OHbaby! Forums : Not allowed to see baby https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 04 Apr 2026 07:43:03 +0000 Tue, 13 Sep 2011 20:10:55 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=40401 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Not allowed to see baby : Bizzy wrote:if it were me i...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1387441&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1387441 Author: Kels
Subject: 40401
Posted: 13 September 2011 at 8:10pm

Originally posted by Bizzy Bizzy wrote:

if it were me i would be up there demanding the mother be allowed to see her baby! how hard is it to wheel the bassinett to her in Recovery?! Is her husband supportive of her not seeing the baby?

What she said. That is appaulling behaviour by all medical staff involved that havent thought about the mother's and baby's needs to be together!

My BP would be through the roof if no one let me see my baby!

 

]]> Tue, 13 Sep 2011 20:10:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1387441&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1387441 <![CDATA[Not allowed to see baby : Wow, I can&#039;t believe this....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1385661&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1385661 Author: shesmiles
Subject: 40401
Posted: 08 September 2011 at 10:02pm

Wow, I can't believe this. My experience was so different. My BP shot up during my C-section and I spent my first night post-birth in intensive care. They made sure we had skin to skin time and to get him to latch etc before they separated us (to be fair, my BP was getting even higher in recovery so it wasn't an 'emergency' until a bit after he was born. The next day my wee son was brought to me in ICU and a lactation consultant stripped me down and put a tube on me so we could have skin time and she tried to get him feeding etc. I was medicated and had tubes for miles, catheter etc and there was no way I could hold him, but I felt really good about the ways they were coming up with to help us both.
I hope everything settles for your SIl and her wee one really quickly. ]]> Thu, 08 Sep 2011 22:02:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1385661&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1385661 <![CDATA[Not allowed to see baby : Glad to hear she got to see baby...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384679&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384679 Author: Troods
Subject: 40401
Posted: 06 September 2011 at 1:19pm

Glad to hear she got to see baby finally. That all seems a bit odd to me. When my DD was born early at 31 weeks for bad PE, they let me see her that night, about 6 hrs after she was born, as the Dr believed it would help reduce my BP and encourage milk production. I still had tubes and wires and a cathatar in, they helped me into a wheelchair, and the hospital MW wheeled me up to NICU with my cathatar bag hanging over the side of the wheelchair, my BP monitor and IV drip wheeled behind me so I was constantly monitored and accompanied by hospital staff while in NICU.]]> Tue, 06 Sep 2011 13:19:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384679&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384679 <![CDATA[Not allowed to see baby : Agree with Deb - Id be wild!!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384492&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384492 Author: Raspberryjam
Subject: 40401
Posted: 05 September 2011 at 9:21pm

Agree with Deb - Id be wild!! and have huge BP - Im sure its well within her rights to demand her child - thats disgusting - she needs to throw a massive tanty and get her husband or relative to get the baby for her

Oh just read a bit more - great she has seen her bubba now and no not surprising her BP is going down

Im probably a bit feisty for my own good but Id still be telling them they were out of line

Edited by Raspberryjam]]> Mon, 05 Sep 2011 21:21:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384492&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384492 <![CDATA[Not allowed to see baby : Man that seems soo stone age!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384407&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384407 Author: Kellz
Subject: 40401
Posted: 05 September 2011 at 7:30pm

Man that seems soo stone age! The poor porrw women. Like everyone has said, how on earth can she relax when she cant she her baby. Crazy!]]> Mon, 05 Sep 2011 19:30:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384407&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384407 <![CDATA[Not allowed to see baby : In the end they let her see baby...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384400&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384400 Author: MissAngel
Subject: 40401
Posted: 05 September 2011 at 7:21pm

In the end they let her see baby :) She's being cared for by midwifes tonight while SIL is in a nice drug induced sleep. BP has started going down (suprise suprise) and they should both be in a room together tomorrow!
I hope this doesnt put her off having more. ]]> Mon, 05 Sep 2011 19:21:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384400&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384400 <![CDATA[Not allowed to see baby : Man if that was me it would be...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384368&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384368 Author: _Deb_
Subject: 40401
Posted: 05 September 2011 at 5:35pm

Man if that was me it would be RAISING my blood pressure because i'd be so angry they were keeping my own baby away from me! It sucks that they can do that. It is HER baby after all, she should have a say. I hope she gets to see her soon. That must be really hard.]]> Mon, 05 Sep 2011 17:35:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384368&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384368 <![CDATA[Not allowed to see baby : Could it be that the baby has...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384356&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384356 Author: linda
Subject: 40401
Posted: 05 September 2011 at 5:15pm

Could it be that the baby has some kind of mark from the forcepts delivery and they are worried that that along with her high BP might might cause more seizures? ]]> Mon, 05 Sep 2011 17:15:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384356&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384356 <![CDATA[Not allowed to see baby : MissAngel, if you are as worried...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384329&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384329 Author: fairy1
Subject: 40401
Posted: 05 September 2011 at 4:21pm

MissAngel, if you are as worried as you seem (and I'm pretty sure you are), then you should borrow your mum's car and go down there so that she has someone on her side as it sounds like she is all alone. If a family member is with the baby then it will be a lot harder for the doctors to say no, she can't see the baby as a lot of their reasons will be taken away from them. I also think it would be good for you to see for yourself the situation rather than from your SIL as she might not know fully what is happening so you're not getting all the information and getting upset and angry over something that might be different in reality. This might not be the same situation but as a health professional we see it all the time, patients telling their family one thing when it's really a different thing.]]> Mon, 05 Sep 2011 16:21:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384329&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384329 <![CDATA[Not allowed to see baby : or 32 as the case may be :P Same...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384313&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384313 Author: MissAngel
Subject: 40401
Posted: 05 September 2011 at 3:59pm

or 32 as the case may be :P Same thing happened to my mum when she had me - it was two days before she was allowed to see me however! No wonder i'm such a pain in the arse with her now eh ;)]]> Mon, 05 Sep 2011 15:59:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384313&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384313 <![CDATA[Not allowed to see baby : It all sounds a bit strange to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384306&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384306 Author: Isabella
Subject: 40401
Posted: 05 September 2011 at 3:50pm

It all sounds a bit strange to me... Your poor SIL - that must be really awful. With all the fuss about doing what the MUM wants for the baby throughout the whole pregnancy, labor, post-natal care you think they would be being a bit more PC about it!! Sounds like something that would have happened 50yrs ago!... Goodluck getting some answers xx]]> Mon, 05 Sep 2011 15:50:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384306&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384306 <![CDATA[Not allowed to see baby : unfortunatly he&#039;s at work...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384298&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384298 Author: MissAngel
Subject: 40401
Posted: 05 September 2011 at 3:31pm

unfortunatly he's at work this afternoon. He's the only lab tech where he works and he hadnt planned getting out of work 2 weeks early! But no, I dont know what the deal is with that sorry. I just really dont get it. Might have to pinch mums car and go down there and actually see whats going on. ]]> Mon, 05 Sep 2011 15:31:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384298&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384298 <![CDATA[Not allowed to see baby : Is the baby on the regular postnatal...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384292&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384292 Author: KH25
Subject: 40401
Posted: 05 September 2011 at 3:25pm

Is the baby on the regular postnatal ward being looked after by Dad then? If I was him I would be wrapping the baby up and appearing wherever Mum is!!!]]> Mon, 05 Sep 2011 15:25:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384292&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384292 <![CDATA[Not allowed to see baby : Right, so the deal is - she STILL...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384284&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384284 Author: MissAngel
Subject: 40401
Posted: 05 September 2011 at 3:14pm

Right, so the deal is - she STILL hasnt seen the baby. They wont allow it until her BP comes down. I'm totally with Bizzy - I'd be going mental at them to let me see my baby. Baby isnt in an incubator or in the NICU. She just needed a bit of breathing support but that was all over rover at 3am this morn. In their infinite wisdom they think it's for the best keeping them apart - i'm sorry, but I think that's stupidly wrong. How is someone supposed to get their blood pressure down and be all nice and calm if they wont let her see the baby! WTF!

Dont care about wires everywhere, sh*t, I had spaghetti mania after my daughter with IV's in both hands, heart monitors, the works, but I was allowed to hold and feed my baby. Whatever staff it is needs a kick up the arse. Thank goodness I dont have the petrol to go down there and have words.. I'm just so peeved at the whole situation.
Oh and she's seen pictures, but that's just making the hormones and instincts take over even more.

Edit: Bizzy - dad is just completely overwhelmed with everything. he's been taking lots of pictures for her tho. I'll be ringing her again tonight to see how she's doing.

Edited by MissAngel]]> Mon, 05 Sep 2011 15:14:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384284&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384284 <![CDATA[Not allowed to see baby : Okay thinking outside of the box...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384275&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384275 Author: SMoody
Subject: 40401
Posted: 05 September 2011 at 2:53pm

Okay thinking outside of the box here but is it possible to have a video camera to go in and for her to see baby that way perhaps?

I must say this would have been really hard for me as there is no way my bp would have gone down while not being able to see my baby for my own eyes. ]]> Mon, 05 Sep 2011 14:53:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384275&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384275 <![CDATA[Not allowed to see baby : It will probably be because of...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384251&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384251 Author: fairy1
Subject: 40401
Posted: 05 September 2011 at 1:57pm

It will probably be because of a safety issue for baby and mum. If anything went wrong with the baby while she was in recovery then the staff wouldn't be set up well to help, and if something went wrong with your SIL if she was in NICU then they wouldn't be able to cope. They will not want to risk the mother having a seizure with the baby present as that would be an extremely unsafe situation. If she has as many wires as it sounds like she does, then she will not be able to hold or feed the baby so the staff will not want the baby there as it is unsafe.. I know it sounds cruel but they are trying to do the best for mother and baby. I know it's not the same but could someone take a photo of the baby so she could at least see that. ]]> Mon, 05 Sep 2011 13:57:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384251&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384251 <![CDATA[Not allowed to see baby : Bizzy, I&#039;m assuming the baby...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384227&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384227 Author: tishy
Subject: 40401
Posted: 05 September 2011 at 1:16pm

Bizzy, I'm assuming the baby is in an incubator in NICU. Transporting that and the accompanying equipment might not be a simple task.

If I were her I would definitely be asking more questions to different people, but at the same time, I have to assume doctors/midwives do things for valid reasons.

Edited by tishy]]> Mon, 05 Sep 2011 13:16:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384227&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384227 <![CDATA[Not allowed to see baby : if it were me i would be up there...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384215&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384215 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 40401
Posted: 05 September 2011 at 12:58pm

if it were me i would be up there demanding the mother be allowed to see her baby! how hard is it to wheel the bassinett to her in Recovery?! Is her husband supportive of her not seeing the baby?]]> Mon, 05 Sep 2011 12:58:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384215&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384215 <![CDATA[Not allowed to see baby : I know its hard I was in a similar...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384187&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384187 Author: UpsyDaisy
Subject: 40401
Posted: 05 September 2011 at 12:12pm


I know its hard I was in a similar situation to your SIL with my DS having to be apart from me initially but it sounds like she has alot more medical issues.

It is tough at the time but the rules are to protect both your SIL, baby and the staff. If your SIL were to visit baby in a NICU ward and have a seizure the nurses there would not have the experience or equipment to deal with it.

DH did the skin to skin with DS, hes a real daddys boy which DH attributes back to this

She should get support with BF, I hope she does not put to much pressure on herself as I did ( not good for your blood pressure) I was freaking out as my milk was not coming in and was not until about day 5 a lactaction consultant told me if medical stuff is going on with the mum or you have alot of oedema the milk is slower to come in. It didn't happen for me until day 6/7.

Sounds like baby is doing well so hopefully they will be all together soon.]]> Mon, 05 Sep 2011 12:12:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384187&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384187 <![CDATA[Not allowed to see baby : Maybe ask the dad to ask the nurses...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384142&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384142 Author: bebebaby
Subject: 40401
Posted: 05 September 2011 at 10:41am

Maybe ask the dad to ask the nurses looking after baby if they can ask for mum to come down. But I would say they are doing the best thing for you SIL. Which does suck in the mean time.
Also if baby is in special care then the nurses will help mum with bf'ing and she will be given assistance to learn to express etc. So I wouldn't worry too much about the bf'ing yet. Also just encourage mum to do lots of skin to skin once she can see baby.]]> Mon, 05 Sep 2011 10:41:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384142&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384142 <![CDATA[Not allowed to see baby : It just seems odd to me.. you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384139&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384139 Author: MissAngel
Subject: 40401
Posted: 05 September 2011 at 10:36am

It just seems odd to me.. you think that letting her see the baby would help settle her down.
Ive just seen a pic of her and man she's lovely!!! ]]> Mon, 05 Sep 2011 10:36:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384139&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384139 <![CDATA[Not allowed to see baby : aww your poor sil i know it sounds...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384128&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384128 Author: james
Subject: 40401
Posted: 05 September 2011 at 10:16am

aww your poor sil i know it sounds curl but the doctors will have there reason why she cant see baby. They will want her to settle frist. There maybe more going on then she is telling you, or that she even knows herself. I am sure once she is settled they will let her see the baby. ]]> Mon, 05 Sep 2011 10:16:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384128&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384128 <![CDATA[Not allowed to see baby : I thought i&#039;d post this here...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384116&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384116 Author: MissAngel
Subject: 40401
Posted: 05 September 2011 at 9:53am

I thought i'd post this here so it gets the most exposure.

My SIL had her wee girl last night, 2 weeks early after pre-eclampsia and spontanious labour. 12 hour labour, pain relief didnt work and baby came out via forcepts and not breathing. Baby is fine and has been off machines since 3am which is awesome, done her first poo and has had a feed (i think formula)

Now, the problem thats going on, is my poor SIL had super high BP and a seizure at the end of labour because she was so stressed out. Her BP was fine until the last 30 mins of labour. They have her in recovery still and will NOT let her see the baby.

I rang her this morning and she's bright as a bird, knows whats happening, feels like a spaghetti monster with all the wires and tubes and crap, but she hasnt even seen one glimpse of her lovely wee girl. They say she's not allowed to until she is calm and her BP has come down. I would have thought that holding/feeding baby would help with that, would it not? I'm quite concerned because if she gets any more stressed out, she'll have another seizure or at worst case senario a stroke.

This isnt right, is it? As far as I know (from the convo we had) theres no other issues - she's not bleeding heavy, she's been to the toilet etc. They wont even let her have a cup of tea! What can we do? I tried to assure her that if she concentrates on the fact that she'll get to see baby once she's settled down, everything will be alright, but yea.. not working.

Also, has anyone got a recipe for those cookies that help with BF? Baby was 2 weeks early and because she hasnt been able to feed her herself, she's worried she's going to have problems. Thought I might bake her some tasty treats to help!

TIA! xox]]> Mon, 05 Sep 2011 09:53:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40401&PID=1384116&title=not-allowed-to-see-baby#1384116