https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Wed, 08 Apr 2026 05:31:51 +0000 Fri, 11 Mar 2011 20:33:17 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=38359 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283498&title=that-went-badly#1283498 Author: Lucky apple
Subject: 38359
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 8:33pm

...I haven't followed this all to know exactly what all the concerns have been, but did comment on your letter earlier....

It's unfortunate that todays meeting didn't leave you feeling more positive.

I think if it were me, I'd take a step back and focus on the positives that you can see - namely, your children's classroom teachers and your children's progress. From what you've said, that's going really well, and that's fantastic. The other things, perhaps leave them for someone else to notice & worry about...

]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 20:33:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283498&title=that-went-badly#1283498 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283477&title=that-went-badly#1283477 Author: SMoody
Subject: 38359
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 7:59pm

Bizzy I honestly dont know what I would do. As you say the kids are happy and you dont want to unnecessary move them but if things dont improve I would or if anything would come back to my kids.

Dont for one second back down with anything to do directly with your kids. So dont stop speaking to their teachers or anything.

]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 19:59:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283477&title=that-went-badly#1283477 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283353&title=that-went-badly#1283353 Author: jazzy
Subject: 38359
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 4:23pm

oh no Bizzy, I'm shocked. What a sh*t position to be in.
I thought he would have a decent conversation with you & you could both clear the air.

I know you don't want to take it further & you need to do what is best for you. I would document all that was said & put it in a letter to the Board or keep it for future reference if required.

However I would not stop being in there face & pulling them up over things you think need attention. Go to the BOT meeting & parent teacher meetings. You need to be involved in your children's education & in their school. That is just being a parent.

Are you friendly with any parents?

]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 16:23:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283353&title=that-went-badly#1283353 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283329&title=that-went-badly#1283329 Author: RedHeadDuck
Subject: 38359
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 3:42pm

Bizzy don't change yourself to keep them happy.

If you want to be more involved in your childrens education, then dambit you do that!!!! Don't let him bully you into thinking you should step back!!!!!

I say take it further. If this is the reaction hes giving you, what reaction do other parents get? Maybe there just needs to be one parent to have the guts to take it further, and a whole lot of problems will arise....]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 15:42:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283329&title=that-went-badly#1283329 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283318&title=that-went-badly#1283318 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 38359
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 3:19pm

thanks guys...

Smoody he did say i had negative things to say - and i suppose in some respects they were - but surely that is how people and schools improve...they take the negative and turn it around. i know with the sign being wrong i tried to joake about it and smiled and they seemed to see the humour in it too - or so i thought!

there is a part of me that doesnt want to do anything else. i dont want it to all get out of hand and affect the kids. they both like their teachers and Gabriel is making progress at last with his writing. i have a friend who is on his BOT so i thought i might ask him what would happen next if i wrote and complained. I dont know why i hadnt thought of him sooner... lol!

my plan A is to leave it all and just go to school and be miss-smiley-charming-ask-about-the-weather-and-the kids-only. they want parents who dont involve themselves i can be that.

its driving me nuts! i am so annoyed - i just wanted to be ivolved!]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 15:19:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283318&title=that-went-badly#1283318 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283276&title=that-went-badly#1283276 Author: myfullhouse
Subject: 38359
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 2:23pm

Doesn't say much for the school's ability to deal with bullies when the Principal seems to be a bully himself!]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 14:23:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283276&title=that-went-badly#1283276 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283257&title=that-went-badly#1283257 Author: princesspumpkin
Subject: 38359
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 2:00pm

Oh my goodness, there's no way he should have spoken to you like that, no matter what. So unprofessional!

Did you manage to write to the BOT? If he's not going to listen to you they have to, it's their job.

Big hugs, I hope you have some progress soon - I understand this must be driving you nuts! ]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 14:00:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283257&title=that-went-badly#1283257 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283241&title=that-went-badly#1283241 Author: SMoody
Subject: 38359
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 1:50pm

Bizzy I got hubby to read through the posts on this situation. The only thing that he mentioned (and in no way is this defending any way the principal acted as it was completely irresponsible) is that perhaps some of the teachers or staff that you did spoke to in passing misunderstood you when you mentioned some things to them.

Like for instance the notice board with wrong times on or the bathroom. Even though you were helping they might find that it is just critic and that you are not happy with things and it might put them on the defensive.

And that perhaps it might be better instead of saying ABC is wrong ask if you can help get people together to help the school fix ABC.

Hope I am making sense here. But this principal seriously need to get onto a Basic Communication course as he seems to be a complete >>>>>>]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 13:50:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283241&title=that-went-badly#1283241 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283209&title=that-went-badly#1283209 Author: millymollymandy
Subject: 38359
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 1:13pm

bummer...sounds to me like he has spent too much time dealing with kids and not enough dealing with adults. I would be looking at other schools myself.]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 13:13:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283209&title=that-went-badly#1283209 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283195&title=that-went-badly#1283195 Author: linda
Subject: 38359
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 12:59pm

Was this the principal? They say that you can tell how good a school is by how the principal runs the school and if thats the case then you have to wonder what else is happening behind the scenes that you are not aware of. Will the teachers now treat your kids differently now based on what has happened?

I do think it needs to be taken further. A school should be able to hear parents and there concerns and act accordingly but it doesn't sound like that is happening. What would the next step be? Mediation?]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 12:59:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283195&title=that-went-badly#1283195 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283193&title=that-went-badly#1283193 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 38359
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 12:58pm

Whoa, I'd take that further as well. ]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 12:58:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283193&title=that-went-badly#1283193 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283186&title=that-went-badly#1283186 Author: EmDee
Subject: 38359
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 12:51pm

Definitely take it further! He sounds defensive, which makes me think maybe there is more going on?? Either way, he sounds like an ass!]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 12:51:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283186&title=that-went-badly#1283186 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283131&title=that-went-badly#1283131 Author: newme
Subject: 38359
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 11:38am

I think it is time to change schools if that is possible.]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 11:38:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283131&title=that-went-badly#1283131 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283124&title=that-went-badly#1283124 Author: UpsyDaisy
Subject: 38359
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 11:32am

That is shocking. Not nice at all. Agree you should take things further but he does not appear willing to talk even...not easy....]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 11:32:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283124&title=that-went-badly#1283124 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283110&title=that-went-badly#1283110 Author: SMoody
Subject: 38359
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 11:03am

What did hubby say?

To be honest Bizzy if it was me I would take this further and if I dont get satisfactory answers I will move the kids. (this seems to be a situation that is not gonna get any better.)]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 11:03:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283110&title=that-went-badly#1283110 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283097&title=that-went-badly#1283097 Author: james
Subject: 38359
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 10:48am

oh my goodness bizzy that is horrable i relly hope you take this futher he should not of talked to you like that. ]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 10:48:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283097&title=that-went-badly#1283097 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38359&PID=1283094&title=that-went-badly#1283094 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 38359
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 10:45am

The bloody idiot called me "silly".. yep thats right told me i was silly... because i said he doesnt have an open door policy.

He didnt even read the letter i gave him.

I left the office - when he called me silly i said this meeting is over and walked out.

i am furious....   Oh and apprently the teachers have taken offence at my tone of voice and feel anxious about me. apparently you shouldnt look in the toilets and let the staff know when there is poo on the toilet wall, or sit in the carpark at lunch and watch my kids because i was concerned about bullying....

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