OHbaby! Forums : Surnames for your baby https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Tue, 07 Apr 2026 20:25:59 +0000 Sun, 22 May 2011 11:22:31 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=39192 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : all of my boys have DHs surname,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1331343&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1331343 Author: My3Sons
Subject: 39192
Posted: 22 May 2011 at 11:22am

all of my boys have DHs surname, DS10 was nearly 2 when we got married I couldnt have hyphenated the surnames even if I wanted to because they rhyme lol!!

]]> Sun, 22 May 2011 11:22:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1331343&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1331343 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : Never really thought about this...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1331191&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1331191 Author: bext1
Subject: 39192
Posted: 21 May 2011 at 10:05pm

Never really thought about this one, but all 4 boys have their Dad's surname. the only thing will be when DP and I finally get married, then DS1 will be the odd name out, as he has his Dad's surname (the ex). ]]> Sat, 21 May 2011 22:05:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1331191&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1331191 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : Interesting! DD has DPs surname,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1330460&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1330460 Author: High9
Subject: 39192
Posted: 20 May 2011 at 4:26pm

Interesting! DD has DPs surname, if we ever got married I would take his name and as the father I felt he had 'earned the right'.

As a child my parents weren't married and I took my father's name. My parents split when I was about 1 years and I went on holiday with my mum and grandparents and they got questioned at the airport due to me having a different name, etc and actually missed their flight! I had my name changed when I was 5 to my mums last name (my current last name) as I hadn't seen my dad since I was about 1 and just made things 'less complicated'.

If DP and I ever split I probably would look at changing DDs name - although that is quite a hassle and even now I always have to state that I have had a name change on everything! ]]> Fri, 20 May 2011 16:26:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1330460&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1330460 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : My daughter has her father&#039;s...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1330430&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1330430 Author: leaupeepz
Subject: 39192
Posted: 20 May 2011 at 4:00pm

My daughter has her father's surname. We're engaged. He was ready to put up an argument if I had refused his name or decide to hyphenate. But I had no doubt in my mind that our daughter will have his surname only.
I have 4 brothers so I wasnt too worried about whose going to carry my fathers name (though their wives have hyphenated their names). My partner only has nieces so theres noone to carry his father's name, and yes theres that pressure on us to have a boy in the near future.. X fingers crossed X ]]> Fri, 20 May 2011 16:00:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1330430&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1330430 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : We chose mine. It was weird -...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1329585&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1329585 Author: luvmylittlies
Subject: 39192
Posted: 19 May 2011 at 12:39pm

We chose mine. It was weird - we just happily settled on mine without much discussion and everyone in all the families seemed content with that. None of the hyphenated names sounded right and my boyfriends parents are divorced and we were knew we'd upset whichever side we didn't use if we chose one of his. Plus his 2 options were not highly desirable surnames. ]]> Thu, 19 May 2011 12:39:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1329585&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1329585 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : DD has DF&#039;s surname. I still...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1328993&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1328993 Author: HoneybunsMa
Subject: 39192
Posted: 18 May 2011 at 3:46pm

DD has DF's surname. I still consider her to be more a part of my family then his though probably first grandchild thing.

Had we had a conversation we had when DD was about 4weeks before DD was born then she probably would have ended up with my name.

He basically said that he wouldn't have minded her having my surname as she would eventually change the surname anyway when she got married. He also thinks it would be easier for her to have my name because its an english name instead of her having his Samoan name. He has grown up being prejudiced against because of his surname and doesn't want that to happen to DD considering she will probably end up looking just like an extremely tanned person lol.

When we get married I won't be taking his name, well I might hyphenate it. I thought it was funny when we had a family meeting with his family and his dad was happy myself and DF were getting married and his sister and her partner announced they were getting married as his dad actually said "it's important that the children have the same name as both parents" I almost choked. DF knows I'm not going to be just M, I will probably be M*** E**** ]]> Wed, 18 May 2011 15:46:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1328993&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1328993 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : My eldest has hyphenated names...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1328937&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1328937 Author: JD
Subject: 39192
Posted: 18 May 2011 at 2:33pm

My eldest has hyphenated names with myself and her father. I only agreed to that since she was a girl and i figured she would change it when she gets married. If she was a boy, I would have given her my name only. I actually wish she only had my name since I makes me cringe when I see her father take credit at her success now when he hasn't done anything to help her get there. Might be petty, but thats just how I feel    She can use whatever name she wants. If she wanted to drop my maiden name and use my married that would be fine, but she doesnt want to do that. She is old enough for it to make a big difference changing her name now.

My two younger ones both have DH's name since we were married before they were conceived and I have his name also.

My brother had 3 kids with his wife before they were married. she gave them all her name and when they got married, she had them all changed to the new married name. Quite a good way of going about it really.

Just my opionion and I dont mean to offend anyone, but I think the father shouldnt get naming rights until he does decent by the mother by marrying her (unless of course she doesnt believe in marriage).
I don't know of any guys who have consistantly been a good dad to their children who live with their mother.

Just my opinion ]]> Wed, 18 May 2011 14:33:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1328937&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1328937 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : My kids have their Dads name,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1328726&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1328726 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 39192
Posted: 18 May 2011 at 10:30am

My kids have their Dads name, it's hyphenated anyway so I couldn't add mine even if I wanted to. A friend of mine's parents made up a last name for him as they weren't married. They never had anymore children and he hated being the only one with his name so he changed it by deed poll to his Dad's surname.]]> Wed, 18 May 2011 10:30:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1328726&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1328726 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : I&#039;m hyphenated, my choice....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1328709&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1328709 Author: .Mel
Subject: 39192
Posted: 18 May 2011 at 10:05am

I'm hyphenated, my choice. Didn't take DH's surname as I didn't want my oldest to lose his identity to me.
My oldest son has my maiden name
My daughter has a hyphenated name mine then DH's
My youngers has DH's.


Oldest didn't want to take DH's name when we got married.
Daughter has hyphenated because we weren't married when I had her... when she's older if she wants to drop my name she can.
Youngest was always going to have DH's surname.]]> Wed, 18 May 2011 10:05:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1328709&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1328709 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : My girls have their fathers surname,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1328452&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1328452 Author: M2K
Subject: 39192
Posted: 17 May 2011 at 8:19pm

My girls have their fathers surname, mine will eventually be the same. He was upset when he saw her hospital band with my surname haha.

DP did ask if I wanted the girls to have my surname but I figured that when we do get married we would have to change their names also. ]]> Tue, 17 May 2011 20:19:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1328452&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1328452 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : DD has DP&#039;s surname, was...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1328433&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1328433 Author: Bexta
Subject: 39192
Posted: 17 May 2011 at 8:04pm

DD has DP's surname, was never really discussed between us but we both wanted that. My surname is an English sounding name with a French spelling. Ironically (or stupidly??) we gave DD an English sounding first name with a French spelling ]]> Tue, 17 May 2011 20:04:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1328433&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1328433 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : All my children with have there...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1328422&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1328422 Author: _SMS_
Subject: 39192
Posted: 17 May 2011 at 7:52pm

All my children with have there fathers last name. We dont plan on marrying but if we did i would also change name]]> Tue, 17 May 2011 19:52:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1328422&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1328422 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : we werent married when we had...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1328408&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1328408 Author: rorylex
Subject: 39192
Posted: 17 May 2011 at 7:41pm

we werent married when we had our 1st but we were together and i didnt want my kids to have my last night so they all have Dh's surname. only our last baby we we married when he was born. i was looking forward to having Baby of L******* on his hospital bracelet but hospital stuffed that up. so maybe our next baby will.
it does make alot of things easier to have the same surname like school and playcentre things.]]> Tue, 17 May 2011 19:41:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1328408&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1328408 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : I wasn&#039;t married with my...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327942&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327942 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 39192
Posted: 17 May 2011 at 10:59am

I wasn't married with my oldest was born but he still got DH's surname.

]]> Tue, 17 May 2011 10:59:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327942&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327942 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : Totally forgot about this - but...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327803&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327803 Author: Plushie
Subject: 39192
Posted: 17 May 2011 at 8:13am

Totally forgot about this - but i have a german friend who got all viking and gave their son his first name as a last name + son. (clemensson) in the style of ivarson, svenson etc. I thought that was totally cool but no doubt not for everyone!!]]> Tue, 17 May 2011 08:13:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327803&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327803 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : my daughter has a hyphenated surname....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327758&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327758 Author: TheKelly
Subject: 39192
Posted: 17 May 2011 at 12:47am

my daughter has a hyphenated surname.
Her dad's name first,and it WAS my maiden name last,when I married (not to her biological father) we unofficially changed that so now she has her bio dad's surname first,then the same surname as me,her (step)dad,her brother and sister.

Basically it went from being Caityn F***** M****** to Caitlyn F***** S*******]]> Tue, 17 May 2011 00:47:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327758&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327758 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : I think people just need to do...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327700&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327700 Author: mum2ollie
Subject: 39192
Posted: 16 May 2011 at 10:23pm

I think people just need to do what is right for them really.]]> Mon, 16 May 2011 22:23:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327700&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327700 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : my daughter has my surname as...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327698&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327698 Author: julz85
Subject: 39192
Posted: 16 May 2011 at 10:19pm

my daughter has my surname as her dad and i broke up when i was pregnant . i have been with my current partner since dd was 4months old (shes just about 2 now)  so i guess the day may come when i will have to choose to keep her name as my last name or change it to dps lastname (if he were to adopt her if we ever get married for example) , if we did get married i would take his last name so i wouldnt want to leave dd out as the only one with a different last name (dp has a daughter too and she has his last name and her mothers heifinated) ).

Edited by julz85]]> Mon, 16 May 2011 22:19:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327698&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327698 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : Was never a second thought for...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327697&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327697 Author: emz
Subject: 39192
Posted: 16 May 2011 at 10:18pm

Was never a second thought for me either.

I do have an ex-colleague whose children had his wife's last name - but she's Spanish and apparently that's quite common (or so he said - girls get the mum's last name, boys get the dad's?)

It does get confusing when addressing parents at school, but is the norm for kids to have different last names to one of the parents (over half my kids have different names to their mothers anyway)]]> Mon, 16 May 2011 22:18:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327697&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327697 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : Floyd has DP&#039;s surname, and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327595&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327595 Author: sarahm
Subject: 39192
Posted: 16 May 2011 at 8:56pm

Floyd has DP's surname, and my surname as one of his middle names. So many people get confused and think that it is hyphenated, they dont seem to get that he has two middle names. ]]> Mon, 16 May 2011 20:56:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327595&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327595 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : Interesting thread - I&#039;d...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327422&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327422 Author: Richie
Subject: 39192
Posted: 16 May 2011 at 7:07pm

Interesting thread - I'd never thought of doing anything but taking my DF's surname when we get married, or hyphenating (plus, our last names would sound daft together). And had never heard of children taking their mother's surname if the mother keeps her maiden name. My DF and I are getting married this November but DD has his last name but we were engaged when we had her so I never even considered doing anyhing else]]> Mon, 16 May 2011 19:07:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327422&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327422 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : Our boys have hyphenated surnames. We...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327369&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327369 Author: Delli
Subject: 39192
Posted: 16 May 2011 at 5:45pm

Our boys have hyphenated surnames.

We decided long before trying to conceive as it was an important issue for me. They are both our boys, so it made sense that they should have both our names. I would keep my surname if we ever got married.]]> Mon, 16 May 2011 17:45:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327369&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327369 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : I will be married when i finally...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327352&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327352 Author: _H_
Subject: 39192
Posted: 16 May 2011 at 5:26pm

I will be married when i finally get pregnant but if i wasnt baby would have DFs last name.

You do have to make sure it doesnt get to complicated, my cousins DS has hyphenated name (hers and his fathers) when she got married her and her husband both hyphenated their names then his kids names are hyphenated as well (his and their mothers) Means that there is 3 different surnames in their house! ]]> Mon, 16 May 2011 17:26:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327352&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327352 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : I&#039;m married with same surname,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327324&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327324 Author: millymollymandy
Subject: 39192
Posted: 16 May 2011 at 5:01pm

I'm married with same surname, but I would like to give the next baby my maiden name as a middle if its a boy as the are no boys in my family this generation (11 girls tho).

SIL is married kept her name and gave the baby her name too. The possibilities are endless.]]> Mon, 16 May 2011 17:01:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327324&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327324 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : Both my son and my soon to be...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327231&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327231 Author: mum2ollie
Subject: 39192
Posted: 16 May 2011 at 3:21pm

Both my son and my soon to be born son have DPs surname. I plan to be with him forever (if he'll keep me) and he's the father of my children so yeah. We never even discussed it, it was just how it happened.]]> Mon, 16 May 2011 15:21:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327231&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327231 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : We are married but I went hyphenated...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327222&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327222 Author: sbeach
Subject: 39192
Posted: 16 May 2011 at 3:13pm

We are married but I went hyphenated as I wanted to keep my maiden name but also wanted DH's. DD has the same surname as me then but it ends on DH's name IYGWIM mine-his. When making booking for the family I use DH's name as it is shorter and doesnt require spelling...

DH did say he would go hyphenated too but it requires a change by deedpoll and he only got as far as printing off the forms 2 years ago!!! I have stopped asking. ]]> Mon, 16 May 2011 15:13:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327222&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327222 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : i like my name but wouldnt burdon...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327206&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327206 Author: Mucky_Tiger
Subject: 39192
Posted: 16 May 2011 at 2:55pm

i like my name but wouldnt burdon a baby with it only to have to change it when me and DP marry, and DP like his (alot).

Our names so don't hypenate well (Tosh-Paterson or Paterson-Tosh) so our kids will have DP's name (Paterson)
it will just work out easier to not have to change their names, and my name...that said we will maybe be married before we have kids - if DP ever gets around to proposing

Oh and i was 5 when my parents finally married and I was a Tosh from birth (Dads last name)]]> Mon, 16 May 2011 14:55:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327206&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327206 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : kiwisj wrote: Bowie wrote:I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327156&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327156 Author: tishy
Subject: 39192
Posted: 16 May 2011 at 2:18pm

Originally posted by kiwisj kiwisj wrote:

Originally posted by Bowie Bowie wrote:

I don't know that its actually easier that we have the same surname but i have heard of people having trouble travelling when the kids have a different surname on their passports - they had to have birth certificates as well.



I travelled with DS1 quite a bit before I got my new passport (with my married name) and have never had an issue with us having different surnames


Same here.

Can't really comment on the OP as my kids have DHs surname, but then I took his name when we got married.
]]> Mon, 16 May 2011 14:18:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327156&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327156 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : I am married but kept my own name...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327149&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327149 Author: crafty1
Subject: 39192
Posted: 16 May 2011 at 2:11pm

I am married but kept my own name and both boys have my surname. Hubby is free to change his surname to join us any time but feels that it would be like losing his identity. ]]> Mon, 16 May 2011 14:11:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327149&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327149 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : My sister gave her DD her partners...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327148&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327148 Author: Nikki
Subject: 39192
Posted: 16 May 2011 at 2:10pm

My sister gave her DD her partners surname as they were engaged and planned to get married. she told DP they had to be married before DD got to school so they all had the same surname by then!]]> Mon, 16 May 2011 14:10:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327148&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327148 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : I hyphenated my surname with my...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327140&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327140 Author: Danda08
Subject: 39192
Posted: 16 May 2011 at 2:03pm

I hyphenated my surname with my DH's when we got married but our two girls have his surname.

I don't have any strong feelings about my (maiden) surname but couldn't get my head around dropping it just because I got married, hence hyphenating.

And I didn't want my girls to have a double barrelled name - it's a pain TBH

I made the decisions, DH just had to live with them, hehe

Edited by Danda08]]> Mon, 16 May 2011 14:03:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327140&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327140 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : We gave our daughter a hyphenated...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327095&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327095 Author: Kalimirella
Subject: 39192
Posted: 16 May 2011 at 1:16pm

We gave our daughter a hyphenated version of both of ours, tbh were she a boy I probably would've quite happily just went with his but it didn't sound right with her name and I actually like the individuality of my surname.

Therefore all subsequent children will have the same for simplicity.]]> Mon, 16 May 2011 13:16:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327095&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327095 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : My aunt and uncle aren&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327093&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327093 Author: myfullhouse
Subject: 39192
Posted: 16 May 2011 at 1:15pm

My aunt and uncle aren't married and thier 3 kids have my uncle's surname]]> Mon, 16 May 2011 13:15:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327093&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327093 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : Bowie wrote:I don&#039;t know...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327084&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327084 Author: kiwisj
Subject: 39192
Posted: 16 May 2011 at 1:10pm

Originally posted by Bowie Bowie wrote:

I don't know that its actually easier that we have the same surname but i have heard of people having trouble travelling when the kids have a different surname on their passports - they had to have birth certificates as well.



I travelled with DS1 quite a bit before I got my new passport (with my married name) and have never had an issue with us having different surnames

On the original topic, all my friends who have kept their own surname or aren't married to their baby's father have given him their father's surname.

Actually, that's not true. One of my girlfriends recently gave her baby boy HER surname (she is married to the father but kept her own name). ]]> Mon, 16 May 2011 13:10:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327084&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327084 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : DS has DP&#039;s surname...we...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327080&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327080 Author: Jaune
Subject: 39192
Posted: 16 May 2011 at 1:09pm

DS has DP's surname...we live together and eventually it'll be my surname too!
I did joke about giving him my surname until we got married or at least engaged but it didn't prompt a proposal!
My surname is a boy's name so we considered using it for a baby boy as first name or middle name but it didn't go with DP's surname at all.]]> Mon, 16 May 2011 13:09:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327080&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327080 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : Mine has my name - his father...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327052&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327052 Author: Plushie
Subject: 39192
Posted: 16 May 2011 at 12:53pm

Mine has my name - his father and i are seperated - but before we split i had decided on my name anyway. Mostly for practicality as it'd be me taking him to appoitments and everything and thought it sounded easier. Besides i like the sound of my surname better. And the name i wanted to use sounded crap with his surname. And if i'm totally honest because he assumed we'd take his name and it got up my hormonal pregnant nose that he'd make that assumption so i rebelled. *blush*
I don't know that its actually easier that we have the same surname but i have heard of people having trouble travelling when the kids have a different surname on their passports - they had to have birth certificates as well.

Oh - a couple i know used the fathers last name and gave the mothers surname as a middlename (or vice-versa i can't remember).]]> Mon, 16 May 2011 12:53:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327052&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327052 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : My boy has dads name, for the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327037&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327037 Author: AbzandH
Subject: 39192
Posted: 16 May 2011 at 12:30pm

My boy has dads name, for the simple fact he is what i'd describe as a proper father. If I weren't with him, and if he had nothing to do with him then i would have considered my name.]]> Mon, 16 May 2011 12:30:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327037&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327037 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : my oldest is hyphenated and younger...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327021&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327021 Author: freckle
Subject: 39192
Posted: 16 May 2011 at 12:20pm

my oldest is hyphenated and younger two have dad's name...
]]> Mon, 16 May 2011 12:20:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327021&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327021 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : I think the usual thing is to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327020&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327020 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 39192
Posted: 16 May 2011 at 12:19pm

I think the usual thing is to either hyphenate or to take the fathers name if they are living together.

There are married people who keep their own names & I think they do similar to above.]]> Mon, 16 May 2011 12:19:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327020&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327020 <![CDATA[Surnames for your baby : Some people I know are due to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327016&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327016 Author: ereynolds
Subject: 39192
Posted: 16 May 2011 at 12:17pm

Some people I know are due to have their bubba soon. They aren't married so don't have the same surname and are currently debating about naming bub when he/she arrives. His/hers/hyphenated/brand new?

So I'm curious to know- for those who don't share the same surname as their other half (for whatever reason), how did you go about choosing which surname to use? And when did you make the decision? ]]> Mon, 16 May 2011 12:17:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39192&PID=1327016&title=surnames-for-your-baby#1327016