https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 07 May 2026 06:39:35 +0000 Thu, 22 Sep 2011 17:19:41 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=40572 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40572&PID=1390892&title=sex-during-pregnancy#1390892 Author: Brunettie86
Subject: 40572
Posted: 22 September 2011 at 5:19pm

Ohhh Kelzie I have been feeling and going through the exact same stuff - we haven't had to endure any losses thankfully - I just can't understand what is wrong.

A lot of the men at work and ladies too said when their wives etc. were pregnant they thought they were gorgeous and couldn't keep their hands off them, that just made me feel even worse.

I tried asking DH why everything has fizzled up - we have had sex once since conceiving very early on and that has been it! He said he doesn't want to hurt bubs and just thinks it's weird. I tried explaining that having sex is important to me so I do feel connected and beautiful... nothing has changed.

I then started with the stupid thoughts about him and the new neighbour (we are rural - she happens to be a single good looking farm girl) because why else would he just not be interested in sex. I too have had almost zilch on the kisses and cuddles on the couch front too. It almost made me wonder why we decided to start a family if we can't even keep our relationship together during pregancny let alone when bubs arrives.]]> Thu, 22 Sep 2011 17:19:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40572&PID=1390892&title=sex-during-pregnancy#1390892 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40572&PID=1390770&title=sex-during-pregnancy#1390770 Author: CrazyCass
Subject: 40572
Posted: 22 September 2011 at 1:35pm

Yup no worries - I'm more than happy for DH to 'see it all', its him who wants to stand back a bit... but in saying that I KNOW he'll be in boots and all to help in anyway he can if I'm struggling or need help with something

I guess just given the chance he doesn't want to ]]> Thu, 22 Sep 2011 13:35:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40572&PID=1390770&title=sex-during-pregnancy#1390770 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40572&PID=1390763&title=sex-during-pregnancy#1390763 Author: buzylizy
Subject: 40572
Posted: 22 September 2011 at 1:25pm

crazycass...be really careful at the birth. My husband didn't want to see the action either and had to end up holding my legs up and there was no hiding from it. I was a little upset about it. He was fine afterwards and by the time we could o it again he was back to himself. But if it something he is concerned about make sure he is prepared to really focus on not looking no matter what happens cause it is really hard not to see stuff.
Don't want to put you off. Just warning you. ]]> Thu, 22 Sep 2011 13:25:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40572&PID=1390763&title=sex-during-pregnancy#1390763 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40572&PID=1390628&title=sex-during-pregnancy#1390628 Author: CrazyCass
Subject: 40572
Posted: 22 September 2011 at 7:44am

Know how you feel bout the man Kelzie!

As soon as I had a bit of a belly and it started 'popping' DH was immediately turned off He said before he knew I was hapu but couldn't see it as such & we weren't feeling bubs move.... BUT as soon as my belly was poking out & we were regularly feeling bubs move his perception of me completly changed. I also get hardly any kisses - but a TONNE of cuddles.

We did talk about it and it was good to know where he was coming from, and how he was feeling - he said at the moment he almost doesnt see the 'sexy wife' he married in Feb BUT he see's the transformation of me becoming a mother to his child which he is in aww (sp?) of He just wants to cuddle & protect me & his bubs.

We've already discussed that at the birth he wont be 'down there' as he doesn't want it to affect his perception of me (iygwim?) which I'm not fussed on cause I know on the day it could all change

Have a chat with Neil and explain how you feel, and you could be surprised at how he's reacting to the situation seeing as you've both wanted this for so long ]]> Thu, 22 Sep 2011 07:44:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40572&PID=1390628&title=sex-during-pregnancy#1390628 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40572&PID=1390572&title=sex-during-pregnancy#1390572 Author: Babe
Subject: 40572
Posted: 21 September 2011 at 9:26pm

Hugs hun!!! My DH had some freaked out issues where he wouldn't come near me with DS2 after multiple MCs and the whole gonna hit the baby in the head with my uh man bits thing. I had similar worries as you but turns out he just switched himself right off in an attempt to be protective. We worked through it and it all fine but AFAIK its a fairly common issue with guys. Talk to him maybe? Tell him how important it is to you to feel connected to him as you grow his baby? My DH needed to hear that he was still a really important part of the process.

As for what happens after baby arrives - in my experience it has alot to do with what *I* want to happen and how available I make myself to him and his needs (emotional not just physical - my DH needs quality time which is sometimes hard to prioritise round a NB but its just as important!!).

HTH

ETA missed part of a sentence

Edited by Babe]]> Wed, 21 Sep 2011 21:26:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40572&PID=1390572&title=sex-during-pregnancy#1390572 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40572&PID=1390563&title=sex-during-pregnancy#1390563 Author: kelzie_rose
Subject: 40572
Posted: 21 September 2011 at 8:55pm

Does anyone else have a hubby that refuses to have sex?

Mine is a little nervous, understandable after our three miscarriages - but I'm not getting kisses or anything. But he doesn't even seem interested, and doesn't seem to be gutted that he's not getting any action.

It might be hormones making me randy and simultaneously depressed, but I look and feel as big as a whale, and hubby just isn't into me.

You also hear about guys who think pregnant ladies are sexy and I just don't think he looks at me as sexy anymore. And I miss kissing. And this is just going to get worse when the kid comes along, right?

And so now I'm getting "He must be getting action elsewhere" thoughts going through my head :'(]]> Wed, 21 Sep 2011 20:55:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40572&PID=1390563&title=sex-during-pregnancy#1390563