OHbaby! Forums : HT: Identity Crisis https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 04 Apr 2026 08:35:50 +0000 Sun, 25 Sep 2011 19:55:48 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=40421 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[HT: Identity Crisis : I am working through my post baby...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40421&PID=1391889&title=ht-identity-crisis#1391889 Author: amme_eilyk
Subject: 40421
Posted: 25 September 2011 at 7:55pm

I am working through my post baby identity crisis. When I was pregnant most of my so called friends disappeared and havent been seen or heard from since. Also when pregnant I was very ill and had to give up most of my activities. It feels like I am having to start trying to find myself again. Trying to find activities that work not just for me but will fit in around bubs and dh. I know I will come out of this stronger but it is hard in the interim]]> Sun, 25 Sep 2011 19:55:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40421&PID=1391889&title=ht-identity-crisis#1391889 <![CDATA[HT: Identity Crisis : I&#039;m still me, just my priorities...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40421&PID=1390969&title=ht-identity-crisis#1390969 Author: jaz
Subject: 40421
Posted: 22 September 2011 at 8:19pm

I'm still me, just my priorities have changed. ]]> Thu, 22 Sep 2011 20:19:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40421&PID=1390969&title=ht-identity-crisis#1390969 <![CDATA[HT: Identity Crisis : I have to say I have changed as...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40421&PID=1385656&title=ht-identity-crisis#1385656 Author: Panda289
Subject: 40421
Posted: 08 September 2011 at 9:54pm

I have to say I have changed as well.. my priorities before were different - now my Son is number one. Still only in the early weeks and as I am breast feeding full time I just feel like a milk machine that is used 3 hourly! Like someone mentioned above I know its not forever.. we still try and do stuff we did before though.

When I was pregnant it was all anyone talked about with me and now Zac is all anyone talks about with me and I do want to talk about other stuff sometimes (but secretly I love it hehe )]]> Thu, 08 Sep 2011 21:54:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40421&PID=1385656&title=ht-identity-crisis#1385656 <![CDATA[HT: Identity Crisis : The first time I got married I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40421&PID=1385468&title=ht-identity-crisis#1385468 Author: CrazyCass
Subject: 40421
Posted: 08 September 2011 at 1:36pm

The first time I got married I had a MAJOR identity crisis & refused to change my name on anything, must have been intuition cause we broke up 5mths after the wedding

This time however I was sure in the step I made, what being married would achieve for us a couple and how it wasn't really changing me at all, other than people could identify me with DH which i thought was neat.

However being pregnant it seems all anyone wants to talk about is baby baby baby, they forget I could hold a perfectly mature conversation before we created the little person inside of me (and it REALLY annoys me how everyone thinks they know best & dont believe any research or wants I might have on doing things differently) - I'd have liked to have been seen as 'Me' for a few more months yet!]]> Thu, 08 Sep 2011 13:36:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40421&PID=1385468&title=ht-identity-crisis#1385468 <![CDATA[HT: Identity Crisis : No identity crisis here. Motherhood&#039;s...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40421&PID=1385400&title=ht-identity-crisis#1385400 Author: Hopes
Subject: 40421
Posted: 08 September 2011 at 11:05am

No identity crisis here. Motherhood's a big change to your priorities and the way you do life, but I've found it no more unexpected than say the change between being a student (work my own hours, be my own boss, long holidays) and working (more money, not so much of the other stuff). There are bits I like better than before, and bits I don't enjoy so much, but I'm still the same person, just doing slightly different stuff ]]> Thu, 08 Sep 2011 11:05:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40421&PID=1385400&title=ht-identity-crisis#1385400 <![CDATA[HT: Identity Crisis : I&#039;m not the same as I was...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40421&PID=1385198&title=ht-identity-crisis#1385198 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 40421
Posted: 07 September 2011 at 6:17pm

I'm not the same as I was before having children, becoming a Mother has changed a lot about who I am and what I want out of life and how much / how little I'm willing to tolerate.
A lot has changed, I already had a strong sense of self and who I am as a person, I'm a new Mum 10 months on what kind of Mum I am is constantly evolving and changing as I learn and grow into being a Mother and my daughter grows and develops into a person.

I did have a small identity crisis after getting married as suddenly I'd changed my name and didn't know who that new person was.

Edited by caliandjack]]> Wed, 07 Sep 2011 18:17:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40421&PID=1385198&title=ht-identity-crisis#1385198 <![CDATA[HT: Identity Crisis : Yup, I&#039;m who I want to be,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40421&PID=1385100&title=ht-identity-crisis#1385100 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 40421
Posted: 07 September 2011 at 1:41pm

Yup, I'm who I want to be, I'm all three at the same time and they all intermingle quite nicely. I have definitely made sure I've not lost my sense of self by maintaining my own hobbies & also the things that DH & I enjoy.]]> Wed, 07 Sep 2011 13:41:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40421&PID=1385100&title=ht-identity-crisis#1385100 <![CDATA[HT: Identity Crisis : To be honest, I&#039;ve just accepted...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40421&PID=1384981&title=ht-identity-crisis#1384981 Author: fionaonaboat
Subject: 40421
Posted: 07 September 2011 at 10:16am

To be honest, I've just accepted that for the time being I'm first a mother, then wife, then me. I have a 16 month old and a 6 weeks old, so I have literally no time for myself and probably won't have for a while yet! I DO know that this isn't forever, but at the moment, the babies have to come first.
I plan on re-establishing my own identity by starting running and working out soon (I have a PE degree and fitness has been my identity and self prior to kids!) and when I start working again, then I'm sure I'll be 'me' again. For now, I'm third down the list, but I don't mind. ]]> Wed, 07 Sep 2011 10:16:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40421&PID=1384981&title=ht-identity-crisis#1384981 <![CDATA[HT: Identity Crisis : I&#039;m married. I was me, before...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40421&PID=1384980&title=ht-identity-crisis#1384980 Author: kelzie_rose
Subject: 40421
Posted: 07 September 2011 at 10:05am

I'm married. I was me, before I became pregnant, now people look at me like I'm a walking baby-making machine. I still have thoughts and opinions outside my pregnancy. I'd like to talk to people about other things, but they keep mentioning the bump!]]> Wed, 07 Sep 2011 10:05:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40421&PID=1384980&title=ht-identity-crisis#1384980 <![CDATA[HT: Identity Crisis : Yes I am who I am. I am me first,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40421&PID=1384971&title=ht-identity-crisis#1384971 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 40421
Posted: 07 September 2011 at 9:51am

Yes I am who I am. I am me first, a wife and mother second.

I kept being me, by being me and doing the things that I did pre wife and pre children. They make me who I am today.

And TBH my children aren't my life they complete my life.

]]> Wed, 07 Sep 2011 09:51:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40421&PID=1384971&title=ht-identity-crisis#1384971 <![CDATA[HT: Identity Crisis : You&#039;re a mother and a partner/wife...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40421&PID=1384950&title=ht-identity-crisis#1384950 Author: Renata85
Subject: 40421
Posted: 07 September 2011 at 9:04am

You're a mother and a partner/wife - but are you who you want to be? How do you keep your own identity?]]> Wed, 07 Sep 2011 09:04:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40421&PID=1384950&title=ht-identity-crisis#1384950