https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Wed, 08 Apr 2026 04:04:51 +0000 Mon, 14 Mar 2011 14:05:06 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=38350 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1284853&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1284853 Author: febbabe
Subject: 38350
Posted: 14 March 2011 at 2:05pm

Halted wrote: Dear soon-to-be MIL Its our wedding, not yours and not the families. I understand that its the first family wedding in 30 years but that doesnt change the fact. Oh and forgot asking us the invite anyone you want- your not paying for ANYTHING so you dont get a say in it. And yes its DF telling you no as well not just me because we are a team and both know what we want! PS my parents are paying for most things and are being fantastic. Mum wants us to have the perfect day because she knows we are only going to do it once From your soon-to-be DIL and your son (who are going to have the best day ever at THEIR wedding)

I could have written this letter 3 years ago Hope you have a lovely day regardless]]> Mon, 14 Mar 2011 14:05:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1284853&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1284853 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1284305&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1284305 Author: PorterLou
Subject: 38350
Posted: 13 March 2011 at 4:49pm

BessieBear wrote: LOL you are so so brave you sinner.

Hope you're gonna have my back miss?]]> Sun, 13 Mar 2011 16:49:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1284305&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1284305 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1284260&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1284260 Author: BessieBear
Subject: 38350
Posted: 13 March 2011 at 3:34pm

PorterLou wrote: Mine is a bit different... Dear Mother, Please don't use you "I'm disappointed" speech on me just because I am living in sin, engaged without a ring yet, not rushing to get married and maybe going to have a baby first, just because it doesn't fit with your beliefs and is not what my sisters have done (girls, if you read this, remember that I love you both!). I am 30 years old and VERY HAPPY with my life and the choices I made. I have not done anything I didn't want to do. Please just be proud of me. Love, your oldest Also, sorry to those who don't have the best IL's, but... Dear MIL, Thank you for being a wonderful MIL, who loves me like a daughter and supports me more than my mother does. Love, DIL2B

LOL you are so so brave you sinner.]]> Sun, 13 Mar 2011 15:34:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1284260&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1284260 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1284257&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1284257 Author: BessieBear
Subject: 38350
Posted: 13 March 2011 at 3:28pm

_SMS_ wrote: hila1 wrote: Ha ha, I wouldn't even know where to start with the letter to my MIL.... Arhhhhh neither. I could actually be writing all day One thing from this week though. Dearest Mother in Law Dont tell my daughter that mummy is a meanie because i wont let her have a biscuit at 430pm right before dinner time From your lovely Daughter in law

Ditto except it would normally be potatoe chips or lollies cause you have to have a starter....... *eye roll*]]> Sun, 13 Mar 2011 15:28:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1284257&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1284257 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1284185&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1284185 Author: Babykatnz
Subject: 38350
Posted: 13 March 2011 at 1:03pm

Dear MIL

we miss you, and wish you'd been able to live long enough to know your first grandchild would be the beautiful little girl you'd alsways wanted, and would have loved to bits, shes growing up to be more and more like you which I am sure you would have been thrilled about. And now we have a gorgeous little boy to pass on the family name, and you'll never know of him, and they'll never get the chance to know their nana, and what makes it so hard is that FIL has no interest in either of them, where you would have more than made up for that lack of interest... Our wee man is 11 days old and my own mother hasnt even met him yet, you would have been over here every day spoiling your grandkids rotten...

We'll never stop missing you.]]> Sun, 13 Mar 2011 13:03:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1284185&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1284185 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1284160&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1284160 Author: snugglebug
Subject: 38350
Posted: 13 March 2011 at 11:48am

Kazper I gained 25kg during my pregnancy due to pre eclampsia so I think gaining 8 kg is wonderful! How weird your mother in law would say that when that's about usual if not lower!

Dear MIL,

Please stop calling me every day for a progress report. I am a good mother, even if one day he doesn't sleep or do the things on your checklist. Your own children are not perfect so stop picking apart the job I'm doing with mine.

Why are you always so standoffish and rude to certain people? It's so obvious. You think they don't like you but you don't even like them and you show it! Everything is all about you and how you feel and your emotions. Open your eyes. You have your family wrapped around your little finger but not me. I see what you do.

]]> Sun, 13 Mar 2011 11:48:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1284160&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1284160 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1284139&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1284139 Author: Raspberryjam
Subject: 38350
Posted: 13 March 2011 at 10:41am

melnel wrote: Oh mine would pages long... I love the woman and it all comes from a good place but my goodness sometimes i just want to slap her. My biggest issue would remain: Dear Mother-in-Law, Please do not say to my children "oh you don't want your stink Mummy" when in fact they quite clearly DO want their "stink" mummy! Regards Your Daughter-in-Law

Are you freakin kidding me!! you are these horrible women!! My mother in law lives in the UK, but I doubt she would take such freedoms and if she or anyone else spoke like that or took such liberties I would be very vocal about it!!

Edited by Raspberryjam]]> Sun, 13 Mar 2011 10:41:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1284139&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1284139 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1284138&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1284138 Author: Raspberryjam
Subject: 38350
Posted: 13 March 2011 at 10:40am

oops double post and then interupted by a noisy bubbie

Edited by Raspberryjam]]> Sun, 13 Mar 2011 10:40:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1284138&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1284138 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1284095&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1284095 Author: QTMum
Subject: 38350
Posted: 13 March 2011 at 9:09am

Dear Mother in Law

House guests and fish go off in three days. Please remember this the next time you invite yourself to stay. Also when we say "it's not a great time actually we are renovating", that means do not come.

It certainly does not mean come on down and let us spend the week paying for EVERYTHING and running around after you when we have a baby due in 1 month. I know it's a nice, cheap, relaxing holiday for you but you cost us a fortune.

Do NOT come back down after the baby is born unless you book yourself into a hotel. I can't handle having you here again.

With no love and certainly no respect
Your daughter in law

]]> Sun, 13 Mar 2011 09:09:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1284095&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1284095 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1284087&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1284087 Author: _H_
Subject: 38350
Posted: 13 March 2011 at 8:45am

Dear soon-to-be MIL

Its our wedding, not yours and not the families. I understand that its the first family wedding in 30 years but that doesnt change the fact.
Oh and forgot asking us the invite anyone you want- your not paying for ANYTHING so you dont get a say in it. And yes its DF telling you no as well not just me because we are a team and both know what we want!

PS my parents are paying for most things and are being fantastic. Mum wants us to have the perfect day because she knows we are only going to do it once

From your soon-to-be DIL and your son (who are going to have the best day ever at THEIR wedding) ]]> Sun, 13 Mar 2011 08:45:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1284087&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1284087 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1284032&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1284032 Author: Shelt
Subject: 38350
Posted: 12 March 2011 at 10:18pm

smw85 wrote: Dear MIL, When our son is only a week old, and you have seen him already four times, do not get upset, offended and start crying on the phone trying to emotionally blackmail your son when we tell you that you can't visit because I am battling an awful case of mastitis and don't want visitors! Then don't be in a huff for a entire whole month. When you do finally make contact it is when you call DH on his cellphone asking if he is alone. When he says, no my wife is right next to me, don't say, oh I want to talk to you privately so ring me when you are alone. AND when DH can't be bothered with your sh!t and doesn't ring you, don't ring up a week later (still not asking how we are getting on with a newborn or how your grandson is!) at 8.30pm saying you want DH to drive 30 mins to your place so you can talk in private. I am never ever going to let you walk over me and my family like you do with your husband and kids. Who all just go along with your certifiable craziness just to keep the peace. When my DH stands up to you, it isn't me telling him to do so, the most tolerant and patient man is just over your bs. And when you pretend nothing is wrong and act all sweet I am not going to play that game. I am going to ignore you like the b!tch you are. From your zero tolerance for sh!t, I just want a simple life, Daughter-inlaw

This sounds a lot like my (thankfully now) ex-MIL. Who cried and then got in a massive huff because she had a cold and I was so inconsiderate to a) give birth to a prem baby when she was sick and b) not let her visit said prem baby while she had the cold. She didn't see DD for 5 months because she was so upset at me. No call to see how we were, no card no nothing. Bitch.]]> Sat, 12 Mar 2011 22:18:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1284032&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1284032 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283980&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283980 Author: AbzandH
Subject: 38350
Posted: 12 March 2011 at 8:48pm

Mines a lil different to

Deal MIL,
You are an amazing and beautiful person. Why are you with such an idiot?? I'm sorry to tell you people judge you because of him. He is nothing but a d*ckhead. Who doesn't move their hot coffee (in their hand) when a 6 month old is about to put their hand in it??
You can do so much better, you deserve so much better. You sadly are missing out with your son and grandson because of that complete loser.
But I do love you.

Regards,
Hopefully your one day DIL]]> Sat, 12 Mar 2011 20:48:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283980&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283980 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283973&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283973 Author: newme
Subject: 38350
Posted: 12 March 2011 at 8:36pm

Dear MIL

When someone tells you they have had a miscarriage, it is not polite to respond 'well, what about my bbq tomorrow - I hope you are still coming'.

And then it is even ruder to actually ignore me for my entire last pregnancy, not once asking how I was doing, or about the baby. And once your grandchild was born, you have not once asked me about the birth, or anything. You are just so concerned about what a bad mother I am cos he had reflux!

And you get so annoyed we never come to see you, even though we make the effort at least once a month, when you have never once come to see us - you say you have no petrol money, but you go up to Auckland regularly enough.

and I don't want any parenting advice from you EVER. You are a terrible terrible mother. You tell my husband, the only one of your children who makes an effort with you, that his brother is your favourite. Well, thats just rude. And stop texting him, telling him that he isn't cut out to do the job he is doing. How about believing in him???

Regards,
Your DIL

PS Don't bother getting me another xmas present. Dish cloths and tea towels are just an insult.]]> Sat, 12 Mar 2011 20:36:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283973&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283973 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283821&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283821 Author: Kazper
Subject: 38350
Posted: 12 March 2011 at 3:37pm

smw85 wrote: Dear MIL, When our son is only a week old, and you have seen him already four times, do not get upset, offended and start crying on the phone trying to emotionally blackmail your son when we tell you that you can't visit because I am battling an awful case of mastitis and don't want visitors! Then don't be in a huff for a entire whole month. When you do finally make contact it is when you call DH on his cellphone asking if he is alone. When he says, no my wife is right next to me, don't say, oh I want to talk to you privately so ring me when you are alone. AND when DH can't be bothered with your sh!t and doesn't ring you, don't ring up a week later (still not asking how we are getting on with a newborn or how your grandson is!) at 8.30pm saying you want DH to drive 30 mins to your place so you can talk in private. I am never ever going to let you walk over me and my family like you do with your husband and kids. Who all just go along with your certifiable craziness just to keep the peace. When my DH stands up to you, it isn't me telling him to do so, the most tolerant and patient man is just over your bs. And when you pretend nothing is wrong and act all sweet I am not going to play that game. I am going to ignore you like the b!tch you are. From your zero tolerance for sh!t, I just want a simple life, Daughter-inlaw

I think I also have the same MIL.

Oh and dear MIL, because I gained 8kg over my entire pregnancy does not give you the right to go around telling people I'm such a lazy fat person and that no one gains that much and I used pregnancy as an excuse to gain - WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!]]> Sat, 12 Mar 2011 15:37:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283821&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283821 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283737&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283737 Author: PorterLou
Subject: 38350
Posted: 12 March 2011 at 11:41am

Mine is a bit different...

Dear Mother,

Please don't use you "I'm disappointed" speech on me just because I am living in sin, engaged without a ring yet, not rushing to get married and maybe going to have a baby first, just because it doesn't fit with your beliefs and is not what my sisters have done (girls, if you read this, remember that I love you both!).

I am 30 years old and VERY HAPPY with my life and the choices I made. I have not done anything I didn't want to do. Please just be proud of me.

Love, your oldest

Also, sorry to those who don't have the best IL's, but...

Dear MIL,

Thank you for being a wonderful MIL, who loves me like a daughter and supports me more than my mother does.

Love, DIL2B]]> Sat, 12 Mar 2011 11:41:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283737&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283737 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283580&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283580 Author: fallen
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 10:29pm

Dear MIL
How dare you OD a couple of days after our son was born just because the attention wasn't on you! If you try something stupid like that when our daughter is born I will not be insisting that my DF send you photos and make an effort to be in contact just because you are his mother/the baby's grandmother.

When we came to Aussie over Christmas I was shocked with how uninterested you were in your grandson. We contacted you many times with suggestions of visits etc, but each time you had no petrol or were busy etc. I always thought DF was exagerating when he spoke of how you were. Sadly now I see that he wasn't.

I am glad we live in different countries. Having you nearby really puts me off moving to Oz.

Regards
"That woman"... you know, the one who stole your son away from you.]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 22:29:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283580&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283580 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283528&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283528 Author: smw85
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 9:26pm

Omg you poor thing Becky!!

Tell me, warn me what is coming next...! :-)]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 21:26:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283528&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283528 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283520&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283520 Author: becky
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 9:18pm

smw85 wrote: Dear MIL, When our son is only a week old, and you have seen him already four times, do not get upset, offended and start crying on the phone trying to emotionally blackmail your son when we tell you that you can't visit because I am battling an awful case of mastitis and don't want visitors! Then don't be in a huff for a entire whole month. When you do finally make contact it is when you call DH on his cellphone asking if he is alone. When he says, no my wife is right next to me, don't say, oh I want to talk to you privately so ring me when you are alone. AND when DH can't be bothered with your sh!t and doesn't ring you, don't ring up a week later (still not asking how we are getting on with a newborn or how your grandson is!) at 8.30pm saying you want DH to drive 30 mins to your place so you can talk in private. I am never ever going to let you walk over me and my family like you do with your husband and kids. Who all just go along with your certifiable craziness just to keep the peace. When my DH stands up to you, it isn't me telling him to do so, the most tolerant and patient man is just over your bs. And when you pretend nothing is wrong and act all sweet I am not going to play that game. I am going to ignore you like the b!tch you are. From your zero tolerance for sh!t, I just want a simple life, Daughter-inlaw

OMG I think we have the same MIL or they are twins seperated at birth!!!]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 21:18:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283520&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283520 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283511&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283511 Author: smw85
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 9:12pm

Dear MIL,

When our son is only a week old, and you have seen him already four times, do not get upset, offended and start crying on the phone trying to emotionally blackmail your son when we tell you that you can't visit because I am battling an awful case of mastitis and don't want visitors!

Then don't be in a huff for a entire whole month. When you do finally make contact it is when you call DH on his cellphone asking if he is alone. When he says, no my wife is right next to me, don't say, oh I want to talk to you privately so ring me when you are alone.

AND when DH can't be bothered with your sh!t and doesn't ring you, don't ring up a week later (still not asking how we are getting on with a newborn or how your grandson is!) at 8.30pm saying you want DH to drive 30 mins to your place so you can talk in private.

I am never ever going to let you walk over me and my family like you do with your husband and kids. Who all just go along with your certifiable craziness just to keep the peace. When my DH stands up to you, it isn't me telling him to do so, the most tolerant and patient man is just over your bs.

And when you pretend nothing is wrong and act all sweet I am not going to play that game. I am going to ignore you like the b!tch you are.

From your zero tolerance for sh!t, I just want a simple life,
Daughter-inlaw]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 21:12:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283511&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283511 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283502&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283502 Author: wellymummy
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 8:43pm

Dear MIL,

Thank you for still being a part of my DS's life even if his father is a bit of a douche-bag and walks out on us after 5 months. We are sad that you live on the other side of the world but are SO happy that you are here for a whirlwind visit for his bday!]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 20:43:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283502&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283502 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283464&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283464 Author: T_Rex
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 7:36pm

Why on earth is he telling you your baby is going to die?! What a nutjob!!]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 19:36:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283464&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283464 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283417&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283417 Author: MrsH
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 6:22pm

Can I just say? There are some weird FILs out there that's for sure!!! ]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 18:22:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283417&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283417 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283412&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283412 Author: rachelsea
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 6:13pm

Wow some in-laws! Mine would be to my FIL too:

Dearest Father-In-Law

No I am not a mean mummy because I won't let my daughter drink coke.

Yes I know we are all going to die one day, but I don't need to hear about how the baby in my tummy is going to die and that I just have to accept that Yes it may well be true but I don't want to think or talk about it.

Just because DD looks at whipped cream, doesn't mean you need to try and spoon feed it to her. Honestly, who eats straight whipped cream?

Yes I may be pregnant with your grandson, but that doesn't mean you need to rub your hands all over my belly while telling everyone in the room "it's my grandson and I can rub him if I want to"

You don't need to pick my daughter up and tell her over and over again that you're her grandad. She knows that, even though you and MIL have been to visit her 4 or 5 times in her life despite living 15mins drive away.

I could go on, but that's enough for now

Your daughter-in-law]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 18:13:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283412&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283412 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283354&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283354 Author: WestiesGirl
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 4:25pm

thesaff wrote: AnnaShev wrote: i could write one of these, because the length would rival an encyclopedia, and also a family member DID do this to my mother in law AND gave it to her, she ignored it and attempted to get them commited to the psychiatric unit at the hospital

OH lordy!

Hehe My MIL thankfully isnt too bad. Albeit we do live in different countries at the moment.

ETA spelling

Edited by WestiesGirl]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 16:25:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283354&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283354 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283330&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283330 Author: luvmylittlies
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 3:43pm

AnnaShev wrote: i could write one of these, because the length would rival an encyclopedia, and also a family member DID do this to my mother in law AND gave it to her, she ignored it and attempted to get them commited to the psychiatric unit at the hospital

]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 15:43:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283330&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283330 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283309&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283309 Author: AnnaShev
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 3:06pm

i could write one of these, because the length would rival an encyclopedia, and also a family member DID do this to my mother in law AND gave it to her, she ignored it and attempted to get them commited to the psychiatric unit at the hospital]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 15:06:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283309&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283309 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283286&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283286 Author: tictacjunkie
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 2:41pm

Dearest Parents-In-law, Whilst it is hurtful that you never make an effort to come & see your grandchildren or son despite you living nearby & being retired, I'm actually quite relieved. From Your Does-nothing-you-can-brag-to-your-friends-about-therefore-unimportant Daughter-in-law.]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 14:41:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283286&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283286 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283284&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283284 Author: tictacjunkie
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 2:35pm

Oh what a brilliant idea. Mine too would be a novel, again nice person/people but I'm loathe to set my bil up with anyone I actually like. ]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 14:35:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283284&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283284 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283279&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283279 Author: myfullhouse
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 2:28pm

Mucky_Tiger wrote: Dearest MIL, just because I got fat and find maternity jeans comfortable as my tummy expands and shrinks (as does every womans) does not give you due cause to ask you son "so you knocked her up and now your stuck with her ae" from, "the knocked up"/fat one

]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 14:28:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283279&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283279 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283254&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283254 Author: T_Rex
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 1:59pm

Dear MIL,

When you treat my daughter like a person, not a prop for you to take photos with, I will consider making the effort to bring her to see you. Until then, I will continue to prioritise the people who've actually been there for us in our year of need.

With very little remaining tolerance,
your DIL ]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 13:59:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283254&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283254 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283231&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283231 Author: Mucky_Tiger
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 1:38pm



Dearest MIL,

just because I got fat and find maternity jeans comfortable as my tummy expands and shrinks (as does every womans) does not give you due cause to ask you son "so you knocked her up and now your stuck with her ae"

from,
"the knocked up"/fat one]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 13:38:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283231&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283231 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283205&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283205 Author: millymollymandy
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 1:09pm

Gosh I ahve to say mine would be...

Dear MIL,

Please come home, I know the rest of the family love seeing you but, 10 days is long enough and your grandaughter really misses you playing with her.

Love,

US

MY IL are awesome, totally OTT and besotted grandparents but I coudn't get by without them. They must know something as they a pretty special man. My parents are great too! I wish they all lived around teh corner.]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 13:09:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283205&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283205 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283197&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283197 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 1:01pm

Bahhahahahahahaha Brilliant!!

Mine would be,

Dearest MIL,

You will never fully appreciate how thankful I/We are that you live at the opposite end of the island from us.

Yours Sincerely,
Your Son & Daughter-in-law]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 13:01:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283197&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283197 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283150&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283150 Author: Mum_mum
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 12:04pm

Mine would be to my FIL lol.

Dear FIL,

When DD wants me please don't say to her "mum who...who cares about mum", it kinda hurts.

And its weird when you play make belive with her dollys and tell the dolly shes naughty, stupid and dirty.... not words I really like using to be honest.

You usually totally awesome but yeah...

Yours sincerly,

Daughter in law]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 12:04:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283150&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283150 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283146&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283146 Author: KrazeeKaz
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 11:58am

Mine would be the opposite, it would be a letter to my mother. My DF's mother is absolutely awesome.
Melnel - mine would also be pages long, but here is a short version.

Dear mother,

He is my son, please do not intefer and try to tell me how to raise him. And when I say this is how I like it done, dont do the opposite as it ruins all the hard work I have done.

And I am not going to apologise for my 'attitude', I am doing the best that I can for my boy.

Your faithfully,
Your idiot daughter.]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 11:58:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283146&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283146 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283130&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283130 Author: mummyofprinces
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 11:37am

Oh mine would pages long... I love the woman and it all comes from a good place but my goodness sometimes i just want to slap her.

My biggest issue would remain:

Dear Mother-in-Law,

Please do not say to my children "oh you don't want your stink Mummy" when in fact they quite clearly DO want their "stink" mummy!

Regards
Your Daughter-in-Law]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 11:37:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283130&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283130 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283086&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283086 Author: _SMS_
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 10:40am

hila1 wrote: Ha ha, I wouldn't even know where to start with the letter to my MIL....

Arhhhhh neither. I could actually be writing all day

One thing from this week though.

Dearest Mother in Law

Dont tell my daughter that mummy is a meanie because i wont let her have a biscuit at 430pm right before dinner time

From your lovely Daughter in law

Edited by _SMS_]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 10:40:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283086&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283086 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283036&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283036 Author: newme
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 10:00am

Ha ha, I wouldn't even know where to start with the letter to my MIL....]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 10:00:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283036&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283036 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283032&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283032 Author: luvmylittlies
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 9:59am

hahahaha AzzaNZ. My MIL is pretty good and I love my boyfriend but I've definitely mumbled those words to myself at times!]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 09:59:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283032&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283032 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283029&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283029 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 9:54am

Aww that's funny AzzaNZ.

Accept I have a great MIL she doesn't do any of those things, she changes nappies and cleans the house for us when she's here.
I managed to live with my ILs for 4 months it was great.]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 09:54:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283029&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283029 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283019&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283019 Author: AzzaNZ
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 9:40am

Mrs_R, I would want to KILL her!]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 09:40:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283019&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283019 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283014&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283014 Author: Mrs_R
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 9:35am

Dearest Mother-In-Law,

It is not okay to:

• ask how my nipples are in nearly every conversation we have
• sneak my children vitamins when you think I'm not looking
• give me a disapproving look every time one of my children get sick (as if to say if you'd just give them said vitamins they'd never get sick)
• come to my house, busy yourself in my kitchen, and offer me drinks as if it were your house
• go into my bedroom and sort through my dirty washing (especially when the door is closed)

I know you're only trying to 'help', but you drive me NUTS!!! Please respect my privacy and stop interferring in matters that don't concern you. If I want your advice, I'll ask for it.

Respectfully,
Your Daughter-in-law

ETA: phew, nice to get that off my chest! Good thread idea Azza..

Edited by Mrs_R]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 09:35:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1283014&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1283014 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1282972&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1282972 Author: DinoMum
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 8:54am

AzzaNZ - I think I will be writing the exact same letter in the next 20 weeks. Definitely made me smile. ]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 08:54:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1282972&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1282972 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1282967&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1282967 Author: AzzaNZ
Subject: 38350
Posted: 11 March 2011 at 8:47am

Dear Mother-in-Law,

Please don't try to tell me how to raise my kids - I'm married to one of yours and believe me there's room for improvement!

Sincerely
Your Daughter-in-Law.]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2011 08:47:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38350&PID=1282967&title=a-letter-to-your-mil#1282967