https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Wed, 08 Apr 2026 02:10:22 +0000 Thu, 17 Mar 2011 11:15:50 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=38427 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38427&PID=1287095&title=bullying-campbell-live#1287095 Author: Kalimirella
Subject: 38427
Posted: 17 March 2011 at 11:15am

Bullyings horrible, and in my High School my older sister was bullied quite badly, the counsellor at school, basically said its the victims fault......

Which is an awful attitude to have.]]> Thu, 17 Mar 2011 11:15:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38427&PID=1287095&title=bullying-campbell-live#1287095 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38427&PID=1287039&title=bullying-campbell-live#1287039 Author: Lucky apple
Subject: 38427
Posted: 17 March 2011 at 10:12am

It's awful eh?

I think you are right about morals and values being something that come from the home...but I also think it is really really important that schools/institutions (including work places) in which bullying occurs deal with it effectively - so, not ignoring it but acknowledging it, not re-victimising the victim, taking a firm but fair stand. The ethos or spirit in a place is pretty obvious when you go into a place...it's up to the leaders of a workplace/school to determine that ethos.
I was in a situation once where a teacher said about a victim "Oh, but she doesn't seem to mind the kids comments...she just walks away".........I thought that was one of the most ignorant responses to bullying ever!!! Brave kid to have learnt that walking away is a good thing to do...does not mean it did not hurt/have a lasting effect. Bad bad bad. ]]> Thu, 17 Mar 2011 10:12:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38427&PID=1287039&title=bullying-campbell-live#1287039 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38427&PID=1287009&title=bullying-campbell-live#1287009 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 38427
Posted: 17 March 2011 at 9:42am

Hmmm well, bullying!

I have been both bullied and in turn a bully! I hate the thought that my children might be bullied and i certainly dont want them to become bullies either. And i think that mobile phones and the internet has made it easier for bullies. another reason to think twice about what age these should be allowed for young kids and how much parental monitoring should go with them.

i didnt see the Campbell show but i know it is something that impacts on all sorts of people. I met a lady when i moved here who was telling me her son was bullied terribly at a previous school because he was bigger than the other kids his age... ]]> Thu, 17 Mar 2011 09:42:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38427&PID=1287009&title=bullying-campbell-live#1287009 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38427&PID=1286947&title=bullying-campbell-live#1286947 Author: AbzandH
Subject: 38427
Posted: 17 March 2011 at 8:03am

It's so awefull. I was bullied at a private expensive girls school in the hutt. To the point where I didn't go to school for about 4 out of 5 days. My parents had no idea what to do, the school took the side of the bully as she had mental issues and home issues. There is no way in hell I would EVER send my kids to a school like that.

My bf is an electrician working on a college in Upper Hutt, on Tuesday he said two girls were just sitting on a bench and the next minute punching each other in the face, it just kept going and going. He couldn't say or do anything as he would be fired on the spot for interacting with the pupils. Anywho he was talking to a teacher later that day who said there was a massive brawl between the two colleges on the street, police involved and everything. It really is out of control.]]> Thu, 17 Mar 2011 08:03:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38427&PID=1286947&title=bullying-campbell-live#1286947 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38427&PID=1286940&title=bullying-campbell-live#1286940 Author: kiwi2
Subject: 38427
Posted: 17 March 2011 at 7:50am

oh and just another thing. (can you tell my heckles are up)lol. Why call it "tall poppy" syndrome. Lets just give it a warm fluffy name to trivialise it. Why not call it what it is bullying or nasty brat syndrome etc. By giving it a nice name, it all just gets explained away as nothing. ]]> Thu, 17 Mar 2011 07:50:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38427&PID=1286940&title=bullying-campbell-live#1286940 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38427&PID=1286938&title=bullying-campbell-live#1286938 Author: kiwi2
Subject: 38427
Posted: 17 March 2011 at 7:45am

Hopefully campbell live are going to focus on it a lot more and bring it out in the open. Maybe change can come from it. I have never had a problem with bullying in my time in the middle east and in the USA. I bring my kids home to NZ and my son is kicked and punched in the playground and called a F'in american etc. He was born in NZ and only was in the states 3 years but that is beside the point. This went on for a week. My son was curled up in the fetal position being attacked basically. The school dealt with it really well.

I think that it is a parental problem. Whilst we are ok with it as a society and boys will be boys etc it has been ok. Now that girls are getting involved all of a sudden it isn't so ok. Not as tasteful so to speak. My 5 year old started school and she is now going thru it. An older boy pushing her over in the play ground and punching her. The boy was put in the library for two days and his parents called in so it was bad enough and this was without my promting. Once again the school dealt with it as best they could. But it is not up to teachers to teach values and respect. They can help and aid and support the principles but ultimately it is parents who need to instil these values.

ok will stop now and get off my soap box. The strange thing about it all is I have three very confident children who would be your last stereotype of getting bullied. They aren't your typical quiet type and have no reason to be bullied. Not that that is ok either but just saying. ]]> Thu, 17 Mar 2011 07:45:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38427&PID=1286938&title=bullying-campbell-live#1286938 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38427&PID=1286783&title=bullying-campbell-live#1286783 Author: High9
Subject: 38427
Posted: 16 March 2011 at 8:33pm

I missed it but was having a convo to DP about it last night as a friend showed him a link to the 2 boys where one boy was winding up a kid and then the kid picked him up and dumped him etc...

For me personally, bullying is dangerous, you have no idea what someone is going through that it can tip them over the edge etc. I witnessed it throughout school and it sucks. I do think it's going to be one of those things that is always around though so maybe all we can do is try to teach our kids that it's not acceptable and to stand up for themselves or someone else. To be open and honest with us before things get out of hand. If that makes sense? ]]> Wed, 16 Mar 2011 20:33:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38427&PID=1286783&title=bullying-campbell-live#1286783 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38427&PID=1286769&title=bullying-campbell-live#1286769 Author: Mum_mum
Subject: 38427
Posted: 16 March 2011 at 8:16pm

It also seems worse with the physical bullying coming out for girls. And since girls are traditionally pack rats then it does turn in to gangs.

But its not just the schools that have to do something about this, its society and the parents. The parents have either taught or let their children become the bullys they are and taught them its ok. ]]> Wed, 16 Mar 2011 20:16:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38427&PID=1286769&title=bullying-campbell-live#1286769 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38427&PID=1286757&title=bullying-campbell-live#1286757 Author: pudgy
Subject: 38427
Posted: 16 March 2011 at 8:02pm

I didn't see the segment but I have noticed how often bullying is in the news lately. It seems the punishment is a slap on the wrist and no deterent at all.

And I watched a Dr Phil episode in which they showed 3 or 4 teenagers that had committed suicide because of bullying






]]> Wed, 16 Mar 2011 20:02:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38427&PID=1286757&title=bullying-campbell-live#1286757 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38427&PID=1286745&title=bullying-campbell-live#1286745 Author: catisla
Subject: 38427
Posted: 16 March 2011 at 7:48pm

i agree - at least we didn't have all the added extras of cyber-bullying and ending up on You Tube to worry about. any school that denies it has a bullying problem is either lying or really got its head in the sand]]> Wed, 16 Mar 2011 19:48:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38427&PID=1286745&title=bullying-campbell-live#1286745 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38427&PID=1286727&title=bullying-campbell-live#1286727 Author: _SMS_
Subject: 38427
Posted: 16 March 2011 at 7:31pm

Did anyone else just watch this?

Was pretty sad and very disturbing. Even the mum getting bullied from 13-15yr old girls.

I thought it was bad when i was at school but seems not.

TBH makes me scared to think of DD at school I really hope something is done about bullying by the time dd starts college.

There is a difference to girls being girls and having normal teenage cattiness to being ganged up on by 15 girls. Its just sad

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