult it would be. I remember the offers and promises from our male friends and acquaintances (admittedly after they had possibly had a wine or two ) thinking it was all good and funny to imagine at the time. At the back of our minds we thought that when the time came we would not be short on more serious offers, given our fairly wide circles. That was until the time did come! We carefully thought about and asked in total four of our male friends to be donors. One after the other after they all initially said ‘yes’ one of which even got to the clinic before they decided it was too hard/freaked out. Too many hang ups essentially.
Not wanting to make awkward or jeopardise any more r’ships wih guys we already know, we’ve gone online now on sites like NZ free sperm donation (which is free but not well regulated) and also an Aussie based site called worldwide sperm donations which has a monthly subscription fee of $35 but is worth it because of the large numbers of NZ profiles and is regulated in terms of the moderator deleting profiles that aren’t active and policing weirdos. We’ve had a bit of interest from some men but finding a guy in Auckland who is willing to go via our clinic, (Fertility Plus), and do the mandatory counselling session and the 4-5 donating sessions there has been hard. Even when we offer to pay all expenses!
We’re on the waitlist at the clinic but would preferably like to meet our donor dad face to face and for them to be willing to be known as donor dad to our bubbas as they grow. So we search on.. hoping to meet a kind and willing man who can take the time to do this for us. Its really encouraging to see so many of you on this forum have done this!
Our fertility councellor suggested advertising for a donor through a gay magazine that she had heard about (she’s not particularly knowledgeable about gay issues/things in Auckland – which is a slight problem in itself).. I have no idea what magazine she thinks she knows about.   I’ve only seen those dodgey street mags you pick up from family bar with all the pics of gay boys getting trashed and advertisements for sex toys throughout. Haha! Would be awesome if any of you guys knew.
Anyways thanks for reading! Hope to hear from someone (if anyone’s out there )
 x
]]> Sat, 03 May 2014 23:00:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5866321&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5866321 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : I have added you as a friend,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5847952&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5847952 Author: amk11
Subject: 41644
Posted: 07 September 2013 at 7:23pm

I have added you as a friend, then can add you to group once we a friends. We are having another scan in 3 weeks, so might find out gender then]]> Sat, 07 Sep 2013 19:23:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5847952&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5847952 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : And yes our scan is on 18September....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5847938&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5847938 Author: 2mums can't wait
Subject: 41644
Posted: 07 September 2013 at 6:47pm

And yes our scan is on 18September. I'm counting the days to see bubs again lol. My wife cried the first time!]]> Sat, 07 Sep 2013 18:47:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5847938&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5847938 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi 2mums,Things are good in our...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5847918&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5847918 Author: amk11
Subject: 41644
Posted: 07 September 2013 at 3:36pm

Hi 2mums,

Things are good in our world. Wife is almost 26 weeks and we have got the nursery mostly sorted and got nappies, lots of clothes, buggy and car seat.
I have felt baby move since about 20 weeks, lots of clear movements and kicks now
We are members of December 2013 Facebook page related to on baby and rainbow families. December page is great and lots of discussions and people have been very accepting of us. Rainbow families is a great group of families, just a bit quiet. I can add you if you are not on it already.
Exciting about almost being at 20 weeks. Are you having a scan?
]]> Sat, 07 Sep 2013 15:36:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5847918&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5847918 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hey I hardly come on here anymore...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5847837&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5847837 Author: 2mums can't wait
Subject: 41644
Posted: 06 September 2013 at 6:52pm

Hey I hardly come on here anymore because I'm in a Facebook due in group. Great to hear everything is going well :)

In nearly 19 weeks now. I've started to feel flutters but still waiting for a big strong kick so I can really know bubs is alright (man I worry a lot, guess this is only the beginning of that tho!!)

Is anyone in any same sex parents Facebook or real life groups?]]> Fri, 06 Sep 2013 18:52:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5847837&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5847837 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : So our bubba is looking great...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5843914&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5843914 Author: amk11
Subject: 41644
Posted: 29 July 2013 at 6:53pm

So our bubba is looking great and everything is normal but cord was in way so couldn't see gender at all. Sonographer didn't want to say as she really wasn't sure. May have another scan at 28 weeks as being referred to hospital but we are not worried about finding out as we don't too many unnecessary scans (had 3 already)!
Hope everyone else is good
]]> Mon, 29 Jul 2013 18:53:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5843914&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5843914 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : My wife is sure its a boy.......]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5843740&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5843740 Author: amk11
Subject: 41644
Posted: 26 July 2013 at 10:03pm

My wife is sure its a boy.... We own our house so will make a nursery and paint it lemon probably. We have bought a co- sleeping bassinet that attaches to our bed and has an open side so baby will be in our room for first 5-6 months.
That's neat that you have other friends having babies, we don't really but I am an early childhood teacher so have lots of people to talk to about babies and all my colleagues have babies]]> Fri, 26 Jul 2013 22:03:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5843740&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5843740 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : :) exciting! Soon you will feel...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5843738&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5843738 Author: P&G
Subject: 41644
Posted: 26 July 2013 at 9:15pm

:) exciting! Soon you will feel the kicks and that's a buzz!
We are renting so babies in with us for now but we have a large
Room so she will have her own "area". I thought we would have a
Boy but mummy g knew was a girl. We have a set of same sex aquaintances due
To have baby boy in sept and another 2 weeks behind us with a boy too!
It's all a thrill buying bits and pieces! Can't wait for November we will be going
To a concert in October so the baby will really hear the music :) ]]> Fri, 26 Jul 2013 21:15:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5843738&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5843738 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Yes it is our anatomy scan, will...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5843737&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5843737 Author: amk11
Subject: 41644
Posted: 26 July 2013 at 9:10pm

Yes it is our anatomy scan, will be finding out gender, happy either way. I have a slight preference for a girl, DW the opposite.
Exciting p & g, great you can feel your little girl moving. My wife says bubba moves lots, I can't feel it yet but like to feel her growing belly anyway. One of our fur babies loves to lie against her tummy and purr lots, cats can hear heart beat apparently.... Baby moves when she purrs
Collecting quite a collection of things and looking at decorating the nursery soon]]> Fri, 26 Jul 2013 21:10:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5843737&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5843737 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi all! So exciting our happy...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5843736&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5843736 Author: P&G
Subject: 41644
Posted: 26 July 2013 at 9:00pm

Hi all! So exciting our happy news is we have a little girl on the way!
We've had the privilege to have two scans, one finding
Out the gender! We are excited and now have in true fashion
Many little pink things ready! All is healthy, baby is happy and
Active, carrying mum g is tired going into 24th week after the weekend.
Baby got to come cruising with us to Sydney for a week but no more
Travelling now for mum and bump. We are beginning to see outside
Movement on tummy and feel kicks in the last two weeks, what a
Journey it will be for us all! Wondering if anyone else has a Facebook to
Connect :) hope everyone else is healthy and happy, we forget about this
Forum!! ]]> Fri, 26 Jul 2013 21:00:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5843736&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5843736 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hey we are going good. Nearly...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5843735&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5843735 Author: 2mums can't wait
Subject: 41644
Posted: 26 July 2013 at 8:49pm

Hey we are going good. Nearly 13 weeks now so just at the stage where we are starting to tell ppl. DW has been amazing taking care of the cleaning and cooking while I lie on the couch exhausted!!
Is that your anatomy scan? Are you finding out bubs sex?]]> Fri, 26 Jul 2013 20:49:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5843735&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5843735 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : How are all the mummies doing?...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5843728&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5843728 Author: amk11
Subject: 41644
Posted: 26 July 2013 at 7:52pm

How are all the mummies doing? Have our scan in 3 days and be good to see a healthy baby....
So far so good, my wife is doing well. She is still working about 50 hours per week so is very tired... Encouraging her to start reducing her hours as I worry it is a bit much and her blood pressure was a little high at 16 weeks. ]]> Fri, 26 Jul 2013 19:52:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5843728&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5843728 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Congrats p&g to you and your partner....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5837799&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5837799 Author: amk11
Subject: 41644
Posted: 08 June 2013 at 11:56pm

Congrats p&g to you and your partner. Exciting to find out soon about the gender]]> Sat, 08 Jun 2013 23:56:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5837799&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5837799 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi all! We are now 17 weeks :)...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5837798&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5837798 Author: P&G
Subject: 41644
Posted: 08 June 2013 at 11:39pm

Hi all! We are now 17 weeks :) saw posts on here, congrats
To all of us! We have found lots of our friends are due end of
Year too recently, seems lotsa December babies :) we are awaiting
Next two weeks eagerly to go for scan to hopefully see a gender
If bump is willing to co operate! My partners doing great, she's tired
And had morning sickness but she's very excited!
We will be awaiting mid November for a bundle of joy to join us
And our 13 year old daughter. We have a really cruisey midwife in
Auckland from mama maternity :) ]]> Sat, 08 Jun 2013 23:39:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5837798&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5837798 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Thanks for reading back AMK, saves...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5837793&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5837793 Author: Pepi-bebe
Subject: 41644
Posted: 08 June 2013 at 9:48pm

Thanks for reading back AMK, saves explaining it all over again :-)
2mums- we had an awesome midwife at Motherwell in Mt Eden, Carly Frances. She's a super experienced acupuncturist too, so will treat you during labour (but not during pregnancy if she's your midwife as she likes to keep the two roles separate so she isn't thinking acup during midwife appt & vice versa). However...she only accepts approx 20 patients per year. Strongly prefers natural, drug free birthing and home birth, although has links with Birthcare in Parnell and some of the hospitals for emergencies. So if those things aren't your cuppa tea she's possibly not for you.
She was just perfect for us and she is super down to earth, mega experienced (about 15 yrs), and we loved her! If you google her name you will find her website.
PB :-)]]> Sat, 08 Jun 2013 21:48:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5837793&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5837793 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Pepi I went back and finally read...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5837763&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5837763 Author: amk11
Subject: 41644
Posted: 08 June 2013 at 5:07pm

Pepi I went back and finally read all the old posts and so totally disregard my previous comment about your donor.
I completely understand where you are coming from, about your wife having that connection to your baby. I just hope thatvwhen your BIL can come back that you are blessed with a sticky bubba. I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks last year and it was horrible, so deepest sympathies that you have had two. My wife is now pregnant as I didn't feel quite ready to try again. What've a kind known donor, who is involved from a far but doesn't want to be a father figure.
Want a bought some maternity clothes for DW today, as everything is getting a little tight. We had such great service at all the stores we went to (hot gossip, jeans west and egg maternity). This was a big relief, plus we put a stroller and capsule on lay buy..... Scary]]> Sat, 08 Jun 2013 17:07:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5837763&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5837763 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : We are in Hamilton, best advice...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5837754&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5837754 Author: amk11
Subject: 41644
Posted: 08 June 2013 at 2:25pm

We are in Hamilton, best advice about your midwife is making sure she is open minder and knows that both of you are the mummies and want to be involved. Ours is great and she has an amazing 3rd year student with her so we almost get two for the price of one.
I would of changed straight away if she had had a problem, we have worked so hard for this baby last things need is any judgement!
I can't lie and say it has been easy but we have both always wanted children, so wanted to give it our all. Most days are good,just sometimes remember how sucky it has been to get to this point.
Hope you find a great midwife ]]> Sat, 08 Jun 2013 14:25:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5837754&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5837754 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi AMK. Sounds like you have been...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5837750&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5837750 Author: 2mums can't wait
Subject: 41644
Posted: 08 June 2013 at 1:48pm

Hi AMK. Sounds like you have been through a lot. I don't know if I could be that strong.

Where abouts are you based?? We are in Auckland.

Pepi-Babe, did you have a midwife in Auckland at any stage? If so can you recommend them?]]> Sat, 08 Jun 2013 13:48:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5837750&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5837750 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Thanks pepi-bebe, we had to pay...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5837592&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5837592 Author: amk11
Subject: 41644
Posted: 07 June 2013 at 9:03am

Thanks pepi-bebe, we had to pay for last round which was tough but my DW got a bonus which paid most of it luckily. We did ICSI too, just to give us a better chance of more properly fertilised embryos. In some ways I feel lucky that we knew that IVF was our only chance because we had a clear plan.
Might be worth talking to one of then fertility clinics about getting scored for IVF even with thyroid issues as you have been trying for over 12 months (or attempts). Then you could plan for when your brother in law comes back.
Probably a personal question but would you consider another donor?]]> Fri, 07 Jun 2013 09:03:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5837592&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5837592 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Congrats AMK11, sounds like you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5837587&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5837587 Author: Pepi-bebe
Subject: 41644
Posted: 07 June 2013 at 8:28am

Congrats AMK11, sounds like you had a long hard journey like we've been having. I get pregnant (doing home insemination) 2 X out of 4 attempts back in 2011/early 2012 but miscarried both at 12 weeks. Seems that it was thyroid issues for me causing it. Since then we've tried 7 more cycles but had no joy. It really sucks. Our donor is my wife's brother and he lives in the Caribbean so we have visa and financial restraints on bringing him here to try. So we are I limbo right now trying to work out why to do next. He is a bit of an anomaly in that his sperm doesn't survive freezing well enough, so can't be used for IUI, only IVF with ICSI, and I don't think the thyroid issues qualify us for funded IVF.]]> Fri, 07 Jun 2013 08:28:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5837587&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5837587 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Also congrats 2 mums, so pleased...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5837561&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5837561 Author: amk11
Subject: 41644
Posted: 06 June 2013 at 9:13pm

Also congrats 2 mums, so pleased for you]]> Thu, 06 Jun 2013 21:13:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5837561&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5837561 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Great to see this thread, my DW...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5837560&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5837560 Author: amk11
Subject: 41644
Posted: 06 June 2013 at 9:13pm

Great to see this thread, my DW and I are expecting our first child on our 4th round of IVF. Hard to be other mother but very excited.
We were hoping to do IUI with donor super but at our first FA appointment they discovered I had a large ovarian tumour. Luckily it was benign but I lost left ovary and Fallopian tube, so we qualified for public IVF.
Round 1 in May 2011 was a total flop, no embryos survived for transfer so got a repeat cycle in Sept with a BFN.
We decided to both have AMH test and mine showed diminished ovarian reserve so for third cycle we used my DWs eggs and I got pregnant but miscarried at 7 weeks in August last year.
We had a break and began again in February, I decided to take a break so my DW had IVF and is now 12.5 weeks pregnant, yah! Best of all we have a frozen embryo for me to try next year.
Love reading all of your stories, helped me lots while waiting to get. We 12 weeks]]> Thu, 06 Jun 2013 21:13:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5837560&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5837560 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Just thought I&#039;d bump this...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5837555&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5837555 Author: 2mums can't wait
Subject: 41644
Posted: 06 June 2013 at 9:04pm

Just thought I'd bump this thread in case there are any new SS mummies to be out there.
Congrats P&G. I know there is a play centre type group one day a week in mt Eden. We are planning to check it out when we have bubs.

Update for us: our third IUI was successful and currently 5w4d. Time is going super slowly now!]]> Thu, 06 Jun 2013 21:04:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5837555&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5837555 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi all - first child for us together,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5832474&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5832474 Author: P&G
Subject: 41644
Posted: 15 April 2013 at 11:16am

Hi all - first child for us together, both 32, due nov
2013 very exciting! 9 weeks now and still hard to
Believe. We were lucky with a donor and first go a
Success! We aren't telling anyone immediate until
We are at the 12 week stage which is hard to keep
Quiet at this point :) glad to see other same sex mommies
To be. We will be looking for Auckland groups to attend
With baby once here, anyone know of any? ]]> Mon, 15 Apr 2013 11:16:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5832474&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5832474 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Welcome brittney & 2mums!Well...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5821240&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5821240 Author: Pepi-bebe
Subject: 41644
Posted: 11 December 2012 at 9:38am

Welcome brittney & 2mums!
Well I think I'm the sole one hanging around regularly still since this thread was started. Although the others may pop I from time to time. They've all had their babies now. Sadly my wife and I had two miscarriages and so are TTC again now. Our donor is her brother who is back again from the Caribbean on a 'working holiday' ;-)
He gets a 5 month holiday in exchange for a few minutes 'work' a few times a month!
My wife and I have been together just on 4.5 years and got married in Feb when I was 7 weeks pregnant with our second baby. We were based in Auckland till April when we moved about 1hr North of Auckland. I'm from here (Northland is where I grew up), and she's from the Caribbean by way of London.
We used and are continuing to use DIY style home insemination. Fingers crossed it works soon! You can read our back story on here I think if you read back through this thread.
There isn't much action on here, although I'm happy to chat if you want to (as you'll see from my lengthy previous posts!). Otherwise request to join the private 'rainbow families NZ' group on Facebook as it's quite active.
Hope to 'see you around' :-)

]]> Tue, 11 Dec 2012 09:38:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5821240&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5821240 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hey, I posted this in another...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5821077&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5821077 Author: 2mums can't wait
Subject: 41644
Posted: 08 December 2012 at 8:14pm

Hey, I posted this in another thread but just thought I'd share hear too.

DW and I started our conception journey Dec 2011 when we first went to FA. We were not given the green light to start until 2 Oct 2012, as I had to have a laparoscopy (found nothing, tubes clear) and it took about 8 months to be at the top of the donor list.

Thankfully it was a short wait to our first CD1. I started on 25 Climod bc of history of long/irregular cycles. I was completely gutted when after 3 blood tests the nurse told me I was not ovulating. Next CD1 was 8 Nov 2012, with an increase to 50 Clomid. Again 3 bloods and no movement, i begged for another test on the basis my cycles are so long. They let me but still nothing. Next day they decided to just start Clomid straight away at 100. First blood test Mon 26 November, awesome result, my estrogen had risen! Scan showed two follicles, good sizes apparently. Blood tests tues, weds, thurs. each day was torture waiting for the afternoon phonecall. Finally 2.10pm thurs nurse told me I needed trigger injection. Triggered midnight thurs for IUI midday today.

I have no idea how I am going to make it to 21 Dec (BT day) when I'm so impatient waiting to ovulate was like torture. I'm scared the trigger didn't work and we just wasted our money. I'm scared bc DW has AF and I don't want the hormones to rub off on me before the potential implantation.

Hope there's some more of us out there and it's going we'll with the baby making ]]> Sat, 08 Dec 2012 20:14:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5821077&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5821077 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi Pepi-bebe and koromiko,Thank...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5820929&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5820929 Author: brittneyb2109
Subject: 41644
Posted: 06 December 2012 at 4:19pm

Hi Pepi-bebe and koromiko,

Thank you for replying to my message. I've been a bit flustered and frustrated, so I haven't been back on this message board. Too bad there aren't many more active same-sex mummies (or mummies to be) on this forum...

I live in the Mount Wellington area of Auckland. I've been using a community midwife I got allocated to from National Women's... I was just going to go with that, but my partner and I decided we still want to find our own independent midwife. They says it's never too late, apparently.

Still looking for a LGTB-friendly one. I got a list of midwives in the Mt Wellington region, but haven't started calling yet because I don't know what to say. I'm planning on delivering at Auckland Hospital, due to where myself and my partner's family will be most near during the time close to my due date.

So, just for some other "about me" stuffs...

I'm 24 weeks pregnant, due March 27th 2013. My partner and I have been together for just about 5.5 years now. Interestingly(and much to everyone's suprise) this pregancy was unplanned. Now, how do two lesbians get pregnant on accident? Well, we had a rough patch for a couple weeks, I went to America to visit family when we broke up, drunk and self-loathing, one night of trying to feel better about myself around an old ex-boyfriend who got made fun of for "turning me gay"... etc. You get the picture. Came back, partner and I realized we were silly, worked everything out, were honest about the whole situation... and then a few weeks later... bam, we found out I was pregnant.

Lucky for me, my partner has been baby hungry for the past 3 years and has just been waiting for me to be ready for us to consider starting a family.

Although it was maybe two years prior to what I was aiming for, I feel everything must happen for a reason and we are really happy and excited for this baby. Her family and all our friends in NZ are supporting us through this.

Sorry if that was too much... venting every once in a while feels good.

Thanks again]]> Thu, 06 Dec 2012 16:19:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5820929&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5820929 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi folks,Thanks for the messages,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5817781&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5817781 Author: Inspired_Jurny
Subject: 41644
Posted: 30 October 2012 at 1:58pm

Hi folks,
Thanks for the messages, things are very busy in baby land. Hazel is 3 months old now WOW can't believe how fast time is going. She is just Perfect, you can go to OH baby webite and vote her for on the 1st November :o) http://www.ohbaby.co.nz/community/baby-of-the-day/future-competition?id=1099

Koro we are no longer in wellington we now live in North Canterbury and have been very well accepted by our antinatal group and Plunket group which has been really neat. Not in touch with any other rainbow families but thats ok for now.

Hope you are all well xxx

Edited by Inspired_Jurny - 30 October 2012 at 2:01pm]]> Tue, 30 Oct 2012 13:58:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5817781&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5817781 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi Hey Nik & Chelle and brittneyb2109,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5816468&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5816468 Author: koromiko
Subject: 41644
Posted: 12 October 2012 at 6:46pm

Hi Hey Nik & Chelle and brittneyb2109,

I haven't been on here much since our daughter arrived in July.
Nik and Chelle, do you know about the Pride and Joy playgroup in Wellington? Even if your baby is a bit young to be playing with others it is still a nice way to meet other families. It's on Tuesday afternoons at Newtown Kindergarten and they have events on Saturdays sometimes.

Brittney, these are the midwives I've heard recommended: Caroline Muir from Arrival Midwifery (clinic at Birthcare); Midwives 4 You (South Auckland); Papakura maternity clinic.

There is a Rainbow Families NZ facebook group which is a great way to share info.

I was wondering about starting a new topic on here for Rainbow Families so it might be a bit easier for others to find if they already have children or are dads or whatever. Not sure which forum to put it in though!

We are loving being mums. Our little one is very smiley now and loves burbling away to people - so cute. We have the other half of her genetic family here at the moment and we are still trying to work out the language around that relationship. "Donor" doesn't seem quite right now she is here and doesn't cover the fact that his family have a connection to her as well.
]]> Fri, 12 Oct 2012 18:46:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5816468&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5816468 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi brittney,I was using Carly...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5815735&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5815735 Author: Pepi-bebe
Subject: 41644
Posted: 05 October 2012 at 2:03pm

Hi brittney,

I was using Carly Frances at Motherwell, but she only takes on 2 clients for each month and generally only clients who are into natural birthing methods. If that sounds like your thing you could google her as she has a website as she's an accupuncturist too. I rang a few other midwives and my wife and I met with another midwife who was totally fine with us being a couple. I just mentioned it in the initial call and judged their first reaction. My second midwife (who was in warkworth) was also fine with it.

I guess you are newly pregnant? Congratulations!!! How far along are you? If you want to share...did you use a clinic or DIY? But no worries if you'd rather keep it to yourself!

After two miscarriages we've had a 6mth wait and our donor (my wife's brother) has just arrived into the country from the Caribbean :-) so we start DIY method of TTC in late October. Yippee!]]> Fri, 05 Oct 2012 14:03:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5815735&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5815735 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi there...I&#039;m looking for...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5815217&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5815217 Author: brittneyb2109
Subject: 41644
Posted: 01 October 2012 at 10:36pm

Hi there...
I'm looking for a gay friendly midwife...
Any suggestions??

I'm in Auckland!]]> Mon, 01 Oct 2012 22:36:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5815217&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5815217 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hey Nik & Chelle :-)Congrats on...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5813029&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5813029 Author: Pepi-bebe
Subject: 41644
Posted: 10 September 2012 at 8:51am

Hey Nik & Chelle :-)
Congrats on your new arrival!
Glad you found us! It seems like there's no one else on the same journey in ohbaby till you find this thread. Not that it's very active. Koromiko had her baby girl about 2 months ago I guess, I haven't seen toes crossed again online, but then again I haven't been on here that much since our 2nd MC.
I've been working hard out to try and figure out what's going on and have an incredible fertility naturopath who is helping me, so we are hoping to bring my wife's brother back to NZ in late Oct (NZ immigration willing), so can't wait to try again! It's been a long time to wait but I think my body should be better now and ie finally stopped feeling the losses so keenly.
All the best with your wee girl, and feel free to PM me or write back on here.
Melissa

]]> Mon, 10 Sep 2012 08:51:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5813029&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5813029 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi other Mummies, Finally found...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5812373&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5812373 Author: Inspired_Jurny
Subject: 41644
Posted: 05 September 2012 at 12:51pm

Hi other Mummies,

Finally found ya's.

My partner and I welcomed into the world our 1st child a beautiful wee girl, Hazel Grace born 6 August 2012 8lb 3oz 15 days past due date (eek)

After being on the wait list for nearly 2 years at Wellington fertility assoc I decided to start the search for a donor myself and we found the most amazing person. Donor will remain unknown and we have a contract that would be similar to that a clinic would use. Its worked out amazingly for us, we are so blessed.

Our daughter has changed our lives at 4 weeks old just can't imagine not having her. I think its fantastic that so many gay couples are having families I think its super exciting and we are just so pleased we went for it!

Nik & Chelle]]> Wed, 05 Sep 2012 12:51:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5812373&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5812373 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi Pepi-bebe, thanks for popping...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5801642&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5801642 Author: koromiko
Subject: 41644
Posted: 09 June 2012 at 10:18pm

Hi Pepi-bebe, thanks for popping in. I've been thinking about you heaps and so glad to hear you have some answers.

Toes_crossed I hope things are going well for you, I've popped into the October thread a couple of times and haven't seen any posts from you... hopefully you're just busy or have moved into a facebook group or something!

Lulu30 I hope you're having fun with your wee one... who must be getting pretty big by now!

And I hope there are some other rainbow families out there who might join us.

I've been really busy so haven't been on here much. Trying to finish off my fieldwork placement, and I've been sick for a while too. Otherwise things are going pretty well, baby is growing at the right rate and is finally head down so that is a relief. Not long to go now! ]]> Sat, 09 Jun 2012 22:18:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5801642&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5801642 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Wow girls, where&#039;d you all...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5801533&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5801533 Author: Pepi-bebe
Subject: 41644
Posted: 08 June 2012 at 6:15pm

Wow girls, where'd you all go?! I reckon this thread needs bumped up so any new to ohbaby same-sex mumma's (or gay papa's) can see there's a few of us out there on ohbaby.

We are not yet back to TTC, but if you look in the Planning Pregnancy forums you can see my updates re my thyroid and possible cause of our MC's.

Hope you are all going well with mummy-hood and impending mummy-hood.

PB :-)]]> Fri, 08 Jun 2012 18:15:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5801533&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5801533 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Pepi I concur with koromiko -...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5790688&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5790688 Author: toes_crossed
Subject: 41644
Posted: 29 March 2012 at 8:24pm

Pepi I concur with koromiko - you're so very brave to share your pain and experiences and there should be more like you. I think it's not only so helpful for others but I believe letting it out wholly helps with the healing..
It's good that you are getting support in the MC forums too. Hope they are helping.

I was hoping more preggy lesbian partners would be on here but I guess we're still a "minority"..just the 3 of us is still great and the support out there is lovely.

I'm struggling with finding more than just Babycity and Baby factory which are very disappointing here in Wellingon, the other shops sound devine but I doubt our budget would allow for it. Especially if I'm thinking of taking some time off after birth to look after bubs and study? aaah..one can only dream! But then again as long as bubs is fed and loved etc. that's all they care about. Would never ever dress our little trooper in Trelise Cooper even if I could afford it!

I'll PM you right now Re: facebook :)

Koromiko - have added you on FB. I'm taking 2 weeks holidays starting Easter. We're going back to Auckland to catch up with friends and some sanity. I can't wait! It's so lonely here without friends...so 1 week to go and counting.

Have a great evening and see you on FB!]]> Thu, 29 Mar 2012 20:24:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5790688&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5790688 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : I&#039;m soooo tired after contact...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5790567&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5790567 Author: koromiko
Subject: 41644
Posted: 29 March 2012 at 10:03am

I'm soooo tired after contact courses up at Massey last week and 3 days this week. So happy to be home now!

toes_crossed great that you're going to be off front line duties. Are you having extra holidays or just Easter?

Pepi-babe, I would love to keep in touch, I'll PM you. I think you're very brave, sharing your grief on facebook. I'm really in favour of people being open about painful experiences, if they can, it can make it so much easier for others going through the same thing, if people before them have talked about it. I've certainly found that with issues like being queer, and having a mental illness, so I can imagine it being the same with miscarriage. It's another thing that isn't always talked about openly, but is something that a lot of people have to cope with. Still it takes a lot of courage to be open.

Take care xx

Edited by koromiko]]> Thu, 29 Mar 2012 10:03:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5790567&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5790567 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi toes-crossed, Yep I&#039;m...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5790067&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5790067 Author: Pepi-bebe
Subject: 41644
Posted: 26 March 2012 at 7:30pm

Hi toes-crossed,
Yep I'm still around. OB is a terrible addiction when you are grieving for a baby, but then again, it's nice as people all know I've lost my baby so the support is lovely.

I'm visiting the miscarriage forums a bit, and still lurking on the Oct forum sometimes as you are all such a lovely bunch, and funny! The British lady with the small boy (is it LRH?) just cracks me up!! "My Daddy needs MASSIVE, MASSIVE undies" LMAO! Last time round I lurked on my due date for a while, till I got pregnant again, it's like a pleasure/pain thing I suppose. Plus I look at the TTC forums as I 'know' quite a few of the ladies in there, and it's so nice when someone conceives.

I 'met' another lesbian on OB who is TTC, so have directed her here :-)

I decided to 'come out' about the MC on fb too, I felt like I wasn't acknowedging my babies and my grief by keeping it a secret, so did that just before. Very cathartic. Plus I feel really strongly that if we can cope with it, then we should be vocal about MC, it feels sometimes like an embarassing secret and I am not heppy feeling like that.

Toes - you are lucky to be in Wgtn with Baby Star - ohhh I love that shop. The last time I tried to get hapu our donor was in Wgtn and I used to do some contract work in Newtown in Adelaide Rd, so would go drool over the expensive cots etc in there. I love that oval one, Danish I think it is and exceedingly expensive.

Keep in touch...and if you ladies are on fb and want to keep in touch that way, I'd like it as I guess I'll fade off OB for a bit in a while. PM me if you do want to become fb buddies.

]]> Mon, 26 Mar 2012 19:30:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5790067&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5790067 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hey Koromiko :) The books sound...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5789964&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5789964 Author: toes_crossed
Subject: 41644
Posted: 26 March 2012 at 12:23pm

Hey Koromiko :)

The books sound interesting? Thanks :) We're having our 1st OB visit today and hoping for another peek at the little grape...very excited and a little nervous..

Told work a week ago which was a great relief as work was getting pretty scary and demanding - lots of drunken violent people (I'm a frontline cop). So I have another week to go then holidays and light duties - yay!

We started going to baby shops and looking around, but October seems so far away so not going too far with the shopping. You don't have much more to go - are you guys all ready with baby room, nappies etc?

Pepi - are you still around? How are you guys going?]]> Mon, 26 Mar 2012 12:23:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5789964&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5789964 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi all, How&#039;s everyone...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5789665&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5789665 Author: koromiko
Subject: 41644
Posted: 24 March 2012 at 3:49pm

Hi all,

How's everyone going? I'm pretty good, but really tired. Have found out my iron levels are low, so I'm starting to take a supplement.

I got a couple of books out from Wellington public library, one of them is called the Complete Lesbian and Gay Parenting Guide. I think there were a couple of copies of that one, it's quite useful, though some of it is not so relevant as it's from the USA. Also got out Confessions of the Other Mother: Non-biological Lesbian Moms Tell All, but haven't had much of a chance to look at that as my partner has been reading it!]]> Sat, 24 Mar 2012 15:49:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5789665&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5789665 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : whoops! wrong thread I think!Edited...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5788746&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5788746 Author: little red hen
Subject: 41644
Posted: 20 March 2012 at 6:16pm

whoops! wrong thread I think!

Edited by little red hen]]> Tue, 20 Mar 2012 18:16:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5788746&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5788746 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Thanks for sharing your sad journey...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5787766&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5787766 Author: toes_crossed
Subject: 41644
Posted: 15 March 2012 at 2:11pm

Thanks for sharing your sad journey with us Pepi. Wishing you and your wife much love and healing! Glad you're sticking around :) ]]> Thu, 15 Mar 2012 14:11:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5787766&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5787766 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi everyone, This is a bit of...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5787576&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5787576 Author: Pepi-bebe
Subject: 41644
Posted: 14 March 2012 at 6:53pm

Hi everyone,
This is a bit of a cut and paste as I've been writing variations of the same stuff by email and facebook and text for days now!

I'm doing okay, the bleeding started on Monday and I had some pretty sore pain in the night Mon/Tues, then passed the baby at 6am on Tuesday. I'm still bleeding, but it was only heavy for the first half day. So I think I'm doing okay. I didn't use any pain relief, apart from a hot water bottle, but had started to learn some of the techniques for hypno birthing, so used the breathing exercises in the night and when I passed the baby, to calm down and not feel the pain too much.

I had ibuprofen here, but last time the baby passed with no warning and no pain till afterwards, so I kind of felt bad about that - like the I'd just let the baby slip away. So this time I didn't want to dull the experience with pain relief unless it got really bad. Maybe a bit mental, but I think it helped me to grieve better, to feel like it was some hard work to let go of the baby. And I feel pleased with my body for doing it naturally, at least it didn't let me down in that way. I don't know if you'll know what I mean, but that's how my mind is delaing with it so far.
I still feel really numb, whereas last time it was such a shock that I felt like the pregnancy and my dreams were just ripped away. I guess finding out the baby had died on Friday, then not actually passing till Tuesday gave me time to get my head around it more.

I'm normally a total waterworks, I cry at the drop of a hat, (especially when full of pregnancy hormones), but weirdly I've barely cried this time. I'm a bit scared maybe it will hit me in one minute and I'll be on the floor wailing...I guess I'll just have to wait and see. I'm not sleeping well though, haven't been to bed before 1.30am and last night it was 4am.

I had a lovely quote from my midwife who wrote: 'Your pain is the cracking of the seed that contains your larger self.'

Plus we've had huge support from our friends and family who are as shocked as us about this.

For me it's so important to try and have the baby with my wife's brother if we can, especially as I have been pregnant in that way twice. I think I'd feel different if we had just tried with him but I hadn't conceived 2 babies. But now I know what it feels like to carry children that are biologically linked to her. It's a spiritual thing for us rather than DNA and kind of hard to explain.

But if it wont work through finances, or lack of visa, or I miscarry again, then we will have to look at other options. For now we'll just focus on getting me healed and fertile again over the next few months, try and save some money and see how we go. He's said he'll come back as soon as we can bring him, so at least that is good to hear.

I'll keep checking in here as I'm excited to see how you girls go with your babies! Plus I'll want to keep you updated with our journey too.

xx]]> Wed, 14 Mar 2012 18:53:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5787576&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5787576 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : toes_crossed that&#039;s great...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5787436&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5787436 Author: koromiko
Subject: 41644
Posted: 14 March 2012 at 12:13pm

toes_crossed that's great news! Yay. Yeah, I have felt hugely relieved after the scans. The 7 week one because a friend had a missed miscarriage just before we went for the scan, and I just hated the idea of keeping on hoping when it had already ended. And the 20 week one because there was a medication I couldn't come off, which has a very small risk of some birth defects, so I would have worried up until the birth otherwise. Great you've found a LMC too.

I'm doing really well (even with the leg cramps, bleeding gums, dizziness, pelvic pain and all the other fun stuff that has replaced the nausea now)!

I've just been having a look at some list of books for kids in rainbow families. Might have to get a couple. We're going to write one for our baby as well, and maybe give a copy to our nieces and nephew as well. Just before we got married last year our then 3-year-old nephew suddenly said to me in the car one day "two ladies can't get married". No idea where he got that from, certainly not from his parents! I think we cleared that up So far I haven't heard any questions from the kids about our baby having two mums... but I still think it would be cool for them to have a book with two mummies in it.

Anyway, here's one of the books. http://www.childcareexchange.com/library/5016302.pdf

I want to get this one too, it's about all different kinds of families. http://www.fishpond.co.nz/Books/Family-Book-Todd-Parr/9780316070409

Hugs to Pepi-babe, hope you have made it through without intervention and can begin the healing journey. ]]> Wed, 14 Mar 2012 12:13:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5787436&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5787436 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hey Koromiko :) We had our scan...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5787227&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5787227 Author: toes_crossed
Subject: 41644
Posted: 13 March 2012 at 4:35pm

Hey Koromiko :)

We had our scan yesterday and saw a little heart beat. The little trooper is at the right size and date confirmed on 28th October. We were sooo excited especially because that morning I read so many sad stories of Pepi and 2 other girls miscarrying and I thought I had some spotting so cried all the way to FA...

Thanks goodness DW is so wonderful and knows just what to say! so so relieved and decided I love scans and blood tests as they at least put me at ease.

Just found our OB and first visit in 2 weeks.

How are you doing??

Pepi - thinking of you..]]> Tue, 13 Mar 2012 16:35:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5787227&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5787227 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Toes_Crossed just saw you&#039;re...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5787223&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5787223 Author: koromiko
Subject: 41644
Posted: 13 March 2012 at 4:26pm

Toes_Crossed just saw you're past 7 weeks, you must have had a scan or be having one soon, since I think that's FA standard. Best wishes for that, I hope you see a beautiful wee heartbeat.

Pepi-babe, still holding you in our thoughts. xx]]> Tue, 13 Mar 2012 16:26:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5787223&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5787223 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Pepi - I know it&#039;s not an...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5787132&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5787132 Author: toes_crossed
Subject: 41644
Posted: 13 March 2012 at 12:01pm

Pepi - I know it's not an option you have said you wanted to consider before. But although anonymous, we found a wonderful donor though the waitlist at FA. It was much cheaper than your options (only $140 for banking and $2,100 per IUI cycle where you get 20 samples).

To me at the end of the day I am having my wive's and my baby, not the donor's - he is simply someone who has given us a wonderful gift as nature has it's rules and unfortunately needs a male sperm to make a baby.

Genetics are not important to us - I lost contact with my birth father when I was a little girl and remembering the horrible man he was to my mother I would never want to see him again - my mum did a wonderful job and my character was built by the experiences and people around me not by my genetics.

We only waited around 6 months on the Auckland list after being with 2 other clinics on their waitlists for over a year.

I hope you guys can find a way to make this work and hopefully find a family donor as per your wish. However I do recommend FA as a last resort...

Hope both of you are doing ok and healing calmly...]]> Tue, 13 Mar 2012 12:01:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5787132&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5787132 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Oh that sucks, so sorry to hear...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5787022&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5787022 Author: Nutella
Subject: 41644
Posted: 12 March 2012 at 7:47pm

Oh that sucks, so sorry to hear that. Do you qualify to be funded at any stage. And if not, then maybe it is time the law changed....]]> Mon, 12 Mar 2012 19:47:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5787022&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5787022 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Oh no, that&#039;s extra devastating...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5787012&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5787012 Author: koromiko
Subject: 41644
Posted: 12 March 2012 at 7:10pm

Oh no, that's extra devastating :( I hope that possibilities open up for you somehow... but in the meantime wishing you strength and courage to get through this xx]]> Mon, 12 Mar 2012 19:10:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5787012&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5787012 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : PS - So nutella - the same reason...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5786948&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5786948 Author: Pepi-bebe
Subject: 41644
Posted: 12 March 2012 at 2:51pm

PS - So nutella - the same reason as above as to why we couldn't have it shipped from the Caribbean - plus there are no fertility clinics where they are from.

]]> Mon, 12 Mar 2012 14:51:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5786948&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5786948 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Thanks ladies for your sweet words. The...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5786947&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5786947 Author: Pepi-bebe
Subject: 41644
Posted: 12 March 2012 at 2:49pm

Thanks ladies for your sweet words.
The miscarriage bleeding has started more properly this morning which is actually good as it means we aren't in the awful limbo of the weekend just waiting for things to start. It seems I hopefully will be able to do it naturally.

Koromiko, no sadly we can't use the clinic donations - his sperm wouldn't survivie the freeze thaw tests, so our only option would be to do IVF with ICSI - and at a minimum of $18K a go, excluding drugs - that's just not even the slightest option for us.

I just keep being grateful for my wife who is just awesome, and hope that we can sort out getting her brother back here to try again - but man that is going to be challenging mentally - believing that I could carry to term. ]]> Mon, 12 Mar 2012 14:49:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5786947&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5786947 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Oh Pepi-Babe, I am so so sorry...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5786875&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5786875 Author: koromiko
Subject: 41644
Posted: 12 March 2012 at 11:01am

Oh Pepi-Babe, I am so so sorry to hear your news. You and your partner must be devastated. This weekend must have been so tough for you, but I really hope the herbs and acupuncture have worked so you don’t have to go through another procedure.

Your donor made some donations at the clinic as well, is that right? I know that is not a cheap option but must be a bit cheaper than bringing him over from the Caribbean? I know that’s not a great comfort if you can’t afford it now, but at least the sperm is there for when you can access it.

I hope that you and your partner are surrounded by all the aroha and support that you need right now. And I hope that the memory of your recent celebration of your love for each other will help to strengthen you in this painful time. I hope you have the time and space to do whatever you need to do to mark this loss and deal with your grief.

We’ll be thinking of you and sending love your way.
]]> Mon, 12 Mar 2012 11:01:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5786875&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5786875 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Oh Pepi!!! I&#039;m so so...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5786843&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5786843 Author: toes_crossed
Subject: 41644
Posted: 12 March 2012 at 9:27am

Oh Pepi!!!

I'm so so sorry to hear this awful and sad news!
Lots of hugs to you and your DW! Wishing you lots of love and peace at this sad time.

I hope you get through this ok and are able to try again sometime soon...]]> Mon, 12 Mar 2012 09:27:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5786843&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5786843 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : This is probably a stupid question...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5786667&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5786667 Author: Nutella
Subject: 41644
Posted: 11 March 2012 at 9:59am

This is probably a stupid question but can you get your donor to donate in the Carribean and put it on a plane on ice..or am I just being silly? It would probably cost as much anyway huh...]]> Sun, 11 Mar 2012 09:59:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5786667&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5786667 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hugs Pepi- saw your post in the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5786588&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5786588 Author: Kellz
Subject: 41644
Posted: 10 March 2012 at 6:59pm

Hugs Pepi- saw your post in the Oct thread, and was wondering about your donor and what will happen next for you and your DW. So sorry you are going through this again.]]> Sat, 10 Mar 2012 18:59:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5786588&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5786588 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi everyone, Sadly I&#039;m...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5786557&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5786557 Author: Pepi-bebe
Subject: 41644
Posted: 10 March 2012 at 5:03pm

Hi everyone,

Sadly I'm writing with bad news. We are losing our precious baby.

I had a small amount of pink / red blood at 10am yesterday morning, and freaked out as it was the exact same day of gestation (11w, 5d) as my last MC started. I rung my former MW as my wife was about to see her for accupuncture and asked if she could listen for baby's heartbeat (as it was a week since my new midwife, who is 1 hour's drive away, had listened for the heartbeat). She agreed but we didn't hear it, she said that was still normal, but to go to the hospital and request an emergency scan. We really thought it over, as we didn't want to have scans, but decided to do it.

Went to Akld Hosp, and had a bunch of lovely doctors who did an examination and said my cervix was all good, defintely still closed, but with some surface cells that had bled. But we still decided to go ahead with the US, just to really set our minds at rest, we nearly didn't as I felt happy with the news about my cervix and the reason for the slight bleed. Had the scan at 4pm and was gently told that our baby had died at approximately 8 weeks, just the same stage as last time.

I'm still numb and in shock I think. We are being booked into the clinic next Tues if I don't miscarry naturally over the weekend. I am NOT keen on using Misoprostol (I've read such horror stories about the pain of the contractions and nausea, vomiting, diaroeha etc) or having a D&C (as Maori I want to take the baby & palcenta to bury it and they've told me it will likely be 'macerated tissue' which is just abhorrent to me - sorry for TMI).

So I have been to get some heavy duty herbs that bring on MC (and that I used last time to clear everything out), and have had full on accupuncture this morning - was very ouchy as she kept 'stimulating' the needles, and apologising. I'm really hoping that all works, I could feel slight cramps in my cervix area when I had the needles in, but I've had no blood yet. This is just an awful waiting game now.

I can't believe it's happening again, and on the exact same dates as in October. Just don't know what to do. As you probably remember, our donor lives in the Caribbean and we spent all of our money bringing him to NZ last time - so we are totally broke. So the thought that we have no other attempt anywhere in the foreseeable future just really compounds the awfulness of our situation.

]]> Sat, 10 Mar 2012 17:03:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5786557&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5786557 <![CDATA[same sex mummies to be : Hi there all. My stupid iPhone...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41644&PID=5785839&title=same-sex-mummies-to-be#5785839 Author: Pepi-bebe
Subject: 41644
Posted: 07 March 2012 at 9:26pm

Hi there all.

My stupid iPhone wont let me comment (grrrr), even though I'm logged in. Actually I think it's stupid ohbaby, not my phone. And it's the same on google chrome. So I have to go on Internet Explorer to comment. I wish they could sort out the glitches, it seems to happen regularly to lots of people.

Been a quiet few days, I guess as I'm nearly 12 weeks my symptoms are properly disappearing, but it's challenging for me as we get close to the gestation date I lost our last pepi at. I really wouldn't mind some nausea or extreme fatigue this week lol. My accupuncturist reassured me today all is well with my pulses, but man, I'm looking forward to getting to about week 13! I feel like everything is fine, but then last time I felt emotionally the same (well did have spotting all throughout but thought that was normal).

ToesX, scans wise I am hoping to only need the one our midwife suggested at around 36-38 weeks - to check for anything that would neccessitate delivering in hospital rather than at home. Plus one more go with the doppler to hear babies heart rate. We aren't going to be up North on a Friday till we move now, so won't get to do it till around the end of the month - unless we make a special trip.

With regards to our donor - all our friends and family know who he is - I did feel sorry for the poor bastard arriving into the country with a lot of people knowing what part of his 'holiday' involved lol.

I've been reading a book on gay parenting, and some of the parents were of the attitude that it's best for your kids if you come out about your situation really openly, so they don't have to face 'coming out' for you. I totally agree with that perspective. So I'm getting my practise in by just straight up saying that my partner is a woman and our donor is her brother (in most situations but not all do I reveal who he is). I figure I should be proud of the situation, so our kids feel that it's all sweet and nothing to hide.

I have to start exercising again! Up to the week before the wedding we were walking for about an hour each morning (and sometimes up the local volcano), and also doing 20-30+ mins of pilates. But that has taken a big slide since my awful MS...but I have to start again. I've never been big on exercise, so have to force myself.

ToesX - I'm intrigued by what you do...I'm wondering if it's police or fire work? Thinking uniform and night shift - particulary with those big chunks of work then days off...?

Well, I'm off to stick more stuff on TradeMe, I've been doing it for hours as we are trying to sell lots of stuff before we move house...from a 3 bedroom bungalow with a lounge, dining & sun room, garage and basement...into a 1 bedroom cottage! Eeeeek.

Stay well & Pomarie.





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