https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 04 Apr 2026 16:18:33 +0000 Sun, 31 Jul 2011 13:52:26 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=39832 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1369564&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1369564 Author: fallen
Subject: 39832
Posted: 31 July 2011 at 1:52pm

Thank you! It helps that we live in NZ and most of them live in Aussie.]]> Sun, 31 Jul 2011 13:52:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1369564&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1369564 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1369557&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1369557 Author: Faffer
Subject: 39832
Posted: 31 July 2011 at 1:26pm

Congratulations! Sounds like you had exactly the day that you and your DH wanted, which in the end is all that really matters.

May you have a long and happy marriage with minimal interference from disgruntled family members!]]> Sun, 31 Jul 2011 13:26:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1369557&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1369557 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1369499&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1369499 Author: rachelsea
Subject: 39832
Posted: 31 July 2011 at 9:35am

Aww congrats on your wedding! Sorry about some family members being silly, but like others have said, it's their loss! ]]> Sun, 31 Jul 2011 09:35:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1369499&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1369499 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1369330&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1369330 Author: Jaune
Subject: 39832
Posted: 30 July 2011 at 3:18pm

Oh, well, no real loss then huh?!

There's always got to be some sort of drama before, during or after a wedding!]]> Sat, 30 Jul 2011 15:18:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1369330&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1369330 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1369298&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1369298 Author: fallen
Subject: 39832
Posted: 30 July 2011 at 2:07pm

Yep its her sister. Long story but DH pretty much considers his aunty more of a mother than his mother. MIL and Aunty don't talk. DH really couldn't care less that his mother has reacted this way.

And even if we had given her say 6 months notice MIL still wouldn't have made it. She doesn't work, is in constant debt etc etc.]]> Sat, 30 Jul 2011 14:07:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1369298&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1369298 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1369292&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1369292 Author: Jaune
Subject: 39832
Posted: 30 July 2011 at 2:01pm

Oh no! That's pretty sh*t!
I take it it's her sister? DH's aunty? Sounds like he might need to have a chat with her...

My Mum would probably kill me if I had my aunty at my wedding and not her!]]> Sat, 30 Jul 2011 14:01:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1369292&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1369292 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1369285&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1369285 Author: fallen
Subject: 39832
Posted: 30 July 2011 at 1:45pm

Ahahaha my new MIL has defriended me, DH and our son on facebook because she has just seen the photos that have been up there for over a week and seen that DH's aunty was there.]]> Sat, 30 Jul 2011 13:45:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1369285&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1369285 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1366691&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1366691 Author: Jaune
Subject: 39832
Posted: 24 July 2011 at 3:48pm

fallen wrote: Jaune - I wore black pants and a nice grey top. DH wore black pants and a black stripey shirt. The lady at the registry office said she had seen it all.. from full on wedding dresses etc to jeans and a t-shirt to dress up costumes.

That's good to know - I've always quite liked the idea of a registry office wedding but had no idea what to wear!

Congratulations! Pleased it all went well!]]> Sun, 24 Jul 2011 15:48:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1366691&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1366691 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1366676&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1366676 Author: EmDee
Subject: 39832
Posted: 24 July 2011 at 2:56pm

fallen wrote: Regarding other people putting their oar in I think my Dad put it best... 'tell them to get stuffed, its your wedding not theirs, they wouldn't change their plans for something important just to suit you, they can be disappointed all they want but at the end of the day they need to just suck it up'.

this!

Congratulations! I'm really glad to hear that the day went as you and your DH wanted it ]]> Sun, 24 Jul 2011 14:56:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1366676&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1366676 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1366671&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1366671 Author: fallen
Subject: 39832
Posted: 24 July 2011 at 2:44pm

Thank you for all your kind words ladies.

The wedding was simple, no fuss and fun. Just the way we wanted it.

Regarding other people putting their oar in I think my Dad put it best... 'tell them to get stuffed, its your wedding not theirs, they wouldn't change their plans for something important just to suit you, they can be disappointed all they want but at the end of the day they need to just suck it up'.

Jaune - I wore black pants and a nice grey top. DH wore black pants and a black stripey shirt. The lady at the registry office said she had seen it all.. from full on wedding dresses etc to jeans and a t-shirt to dress up costumes.]]> Sun, 24 Jul 2011 14:44:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1366671&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1366671 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1363997&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1363997 Author: Jaune
Subject: 39832
Posted: 17 July 2011 at 9:02pm

Congratulations fallen! Hope it's an awesome day! Sounds like it all worked out really well.

Just had a quick question for you - I've always liked the idea of a registry office wedding, get it done and dusted with very little fuss... just wondered what you and your DF were planning on wearing??]]> Sun, 17 Jul 2011 21:02:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1363997&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1363997 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1363747&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1363747 Author: Plushie
Subject: 39832
Posted: 17 July 2011 at 8:44am

oooooh YAY!!!! How exciting, hope you have a beautiful day xx]]> Sun, 17 Jul 2011 08:44:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1363747&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1363747 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1363744&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1363744 Author: Mum_mum
Subject: 39832
Posted: 17 July 2011 at 8:31am

Aw yay Fallen! All the very best for Thursday!]]> Sun, 17 Jul 2011 08:31:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1363744&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1363744 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1363701&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1363701 Author: myfullhouse
Subject: 39832
Posted: 16 July 2011 at 8:27pm

That's wonderful, all the best for the big day!!]]> Sat, 16 Jul 2011 20:27:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1363701&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1363701 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1363690&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1363690 Author: Richie
Subject: 39832
Posted: 16 July 2011 at 7:58pm

Exciting news! And like the others have said, do it for yourselves and not for others. You will NEVER please everyone (Speaking from experience as we are getting married Nov 20th and gave everyone a year notice but people are still wanting us to change the date to suit them. So go for it and enjoy!]]> Sat, 16 Jul 2011 19:58:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1363690&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1363690 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1363669&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1363669 Author: EmDee
Subject: 39832
Posted: 16 July 2011 at 7:11pm

How exciting! All the best for your wedding!

Try not to let anyone ruin your day. It is how you and your DF want it and thats all that matters ]]> Sat, 16 Jul 2011 19:11:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1363669&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1363669 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1363661&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1363661 Author: MamaT
Subject: 39832
Posted: 16 July 2011 at 6:46pm

That is so exciting!!!!
Ignore the other family members, this is what you and your DF want and at the end of the day that is all that matters. You can never please everyone and just have to do what works for you.

I hope you have a fantastic day!!!!!!]]> Sat, 16 Jul 2011 18:46:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1363661&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1363661 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1363619&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1363619 Author: fallen
Subject: 39832
Posted: 16 July 2011 at 4:28pm

Aunty is here. Wedding is booked for Thursday DF is happy. Only problem is his father and stepmother were 'very disappointed and upset' that they can't be there. So want us to see if we can change the date THIS is the kinda crap I wanted to avoid by doing it this way. ]]> Sat, 16 Jul 2011 16:28:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1363619&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1363619 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1359848&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1359848 Author: fallen
Subject: 39832
Posted: 09 July 2011 at 9:36am

If we did do it it would be the Friday before she leaves so he would have a week of knowing.

The deal breaker has always been that she has to be here. All his family lives in Aussie. Ideally he'd like to have his Dad, Grandparents etc present too, but not really possible. He is closest to his Aunty.

The amount we'd lose would only be $170, so not enough for flights.]]> Sat, 09 Jul 2011 09:36:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1359848&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1359848 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1359828&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1359828 Author: jazzy
Subject: 39832
Posted: 09 July 2011 at 8:09am

james wrote: why dont you jus say wana get married on that date dont tell him the aunty will be there say you just want it to be you and him nice and romactic then spring the aunty on him when you get there

yip I agree with this I think its better he knows he is getting married than just turning up at his wedding.]]> Sat, 09 Jul 2011 08:09:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1359828&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1359828 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1359825&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1359825 Author: james
Subject: 39832
Posted: 09 July 2011 at 8:02am

why dont you jus say wana get married on that date dont tell him the aunty will be there say you just want it to be you and him nice and romactic then spring the aunty on him when you get there ]]> Sat, 09 Jul 2011 08:02:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1359825&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1359825 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1359807&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1359807 Author: ....
Subject: 39832
Posted: 09 July 2011 at 12:51am

Maybe if the amount of money you'd lose if you decide to cancel is decent, you could just hold onto it and pay for her flights over later on?
That way you'll have more time to plan etc if you're not sure what his reaction will be?]]> Sat, 09 Jul 2011 00:51:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1359807&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1359807 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1359708&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1359708 Author: myfullhouse
Subject: 39832
Posted: 08 July 2011 at 7:25pm

So maybe you could arrange it for the Saturday before she leaves and tell him once she arrives so he then has about a week to get used to the idea of it being so soon]]> Fri, 08 Jul 2011 19:25:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1359708&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1359708 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1359701&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1359701 Author: fallen
Subject: 39832
Posted: 08 July 2011 at 7:12pm

Aunty is here for 9 days. Arriving late Friday night and leaving midday the following Sunday. So I could book (and pay) and cancel if he decides he doesn't want to. It costs $170something so not a major amount of money. Legally there needs to be 3 days between lodging the form and the actual ceremony but to get a time that is convenient to fit around work we need to book asap.

We have already decided against getting married at our church as it costs $300 just for the church hire. Then more for using the kitchen, flowers, sound person and so on. And we'd still need to pay $130ish for the marriage license.

She won't be coming back later in the year. It is unlikely we will see her until we next go to Aussie which is getting more expensive as our family expands.]]> Fri, 08 Jul 2011 19:12:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1359701&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1359701 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1359627&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1359627 Author: myfullhouse
Subject: 39832
Posted: 08 July 2011 at 4:17pm

Yeah how long is she here for? Could you plan it, then mention it to him as soon as she arrives, then cancel/postpone if he decides he wants to wait? Is there time for that or is she only here a few days? Is it easy enough for her to come back later in the year/early next year or will you not see her for quite sometime after the christening?

DH didn't do much of the planning for our wedding but I don't think he would have liked it if I had planned it without him knowing.]]> Fri, 08 Jul 2011 16:17:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1359627&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1359627 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1359573&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1359573 Author: HoneybunsMa
Subject: 39832
Posted: 08 July 2011 at 2:53pm

How long is she here for? How long does it take to lodge the form? I thought it was a couple of days or is it different with a registry office wedding?

Are you able to book it then cancel if need be? Or does that forfeit the money (which is only a couple of hundred dollars if memory serves me right)

Maybe mention to him that you think you should get married at Haileys christening and see what he says? If his only protest is because he wants his Aunty there then when she is here say well how about we go get married?

I'm undecided if DP would want to know? I think I would book it and see what the terms are for cancelling or if you can afford to not show up and lose the money if he said no]]> Fri, 08 Jul 2011 14:53:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1359573&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1359573 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1359572&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1359572 Author: fallen
Subject: 39832
Posted: 08 July 2011 at 2:39pm

I know he wouldn't care much to do any/much of the planning. Not that there is much.. just fill in the form, go in with payment and book the day. But like your DH, kiwikt, I think he would like to know whats going on.]]> Fri, 08 Jul 2011 14:39:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1359572&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1359572 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1359568&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1359568 Author: kiwikt
Subject: 39832
Posted: 08 July 2011 at 2:28pm

You are the best judge of whether DF wants to be involved in it. Does he love surprises?

My DH didn't have much to do with planning the wedding - although he did like to know what was going on. He would have hated showing up on the day and having it all a surprise.

But there are a lot of guys out there who would love to just show up!]]> Fri, 08 Jul 2011 14:28:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1359568&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1359568 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1359565&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1359565 Author: Plushie
Subject: 39832
Posted: 08 July 2011 at 2:22pm

Oooooooooh DO IT!!!! I guess it depends on the type of guy he is but if you think he'd be chuffed to be suprised, excited to be getting married, and secretly relieved not to have to do too much planning then dooooo it!

(inner romantic, but not married so tainted opinion!)]]> Fri, 08 Jul 2011 14:22:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1359565&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1359565 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1359553&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1359553 Author: fallen
Subject: 39832
Posted: 08 July 2011 at 2:02pm

Hailey is getting Christened next weekend. DF's Aunty and cousin are coming over from Australia for it. DF doesn't know they are coming yet, we thought it would be a fantastic surprise for him.

But.. DF and I have talked about getting married when his aunty is here. She had plans on coming later in the year or early next. It would be awesome to do it while she is here, but I don't feel right planning it without his knowledge. I'm not sure what to do. Any ideas?

We're just wanting a registry office wedding. I've got the forms and have spoken to the registry office person and they have space on 22/7 which would be the best day to do it. But need to book in soon or the space will likely be taken. Argh!! ]]> Fri, 08 Jul 2011 14:02:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39832&PID=1359553&title=what-to-do-re-wedding#1359553