https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 04 Apr 2026 09:13:43 +0000 Thu, 15 Sep 2011 16:27:03 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=40482 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40482&PID=1388194&title=starting-shcool#1388194 Author: EmDee
Subject: 40482
Posted: 15 September 2011 at 4:27pm

I wrote this in your thread in the kindy & beyond:

mummydee wrote: Ditto, I think I found it harder than Ollie did! I was so close to tears on his first day (tried really hard not to show it though). And he got used to school really quickly. He's always been a kid that loves structure and routine though. We had trouble with toileting for the first few weeks. At kindy he was used to being able to go whenever he needed. While the teachers totally understand little kids can't 'hold on' the kids do need to say something, which he wasn't. We spoke to his teacher and she would make sure she asked and encouraged him at least a couple of times a day. Then at the start of term 2 we introduced a sticker chart. After the first 2 days, he's been dry since and is confident about asking his teacher and going by himself. So far I don't think anyone has been mean to him. He hasn't said anything and the teacher said he is building friendships within the class which is great. Make sure you talk to the teacher regularly, and they can allay any fears you may have or put practices into place to manage any issues that may arise. While it was hard 'letting go' of my baby, watching his growing confidence and independence is also such a reward

Hugs Kel!]]> Thu, 15 Sep 2011 16:27:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40482&PID=1388194&title=starting-shcool#1388194 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40482&PID=1388114&title=starting-shcool#1388114 Author: luna
Subject: 40482
Posted: 15 September 2011 at 2:30pm

I haven't been here for ages ... but here's my feedback

Amelia started school on 1 August (start of T3).   The 1st two mornings went so well, even though leading up to her b'day, she'd not been looking forward to school, and had missed a school visit because of illness.
Because of (the same) illness, she had 3 and a half days off in the first week! Then another day and a half the following week. We then had about 2 weeks of crying every morning (for her) mostly just when I went to leave the classroom. She is now fine, and I hardly got a wave this morning as she was so busy!

So .. your start may be a bit rocky, but it'll get easier. Amelia's school is around 750 kids, so it's pretty big for a primary school.
If Isla does find things a bit hard going, we found inviting a classmate over after school, helped. Esp if they are feeling 'lonely' within the classroom. And talking to the teacher, with Isla, will help, if she thinks she is not doing so well as some of the other kids (telling her they've been there longer doesn't seem to matter).

Maybe get some rescue remedy for yourself. Personally, I found I wasn't looking forward to the whole school thing, but as it got closer & Amelia got more excited about it, I made that 'leap' into being pleased for her.]]> Thu, 15 Sep 2011 14:30:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40482&PID=1388114&title=starting-shcool#1388114 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40482&PID=1387884&title=starting-shcool#1387884 Author: FionaS
Subject: 40482
Posted: 14 September 2011 at 8:38pm

Well I think she is! Hard to know as she doesn't tell me much about it. Sometimes she says she doesn't want to go and sometimes she says it is extra good and she can't wait to go. I think they are so caught up in it they don't really know what they think. For more kids I think friends are the key.]]> Wed, 14 Sep 2011 20:38:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40482&PID=1387884&title=starting-shcool#1387884 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40482&PID=1387875&title=starting-shcool#1387875 Author: Kellz
Subject: 40482
Posted: 14 September 2011 at 8:25pm

Yeah that helps heaps Fiona Awesome that Gabrielle is going well at school.]]> Wed, 14 Sep 2011 20:25:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40482&PID=1387875&title=starting-shcool#1387875 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40482&PID=1387833&title=starting-shcool#1387833 Author: FionaS
Subject: 40482
Posted: 14 September 2011 at 7:26pm

We've just been through it. All I can say is take it one day at at time and try to remember all the things you liked about school. I was so worried that Gabrielle would feel let down by the reality of school and would want to go back to the freedom of kindy. However, when I stopped to think about it, at no stage during my childhood do I remember looking backwards. Even if the new stage wasn't as exciting as I thought it'd be I was still pleased to have "grown up" a bit more.

I also worry about the peer related stuff e.g. what will she be exposed to + will someone be mean to her. I guess the answer is yes, they get exposed to stuff we wish they didn't and they will come across kids who are mean (Gabrielle already talks about a boy who is mean). The way I'm dealing with it is to constantly remind myself that these are all vital and unavoidable steps towards becoming the people they are going to be. There is no way we can keep them 4 forever (I wish!). I also try to be as inolved as I can be although it isn't easy as we can't actually be in the classroom during school time.

Unfortunately it does come down to making the decision to think of the postives each time a fear / negative comes to mind. It is a process. And remember that it is all normal and almost everyone goes through it.

Hope that helps! ]]> Wed, 14 Sep 2011 19:26:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40482&PID=1387833&title=starting-shcool#1387833 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40482&PID=1387731&title=starting-shcool#1387731 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 40482
Posted: 14 September 2011 at 2:58pm

I do believe they train teachers of Year 1, to deal with the parents of 5 year olds going off to school.
You'll be fine, can't believe your little girl is off to school. Good Luck.]]> Wed, 14 Sep 2011 14:58:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40482&PID=1387731&title=starting-shcool#1387731 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40482&PID=1387727&title=starting-shcool#1387727 Author: pudgy
Subject: 40482
Posted: 14 September 2011 at 2:45pm

Oh Kellz     Have you tried rescue remedy ? I feel the same way about Ruby starting Kindy. Its such a big milestone.   Great help aren't I ?

Have you done the visits ? Does seeing where she will be and what kind of things they are doing help ?

Edited by pudgy]]> Wed, 14 Sep 2011 14:45:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40482&PID=1387727&title=starting-shcool#1387727 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40482&PID=1387713&title=starting-shcool#1387713 Author: Kellz
Subject: 40482
Posted: 14 September 2011 at 2:21pm

Has anyone got any tips or advise on how to cope with your child starting school?

I keep getting very panicky at the thought of her going to school and being with all those kids, getting lost and bullied. She is happy, confident and excited about starting but Im really struggling with it.

TIA]]> Wed, 14 Sep 2011 14:21:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40482&PID=1387713&title=starting-shcool#1387713