https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Wed, 08 Apr 2026 00:25:59 +0000 Wed, 13 Apr 2011 19:48:32 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=38777 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305755&title=21sts-alcohol#1305755 Author: millymollymandy
Subject: 38777
Posted: 13 April 2011 at 7:48pm

Gee, I think I had free drinks at my 21st for while, but it was so long ago I recall, ha, ha. I'd be happy to pay at a 21st (I had a cash bar at my 30th) and I reckon it might make for more moderate drinkers.

Have a great time. ]]> Wed, 13 Apr 2011 19:48:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305755&title=21sts-alcohol#1305755 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305572&title=21sts-alcohol#1305572 Author: Turtle
Subject: 38777
Posted: 13 April 2011 at 3:36pm

I think it is fine as long as you specify on the invite ]]> Wed, 13 Apr 2011 15:36:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305572&title=21sts-alcohol#1305572 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305543&title=21sts-alcohol#1305543 Author: HuntersMama
Subject: 38777
Posted: 13 April 2011 at 3:08pm

That sounds fine. Most parties at bars you pay for drinks yourself, and if there is a bar tab its gone so quickly anyway!]]> Wed, 13 Apr 2011 15:08:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305543&title=21sts-alcohol#1305543 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305460&title=21sts-alcohol#1305460 Author: myfullhouse
Subject: 38777
Posted: 13 April 2011 at 1:40pm

I think that it is pretty standard and expected nowdays that parties aren't a free-for-all. You generally expect to pay for something whether it be the meal or alcohol or at someones house and you BYO plate or drinks.
I think it would be fine as others have said, just mention it is a cash bar on the onvite to avoid confusion.

Oh and Happy Birthday!]]> Wed, 13 Apr 2011 13:40:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305460&title=21sts-alcohol#1305460 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305340&title=21sts-alcohol#1305340 Author: blossombaby
Subject: 38777
Posted: 13 April 2011 at 10:55am

I went to 21st most weekends over 3 years (Dps friends then my friends!) and not once did any of them have 'free drinks!' - most at bars did discounted drinks either beer or wine or a mix of drinks. Most 21st ive attended at houses has been byo or some drinks supply and then byo?
I had mine at a Bar/Pub and did Discount drinks so a certain amount was put on tab and people paid 3dollars (about half price) for drinks until it run out (tho my parents did top it up think they ended up paying $1800) we had bar vodka, bourdons, wine and 3 type of bottled beer. There was no hire charge either just a min of $500 pn a bartab and could be spend how we wanted. ooo and we also did free non alcaholic (which i made the most of since i was 13weeks preg!)

I guess it goes along way with discounted drinks if thats an opition my tab also included 21 shoots my dp did for me! and also i had about 100 people there.

]]> Wed, 13 Apr 2011 10:55:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305340&title=21sts-alcohol#1305340 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305323&title=21sts-alcohol#1305323 Author: High9
Subject: 38777
Posted: 13 April 2011 at 10:42am

A friend I used to work with actually paid a 2k bar tab for her 21st and her 'friends' ended up trashing the place so she had to pay extra on top of that for damage.

Tbh I would do as the others have said. The 21st we've attended have all been like that where you either byo or pay for your own.

DP is about to turn 21 in a couple of months and I know some peoples parents pay for the 21st but coming from a big family he has to pay for it himself so he isn't doing a bar tab but his friend had a 21st last weekend and he managed to score a 50% off voucher for a bar tab and he did that for his party. ]]> Wed, 13 Apr 2011 10:42:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305323&title=21sts-alcohol#1305323 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305256&title=21sts-alcohol#1305256 Author: _H_
Subject: 38777
Posted: 13 April 2011 at 9:17am

bowie wrote: Totally normal, who can afford free drinks anyway!? My 21st i didnt even hire a venue we did a 'around the world' pub crawl (irish,mexican,kareoke bar, sake bar, russian, german & NZ bars) so drinks had nothing to do with me at all

this sounds like fun! ]]> Wed, 13 Apr 2011 09:17:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305256&title=21sts-alcohol#1305256 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305241&title=21sts-alcohol#1305241 Author: Hopes
Subject: 38777
Posted: 13 April 2011 at 8:55am

I wouldn't even think twice about it Sounds like a really sensible way of doing things. ]]> Wed, 13 Apr 2011 08:55:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305241&title=21sts-alcohol#1305241 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305237&title=21sts-alcohol#1305237 Author: Mrs_B
Subject: 38777
Posted: 13 April 2011 at 8:52am

Perfectly fine. Although like someone else said would be better if it was BYO venue! ]]> Wed, 13 Apr 2011 08:52:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305237&title=21sts-alcohol#1305237 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305216&title=21sts-alcohol#1305216 Author: Plushie
Subject: 38777
Posted: 13 April 2011 at 8:30am

Totally normal, who can afford free drinks anyway!? My 21st i didnt even hire a venue we did a 'around the world' pub crawl (irish,mexican,kareoke bar, sake bar, russian, german & NZ bars) so drinks had nothing to do with me at all ]]> Wed, 13 Apr 2011 08:30:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305216&title=21sts-alcohol#1305216 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305178&title=21sts-alcohol#1305178 Author: londonbaby
Subject: 38777
Posted: 13 April 2011 at 7:56am

I think its becoming more and more common nowadays however I think if it is a buy your own drink situation then you should also put on the invite that you don't expect a gift...]]> Wed, 13 Apr 2011 07:56:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305178&title=21sts-alcohol#1305178 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305174&title=21sts-alcohol#1305174 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 38777
Posted: 13 April 2011 at 7:48am

It's perfectly fine as everyone has said as long as people know then they're usually fine with it.

When I went to 21sts it was either cash bar or byo at the person's home. Don't think people expect free alcohol these days.]]> Wed, 13 Apr 2011 07:48:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305174&title=21sts-alcohol#1305174 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305163&title=21sts-alcohol#1305163 Author: Kazper
Subject: 38777
Posted: 13 April 2011 at 7:39am

My father was going to put money on the bar for my 21st as part of my gift, and that is what I told everyone cause they were all going to pay a set price for the meal which everyone was happy with and then my Dad changed his mind and said it would be better for everyone to pay $2 per drink so the bar tab lasted longer and then the bar tender started charging full price. I was so annoyed and embarrassed cause I knew there were people there who couldn't afford it and were told they wouldn't have to pay.

LOL now its bugging me again

I think just as long as you state what it is going to be its not an issue. I know people were happy to pay a set price at my party cause they had plenty of notice.]]> Wed, 13 Apr 2011 07:39:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305163&title=21sts-alcohol#1305163 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305145&title=21sts-alcohol#1305145 Author: peachy
Subject: 38777
Posted: 13 April 2011 at 6:54am

Alcohol has never been provided at any of the 21st's I have been too, they have all been cash bar.

I think its fine TBH.]]> Wed, 13 Apr 2011 06:54:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305145&title=21sts-alcohol#1305145 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305117&title=21sts-alcohol#1305117 Author: crakars
Subject: 38777
Posted: 12 April 2011 at 10:12pm

i think its fine - most of the 21st we go to are buy at the bar - quite common i think]]> Tue, 12 Apr 2011 22:12:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305117&title=21sts-alcohol#1305117 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305101&title=21sts-alcohol#1305101 Author: tiptoes
Subject: 38777
Posted: 12 April 2011 at 9:53pm

I think it's fine as long as you know in advance, so letting everyone know it's a cash bar like Halted said is a good option.]]> Tue, 12 Apr 2011 21:53:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305101&title=21sts-alcohol#1305101 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305071&title=21sts-alcohol#1305071 Author: Mucky_Tiger
Subject: 38777
Posted: 12 April 2011 at 9:23pm

we had mine at the Glengary pub in invers.
I got free room hire as long as I put some money on the bar but i dont know if they had a limit on the 'some'

But as for attending and buying drinks, ive been to 3 like that this year and it was fine.
cant expect everyone to pay for drinks, not given the fact that prices for everything are going up]]> Tue, 12 Apr 2011 21:23:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305071&title=21sts-alcohol#1305071 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305044&title=21sts-alcohol#1305044 Author: _H_
Subject: 38777
Posted: 12 April 2011 at 8:54pm

Just put cash bar on the invite

Oh and if i knew the person had a young baby i wont mind paying for my own drinks ]]> Tue, 12 Apr 2011 20:54:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305044&title=21sts-alcohol#1305044 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305040&title=21sts-alcohol#1305040 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 38777
Posted: 12 April 2011 at 8:51pm

i would rather go to a BYO than pay pub prices.]]> Tue, 12 Apr 2011 20:51:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305040&title=21sts-alcohol#1305040 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305038&title=21sts-alcohol#1305038 Author: _SMS_
Subject: 38777
Posted: 12 April 2011 at 8:51pm

TBH i wouldnt really care. But im not a big drinker. I wouldnt mind at all if it was a close friend/family and i knew there circumstances. But if it was a friend i dont often see id maybe show up for a drink or 2 then leave. I wouldnt spend much.

Is there anyway you can subsidize drinks. $2 beers/wines?]]> Tue, 12 Apr 2011 20:51:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305038&title=21sts-alcohol#1305038 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305034&title=21sts-alcohol#1305034 Author: RedHeadDuck
Subject: 38777
Posted: 12 April 2011 at 8:47pm

How would you feel if you were invited to a 21st where alcohol wasn't paid for, but was available at the bar for pub prices?

We are doing it ourselves so can't afford a lot.... Just hire + food + non alcoholic drinks will be stretching the budget a bit.... It would be stated on the invites that alcoholic drinks are available at the bar (or something to that effect)]]> Tue, 12 Apr 2011 20:47:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38777&PID=1305034&title=21sts-alcohol#1305034