OHbaby! Forums : New sibling woes https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 04 Apr 2026 11:56:10 +0000 Mon, 29 Aug 2011 13:06:33 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=40322 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[New sibling woes : Definitely normal. We had the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40322&PID=1381301&title=new-sibling-woes#1381301 Author: kellie
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Posted: 29 August 2011 at 1:06pm

Definitely normal. We had the same thing happen here.]]> Mon, 29 Aug 2011 13:06:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40322&PID=1381301&title=new-sibling-woes#1381301 <![CDATA[New sibling woes : it is definetly normal JessDub!!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40322&PID=1381287&title=new-sibling-woes#1381287 Author: My3Sons
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Posted: 29 August 2011 at 12:38pm

it is definetly normal JessDub!!  I also had 22 months between my 2 and it did take awhile, I really like the idea of the baby you will have to wait idea and the something special such as a dvd or a box of special toys is great while feeding.  Good luck, hope things start improving soon!

]]> Mon, 29 Aug 2011 12:38:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40322&PID=1381287&title=new-sibling-woes#1381287 <![CDATA[New sibling woes : DS1&#039;s behaviour went downhill...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40322&PID=1381100&title=new-sibling-woes#1381100 Author: tibby
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Posted: 28 August 2011 at 8:22pm

DS1's behaviour went downhill too. He was 22 mths when DS2 was born. We were a bit softer on him for a while but when it didn't improve we went back to strict boundaries, time out etc. It did take a few months but he is much better again now. Of course it could also have been an age/timing thing.]]> Sun, 28 Aug 2011 20:22:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40322&PID=1381100&title=new-sibling-woes#1381100 <![CDATA[New sibling woes : Thank you all. So it seems quite...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40322&PID=1381035&title=new-sibling-woes#1381035 Author: JessDub
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Posted: 28 August 2011 at 4:42pm

Thank you all. So it seems quite common for older siblings to spit the dummy, I feel a tad better.]]> Sun, 28 Aug 2011 16:42:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40322&PID=1381035&title=new-sibling-woes#1381035 <![CDATA[New sibling woes : We did the &#039;baby you have...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40322&PID=1381031&title=new-sibling-woes#1381031 Author: BoMama
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Posted: 28 August 2011 at 4:22pm

We did the 'baby you have to wait' and it worked well. We also had a special box for BFing and I kept us in a routine as much as possible so that DS1 knew when was baby time and when was his time. If DS1 was throwing a tanty I would finish what I was doing with DS i.e finish wiping his bum put then pop him on the floor, or if I was BFing I'd just take him off and pop him down, then go ask DS1 if he wanted a cuddle or if he needed time out. The way I figured it DS1 would get more benefit from the attention than DS2 would get problems from the disruptions (that might not be very clear sorry). Anyway he either had a cuddle and I encouraged him to use words to tell me what he wanted or how he was feeling, or he went to his room til he could be good company (I don't let my children tantrum in the same room, it drives me mental). We rarely had any issues and being reassured that he was still important seemed to deal with any sibling issues as he adores his brother and wants more 'family babies' HTH!]]> Sun, 28 Aug 2011 16:22:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40322&PID=1381031&title=new-sibling-woes#1381031 <![CDATA[New sibling woes : Oh! you&#039;re here too...I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40322&PID=1381010&title=new-sibling-woes#1381010 Author: Lucky apple
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Posted: 28 August 2011 at 3:03pm

Oh! you're here too...I just posted on this in the toddler thread. Just my cents worth! :-)]]> Sun, 28 Aug 2011 15:03:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40322&PID=1381010&title=new-sibling-woes#1381010 <![CDATA[New sibling woes : Daniels behaviour turned feral...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40322&PID=1380987&title=new-sibling-woes#1380987 Author: kebakat
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Posted: 28 August 2011 at 11:59am

Daniels behaviour turned feral after Alex showed up. It took time for him to adjust beacause he had been the centre of our attention all his life.. but we got him a couple of new dvds and told him he could watch those while i was busy with alex because he was a horrible feeder which could take nearly an hour to get a feed into him. Daniel was really happy with this arrangement of watching thomas while mummy was busy then I made an effort to do something fun with him while Alex was asleep.. usually baking cause he loves it]]> Sun, 28 Aug 2011 11:59:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40322&PID=1380987&title=new-sibling-woes#1380987 <![CDATA[New sibling woes : One of the things that worked...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40322&PID=1380971&title=new-sibling-woes#1380971 Author: linda
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Posted: 28 August 2011 at 10:15am

One of the things that worked well for us was if baby was crying and I knew that he was generally ok and my 2 year old wanted something I would say to the baby 'Alex, you need to wait, I am doing something with your brother'. Its not going to mean anything to the baby of course but it puts some attention on the elder child. It worked really well for us but of course you have to pick your times that you can see it. We also let DS feed his baby brother which was hit and miss a bit but I think every little thing you do helps. Good luck]]> Sun, 28 Aug 2011 10:15:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40322&PID=1380971&title=new-sibling-woes#1380971 <![CDATA[New sibling woes : I&#039;ll cross-post this here....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40322&PID=1380964&title=new-sibling-woes#1380964 Author: JessDub
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Posted: 28 August 2011 at 9:53am

I'll cross-post this here. 51 views in Toddler Times and no replies.

When B2 arrived, DS was heartbroken. He has not taken well to the new baby, resulting in tantrums, broken sleep and he has started pushing children at daycare (he has never hit, bitten or pushed anyone before).

I know it'll take time, care and attention, and we're working on it but the regular tantrums - especially when he can see I have my hands full are doing my head in and making me quite resentful and upset(if I can be honest).

Normally I'll ignore a tantrum but I wonder if I should be doing something else? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Any recommended books also?]]> Sun, 28 Aug 2011 09:53:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40322&PID=1380964&title=new-sibling-woes#1380964